hypothetically do u ever wish u were straight?

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:44 AM GMT
    I don't want drama and perhaps its the insomnia talking, but hypothetically speaking if there ever was a magic pill or a "cure" to become straight, would you go for it? before you answer, taking into account that some people only have one strike against them whereas others are discriminated on several levels.. i was thinking bout that movie X-Men the Last Stand. How Halle Barry's character is totally against finding a cure for "mutations", whereas someone like Anna Paquins character thrives on it (spending her entire life in complete lonliness doesnt sound too appealing and honestly NO ONE wants to be alone or die alone). Now I know Im gonna get some harsh statements so Im not lookng for drama but if u wanna be nasty, go right ahead. I wont put much thought into this. But gay people im my opinion always seemed liked fiction's vampires, or superheroes.. never truly accepted no matter what they do. I just think about what Im missing out, I know id be a good dad... and that sucks that I dont see how its fair for the kid to go thru the ridicule of others for something that is not in their control.. I feel depressed because in my opinion kids make life worth while and its our job to make our kids happy... it shouldnt be the other way around. Dunno if anyone feels the same or ever ponders what their life would've been like if they werent gay.

    id never want to have kids for trivial reasons ie-because everyone is doing it, or its my "god given right to procreate". i think most of the problems today stem from such selfish behaviour.
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    Mar 30, 2009 11:31 AM GMT
    i wished and prayed to be str8 in teenage. but indeed i never want that. because sexual idetity is about who you are. if i turned into str8, that person would be someonelse not me. in that case i would no longer exist. i dont want to end up my existance.
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    Mar 30, 2009 11:43 AM GMT

    ick, no! icon_mad.gif

    then i won't be speyshialicon_redface.gificon_sad.gificon_cry.gif
  • rnch

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    Mar 30, 2009 12:42 PM GMT
    after watching all the drama my str8 friends go thru just to have first time sex with their girl friends, and the emotionakl roller coaster many of these biatches put them thru....not NO but HELLLLL NOOOO would i "convert"(even if i could).

    perhaps living in one of the more gay friendly cities of our country slants my opinion?
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    Mar 30, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    I don't think I'd ever take a pill. But if prior to my death God advised me that in my next life I'd be straight, I don't think I'd mind.
  • junknemesis

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    Mar 30, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    I... I don't know.
    I think if I knew why I was gay then I would have a better answer. But I'll tell you what, I wouldn't pass up on this either way...

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    Cause even if I wasn't gay, I would still appreciate being held by my best friend.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Mar 30, 2009 2:57 PM GMT
    Honestly yes.

    I'm getting over that though and just dealing.

    One step at a time.

    I need a boyfriend though...
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    Mar 30, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    No, not ever, ever again. Been there, done that, infinitely happier being gay than I was when I really thought I was straight. The only wish I would want is that I had known I was gay from my youth, and had been in a situation back then where I could have lived openly, as many of us can today.
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    Mar 30, 2009 3:20 PM GMT
    No
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:07 PM GMT
    Fuck No !!
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    rnch saidafter watching all the drama my str8 friends go thru just to have first time sex with their girl friends, and the emotionakl roller coaster many of these biatches put them thru....not NO but HELLLLL NOOOO would i "convert"(even if i could).

    perhaps living in one of the more gay friendly cities of our country slants my opinion?


    I can assure you that drama and emotional roller coasters are just as prevelant in the gay world as it is in the straight. I'm going through it right now and frankly it's exhausting. I'd even argue that there is more drama in the gay world....at least from my prospective.
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    And yes, I prayed and prayed to be straight when I first realized my sexuality around 13 or so. My answer to you is split. No, because I really enjoy the company of guys. Yes, meaning that the bigotry and hate filled people in this world makes our lives very, very difficult to live...or can depending on what part of the country your from.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Mar 30, 2009 4:24 PM GMT
    Heck no....I enjoy penis too much. Dicks are for chick....LOL
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:32 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidHeck no....I enjoy penis too much. Dicks are for chick....LOL
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    Right: dicks are for chicks, cocks are for jocks icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:43 PM GMT
    If you had asked me this question 3 years ago, I would have said yes. I'm just now beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin at 21.

    It's funny, because I ask myself this question all the time. I've endured so much hardship trying to accept myself the past 7-8 years that it seems if I could be straight then it would have all been for nothing. I've come a long way, not sure if I want to redefine myself.
  • Rookz

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    Mar 30, 2009 4:56 PM GMT
    If I wished I was straight, I would deny myself the joy of being gay.

    I wouldn't be proud to stand underneath our rainbow flag which shows its many strengths of our community.

    I wouldn't develop a more uplifting attitude of being open-minded, knowing acceptance and developing tolerance.

    If I wished I was straight, I wouldn't be free from the emotional ups and down that women go through and talks of 'feelings', blah about talk shows, trivial fashion, etc. Stuff that makes me want to blow my brains away.

    I wouldn't enjoy my future wedding with my husband for it's OUR wedding. If I were straight, it would be HER wedding.
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    Mar 30, 2009 4:57 PM GMT
    As I've noted before, I consider myself a bit of a queer exceptionalist. I think that gay folk are given an opportunity that straight people are only now being given, and even that not to the extent that gay folk have; that is, our status as automatically deviant by the very fact of our sexuality gives us (or should give us) great insight into the artificiality that is all social structures and, if we're smart enough to accept it, the power and leeway to live our lives as we see fit, less confined by artificial norms. I, as a fag, am given a great degree of flexibility to do and act as I want, because my sexual deviancy already puts me in a position in which I can't meet society's demands no matter what.

    That, folks, is empowering and invigorating.

    I don't pretend that gay folk don't often end up creating their own norms, but I much prefer the flexibility inherent in those norms to the rigidity of the norms of so much of straight society. In addition, because being gay has given me the ability to perceive even the norms created in gay society and reject them if and when I feel like it. That perception is as strong as it is primarily because of my understanding of myself as already being outside the norm, and unable in any case to fit into it; so if I'm unable, why should I strive for it?

    So no, I would never, ever, ever choose to be straight if I could. I'll take any abuse that comes my way as a consequence of my queerness with a pleasure in the knowledge that it makes me stronger, more perceptive, and less constrained.
  • silverfox

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    Mar 30, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    I would only consider being straight if I would still be able to have sex with guys and find them hot as hell. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 30, 2009 5:24 PM GMT
    Until recently, I have been very uncomfortable with myself and would have denied being gay altogether. Growing up in a very reilgious and conservative family, I grew up praying that my feelings toward guys would change or end. It took a long time, but I finally am coming to terms with myself. I think it helped that I have my own apartment now and don't depend on my parents for anything.

    So.. I do not wish I was straight. I tried to be someone I was not for many years. That person was not the real me. I know I may loose my family when they find out but some of my new gay friends mean far more to me then them.
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    Mar 30, 2009 5:24 PM GMT
    I prayed and cried and begged for God to make me straight. Eventually I gave up on that, but I still wished I was straight when I was around family. Now I just say screw it and screw them too.
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    Mar 30, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    Things change when the way you look at them changes.
    How are you looking at yourself/your life/your life's situations? I wonder if this question has to do with race and not just sexual orientation. Even as a Caucasian living in Canada- I've faced racial discrimination on many occasions.

    Do I wish I was straight? Yes and No....but this question is so deep and complicated in a single sentence that a simple yes or no doesn't work.

    I went to proms and dances with girls. I dated a girl in high school and had girls chase after me. I wanted to be straight so I would be normal and fit in... the normal that is everyday "themselves" for other people...not for me. So when she would kiss me...all I wanted to do was get away but it made my parents happy to see her and I together. I wish I enjoyed it. I feel like I missed so many important "growing-up" things because I was gay....which really means....because the world wasn't prepared for me to be gay...it was only ready for another straight boy....
    I never got to go to prom with someone I wanted to go with or date and hold the hand of someone I liked. I could never tell anyone who I was and still have really close buddies who aren't ready to know my truth. The years of learning to be someone else and watch my every word, thought, and breath as to not give myself away...has taken its toll but made me stronger all the same..That's the stuff that makes me hurt and wish I was "straight" but then I realize without those hardships I wouldn't be the amazing guy I am. Then I'm glad I'm gay and I realize that its really just that I wanted to live in a world that accepted me and not who I was pretending to be. As far as children go...I believe that is personal and different for everyone. You probably would make a great dad and yet you're gay, but there are so many straight people that can have children who should NEVER be parents. I know straight people who are already parents and WOW they shouldn't be!! Those are the children that need someone, regardless of sexual orientation, to love and nurture them. Adoption is always an option... its one I think about. I even know straight people who wish they couldn't have kids! But in that last sentence it really says "I know selfish people who want to live a dangerous lifestyle and do not want the children that come from that type of life!" (and they call gay people an alternative lifestyle...arghhh)

    My advice for you! Accept who you are if haven't because change in society starts within ourselves so stop thinking about a pill- there isn't one and you cant become straight. ADOPT and Love that child more than you ever could!! Get a puppy to go with that child so they can grow up together! Be happy you are good looking and standing next to Ms.Sasha Fierce/BEOWULF/Queen B!! and Lastly, be glad you're not a selfish person and can recognize that behavior. All the best man.
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    YUCK,,
    who in there right mind wants to fuck a pussy?
    The smell..
    The mess..
    I hate it when females look at my crotch, i know it's big,,however it's for boys onlyicon_exclaim.gif
  • ShawnTX

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    NEVER!!!
  • MattyC0709

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    No... I'm happy the way I am. Sure, it's a hard life at times, and difficult to meet good guys... but in the end I learn throughtout my experiences and am satisfied with what I accomplish. icon_smile.gif

    Plus... there's this guy I just met last Saturday night, and I'm not giving him up! icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 30, 2009 10:47 PM GMT
    There was a time back when I was a sophomore and I really didn't understand why I was gay. But not going to lie, guys are just way more fun with sex than girls are icon_smile.gif