Well what the hell do I do now?!

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    Mar 30, 2009 6:11 AM GMT
    So this is funny to me and also confusing. So I came out almost three years ago ( to myself) two years ago ( to my family), and the whole time I was so obsessed with being in a relationship or having sex. I mean I rarely had either lol but I also wanted to be in a relationship, someone to share my love with ( hopeless romantic) but now for the first time in 3 F*&king years! I dont feel like I need either. I mean I dont have that overwhelming feeling of loneliness that I thought only a boyfriend could cure, and I dont feel like I need sex all the time like I used to. Now I feel like, well what the fuck am I supposed to do now because that was like my goal for the longest time, and it took up a lot of my brain time lol. Well what do I do now? haha
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 30, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    Read alot more!! Find out what truely makes you happy outside of sex or a b/f. Enjoy your freedom. I bet then you meet the right one, just realize you were happy alone for awhile and you will never fear being on your own again. Make sure you pick a guy who doesn't try to frig up all you have worked to become.

    Good Luck

    mike n vin
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    Mar 30, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    OMG.. welcome.. its called being over your self *nods* its called.. being you.. its called.. being confident in who you are.. its called.. who gives a shit I wanna live my life..

    one small word of advice, careful who you say this too.. you'll get looks like your a two headed cock monster set on removing every winky in sight..
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    Mar 30, 2009 6:33 AM GMT
    Congratulations!

    Things change...then they change again...life's a journey, take the ride the best you can.
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    Mar 30, 2009 6:35 AM GMT
    Ah yes...the age old question..."Now that I'm out what do I do?" Actually, that is a book title, by Brian McNaught. http://www.brian-mcnaught.com/books/nowthatimout.htm A good book...
    Be yourself...do what you like to do, get involved in things outside of yourself and participate and have fun! Put yourself in positions where you have a higher exposure to other like-minded gay men. In your part of CA...you should research the local gay resources and find your place, or start a place and invite others to join you. Make frinds first and well, as hard as it is, relax! The best relationships happen when you least expect or plan for them to. Just be open and flexible.
    As handsome and absolutely HUNKY as you are in your profile pics, you should have no problems attracting friends...you may even be a little intimidating to some! You are THAT GOOD LOOKING! Try picking up some classes in anything at a local college or become a model for an art class or something..just step outside of your box and put yourself out there! Nothing is as sexy and attractive as a guy willing to step past his fears and comfort levels in front of others, and has the confidence to ask for instructions or help in an awkward moment.....makes you human and approachable when you aren't the expert.....There are a million ways to skin a cat, one will even work for you! Until then...Come to Columbus, OH and I would love to show you the wonders of the midwest! LOL! icon_lol.gif

    Good luck and Take Care!
    Gary aka Sporty_G
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    Mar 30, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    Thanks you guys
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    Mar 30, 2009 9:41 PM GMT
    Now you go do what you want, whenever you want, however you want. Go do what makes you happy. Duh.

    Trust, me you'll get boys who see you as someone who enjoys life.
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    Mar 30, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidTrust, me you'll get boys who see you as someone who enjoys life.


    Straight ones, too! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 30, 2009 9:55 PM GMT
    BJJMMAFighter saidSo this is funny to me and also confusing. So I came out almost three years ago ( to myself) two years ago ( to my family), and the whole time I was so obsessed with being in a relationship or having sex. I mean I rarely had either lol but I also wanted to be in a relationship, someone to share my love with ( hopeless romantic) but now for the first time in 3 F*&king years! I dont feel like I need either. I mean I dont have that overwhelming feeling of loneliness that I thought only a boyfriend could cure, and I dont feel like I need sex all the time like I used to. Now I feel like, well what the fuck am I supposed to do now because that was like my goal for the longest time, and it took up a lot of my brain time lol. Well what do I do now? haha


    I know exactly what are you talking about ... you must not need a bofriend, but want it, decide to look for one .. be the god of your own life ..

    (oh and join the slut group I started lol .. icon_wink.gif )
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    Mar 30, 2009 9:57 PM GMT
    It's called low testosterone....get yourself checked!



    j/k

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  • Sk8Tex

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    Mar 30, 2009 9:58 PM GMT
    You dont do anything, sit back, relax and let it happen the way it is supposed to happen. When the timing is right and the right guy comes along it will just click into place. If you have to force anything in your life to happen, then my guess is, it wasnt meant to be.
  • ROYCE13

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    When you are looking you do not find it, it comes when your least expecting it. However, the person you now are, is the same person you should be if you are in a relationship. Too many people think the BF is the prize and the end all, that is why they do not have one or cannot hang on to a good one. No one wants to be the "happiness" for the other person, they want to be part of the happiness and life, not the focus of it. Be an independent person on your own and in a relationship. One should really only be lonely when they miss someone and not because they are single or by themselves.