How to Get Someone's Attention in a Club or in Public

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    Mar 29, 2009 7:58 PM GMT
    years of flirting under my belt do nothing when it comes to grabbing the guy's attention, at least initially.

    par example, last year I saw this guy, and someone mentioned to me he was gay (of course, they always areicon_smile.gif), anyway, one fine night this week, he happened to come into the club that I work at, and he casually started talking to me as we were both outside on the terrace. I then got my charm out and we actually went out on a couple of dates; but!!! it took a year for anything to happen.

    There has to be better ways, then being a creep and walking to someone and saying 'hey I think you are cute,' or 'what's your name?' I've done that a few times and although no one thought I was a creep, it also never developed into a conversation.

    ps... I'm also 5'8 and go for guys 5'11- 6'2.... meow.

    please tell me what works for you, if anything, or if you have a similar thing.


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    Mar 29, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    I'd recommend a good swift kick to the knee little one.. they are bound to look down at some point icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 29, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
    Moon the bar, always a good way to break the ice
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    Mar 29, 2009 9:00 PM GMT
    Hi my name is ______. The lift your shirt and show him u abs.
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    Mar 29, 2009 9:39 PM GMT
    Not to sure it is what you say, but that you talk and are not worried about rejection. Confidence or at least the impression of confidence is how to meet people. I tend to use a lot of humor when I first meet people because it is my personality. I don't have any opening lines when I meet new people, I just talk about something relevant to what is around me and then introduce myself. Yes the opening lines can be cheesy and barely lead to more than yes or no, hello,etc..
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    Mar 29, 2009 11:15 PM GMT
    Just go up to him and say, "Hey Babe, come here often?" OR "Hey man - what's your sign?"

    God NO! Don't ever say these things or you will be severely punished - up to and including having your gay card revoked!

    Just look good, be cleaned up, confident, good smile, good eye contact, and go forward . Go right up to the guy and say, "Hi! I'm Tom (or Mike or Joe or whatever your name is) and I just wanted to say hello!"

    If a guy has the balls to come up to me at a party or club - and he says those words - with confidence, eye contact - a certain brashness - I'm impressed and I'll talk to him. Just do it! Show some guts!
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    Mar 29, 2009 11:17 PM GMT
    bugger that.. its all to much hard work.. club'em over the head and drag there arse home and since the OP likes big boys keep a cart handy
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    Mar 29, 2009 11:23 PM GMT
    Get one of these LED belt buckles and insert the message of your choice.

    Then you'll be able to communicate your feelings AND get him to look at your crotch! icon_lol.gif

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  • DCEric

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    Mar 29, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidbugger that.. its all to much hard work.. club'em over the head and drag there arse home and since the OP likes big boys keep a cart handy


    lilTanker, are you currently dating, cuz that kind of turned me on.
  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 29, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    xrichx saidGet one of these LED belt buckles and insert the message of your choice.

    Then you'll be able to communicate your feelings AND get him to look at your crotch! icon_lol.gif

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    That's awesome. Does that buckle say "drink me?" A truly versatile accessory because you could always turn it around and type in "eat me."
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    Mar 29, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    wow thats some good advice guys.

    I wanted to ask people what there thoughts on groups are? Once and a while Ill see someone who is checking me out at a coffee shop or store, but he is in a group of like 4.

    Oh, I know he is gay cause it always happens in the castro, so thats not the issue, I just have no idea what to do when the dude is surrounded by his friends.
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    Mar 29, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    DCEric said
    lilTanker saidbugger that.. its all to much hard work.. club'em over the head and drag there arse home and since the OP likes big boys keep a cart handy


    lilTanker, are you currently dating, cuz that kind of turned me on.

    all free.. ;)
  • Webster666

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    Mar 29, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    Well, you could flap your little hand up and down and yell, "Oh, Mar--ry," from across the room !
    LOL.

    In this bar I used to got to, this really hot looking guy would stand on one side of the bar, watching me. And, I would stand on the other side of the bar watching him. We did that for at least a year. I know. Stupid. Finally, one night around closing time, I didn't leave early (like I usually did). And, he got the nerve to come over and say hello.

    We went home to my place, had great sex, tricked a few times after that and became good friends.

    I guess we're all afraid of rejection.
  • PRDGUY

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    Apr 05, 2009 1:45 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidWell, you could flap your little hand up and down and yell, "Oh, Mar--ry," from across the room !
    LOL.

    In this bar I used to got to, this really hot looking guy would stand on one side of the bar, watching me. And, I would stand on the other side of the bar watching him. We did that for at least a year. I know. Stupid. Finally, one night around closing time, I didn't leave early (like I usually did). And, he got the nerve to come over and say hello.

    We went home to my place, had great sex, tricked a few times after that and became good friends.

    I guess we're all afraid of rejection.



    exactly... esp the part i bolded and sized up!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 05, 2009 1:49 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said

    If a guy has the balls to come up to me at a party or club - and he says those words - with confidence, eye contact - a certain brashness - I'm impressed and I'll talk to him. Just do it! Show some guts!



    If I saw Gregg at a party or at a club, I'm confident he'd never forget the exchange.. and he'd talk to me.. he'd do a lot of talking...

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    Apr 05, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    Jockbod48 said

    If a guy has the balls to come up to me at a party or club - and he says those words - with confidence, eye contact - a certain brashness - I'm impressed and I'll talk to him. Just do it! Show some guts!



    If I saw Gregg at a party or at a club, I'm confident he'd never forget the exchange.. and he'd talk to me.. he'd do a lot of talking...

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    ......OK - I'm ready - - - - bring it on! Show me what you've got! Not afraid to come up to me? Brave huh? OK! I'll tell you what.............if Chris came up to me at a club or party - and I was single at that particular time - - - - I'll bet you a quid we'd head out..............and not separately. icon_cool.gif
  • Timbales

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    Apr 05, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    break the ice - chuck ice cubes at him