First date with someone.....what do you do?

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    Mar 30, 2009 10:52 PM GMT
    Dinner, a movie or two, cuddle time..that's what I normally do for a date. I like to have a romantic start; makes thing solid and lets the guy know that I know how to make him feel comfortable around me. Anyone do something different for a first date? I'm open to suggestions icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 31, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    I avoid dinner/movie first dates. Because really, do you want to invite someone to watch you shovel food in your mouth then sit in a dark room with 300 other strangers who will yell at you if you talk? Also, it's uncreative.

    I like activity-oriented first dates. Bowling, hiking, etc. It gives you ample talk-time and you have the bond-strengthening satisfaction of completing an activity with someone.

    A perfect second date is a movie at home, cuddled up, with liberal portions of make-out.
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    Mar 31, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    If I still lived in NYC, I'd do something cultural like go to a museum or something. Or, one of those historical walking tours would be fun if it was during the day on a weekend.
  • styrgan

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    Mar 31, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    Coffee...

    It makes for good conversations, unlike the movies or some other first date ideas...

    There's no alcohol involved. So you get to know the real person.

    Best of all... If it goes south, you can get out of there quick without it being awkward.
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    Mar 31, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
    rezdylan saidI avoid dinner/movie first dates. Because really, do you want to invite someone to watch you shovel food in your mouth then sit in a dark room with 300 other strangers who will yell at you if you talk? Also, it's uncreative.

    I like activity-oriented first dates. Bowling, hiking, etc. It gives you ample talk-time and you have the bond-strengthening satisfaction of completing an activity with someone.

    A perfect second date is a movie at home, cuddled up, with liberal portions of make-out.
    I think this is great, great advice. An activity is great, during the day, time to talk, take the pressure off.
    It's good to simply approach it as friends and see what develops. It might be best to de-emphasize the romantic aspect.
    That way, you're really approaching him as a friend first and no matter what happens, good or bad, you'll always have that.
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    Mar 31, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    I have no problem with cliches, as life is a long series of cliches. I like to meet someplace where we can walk and converse. If I think the date will go well something out doors is great. If I think it will go poorly I will take them to a gallery so we have something to talk about.

    The symbolic act of breaking bread together is important in a date, so food or coffee is a must for me.

    Oh, and at some point I knock them over the head and tie them up in my basement.
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    Mar 31, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    Try going for a good hike (up a mountain for instance) for a few hours - and then sit at the top and talk. Or - go running together - or play tennis, racquet ball - even make your first date a weight lifting date. Then - grab a shower and change clothes - and go for dinner someplace nice - maybe a sidewalk cafe - just as the sun goes down. Have a glass of wine with some good cheese and grapes as you wait for dinner. Talk to each other - which you can't do at the movies - so avoid those. After dinner - go for a stroll together - and talk some more. That is a good date.
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    Mar 31, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    Not sure how much you can take away from this, but...

    The best first date I ever had was with the guy I am currently seeing. I thought it was going to be a lot of fun because he asked me if I wanted to go to a soccer game...that was before I realized he was PLAYING in it haha. So I was really not sure what was going to happen and almost didn't go. But when I arrived at the game, he ran over to the sideline and told me he was going to win for me -- and, of course, they won haha. After the game he came over and we sat at the top of the bleachers overlooking the field, with the lake behind it. Then he brought me onto the empty field after everyone else had left, showed me some of his moves and we played one-on-one. It was super competitive but we both had a lot of fun. Then we ended up sitting on the rocks by Lake Michigan in the moonlight. Best date ever.
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    Mar 31, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    Listen to them talk about their ex. That's what happens on all first dates, right? I dunno. I don't do this often.
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 31, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    Last week i suggested a photo gallery then cocktails at a 5 star restaurant, it was really fun..Then again another date and i went to the gym then out for hot wings afterwards..
    It depends on the guy..Ask questions,,see where his head is if your really interested in him ,but if it's just a hook up[sex], then dont bother putting forth the effort..
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    Mar 31, 2009 3:45 AM GMT
    Great Suggestions everyone. Unfortunately, I have very little money in my pockets. Since I'm living at home till I go back to college in the fall, I can only do so much on a date. I'll admit I'm a very romantic guy. Next time I ask a guy out on a date, I'll do my best to make sure we both have a great time together. I might be broke, but I'll literally bust my ass to show that I'm worth the time to get to know. Thanks again guys. Any further advice would be appreciated icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 31, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
    Hike in a park is a great first date, especially if you both have dogs.
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    Mar 31, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    I'm such a non-traditionalist. The last date I went on I took the guy hiking up the mountain that I live at the base of. I really like to get to know people outside of the more "formal" rhelm. For instance there is this really cool area around where I live called Tempe Town Marketplace and they do what is called Third Thursdays where they have local bands and cool resteraunts and coffee shops. Places like that are really cool because it shows that you put effort into your date. Cool and interesting ideas like that are really cool and total winners in my book.
  • Enderby

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    Mar 31, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    When I met my boyfriend, we went off roading in his Jeep. Towards the end of the day (after we had a nice lunch in the trees), we saw a GIANT mud pit. I dared him to try to ford it. We both forgot to roll up the windows and got COVERED in mud. Halfway down the road home, we had to stop and dig mud out from under it.

    I guess I learned that we were great together then. Anyone can do a movie! I say something unusual that shows off what you love (and thus a part of you they will like too).
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    Mar 31, 2009 6:47 AM GMT
    it would have to be something that gets both people involved so that there will never be an awkward silence (since you are doing a task) i think dinner would be ok if you both were preparing it, or a walk in the city, or something else with purpose to it
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    Mar 31, 2009 7:21 AM GMT
    i like places like gameworks/dave and busters. Makes it active and it's tough to have awkward moments. Plus what's better than to see how competitve your new interest is...with a beer in hand icon_biggrin.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 31, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    Picnic's are always great along a water front..
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    Why is this in the sex section?

    Is it because you really wanted something kinky like this:

    Take you in the desert and fuck your brains out??

    LOL

    I think most guys would dare not admit to that...even if that's what they really wanted.


    But really, I am KING of the Grill and can cook up some awesome food. I would feed you, take you for a drive in my hot rod..see the stunning desert sunset and make out at the top of the mountain!
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
    samerphx saidI like to buy drink and walk around in the outdoor mall.

    Somewhere very elegant or rich place like this
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    North Phoenix (Desert Ridge Mall)


    Oh yeah...love this place too...NICE and I really like it open.
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
    I'm usually too stunned I'm on a date to care what we do.
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
    Tallwithgunz09 saidDinner, a movie or two, cuddle time..that's what I normally do for a date. I like to have a romantic start; makes thing solid and lets the guy know that I know how to make him feel comfortable around me. Anyone do something different for a first date? I'm open to suggestions icon_smile.gif


    Coffee. I feel that artificial intimacy with a stranger is an error.
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 01, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    chuckystud said
    Tallwithgunz09 saidDinner, a movie or two, cuddle time..that's what I normally do for a date. I like to have a romantic start; makes thing solid and lets the guy know that I know how to make him feel comfortable around me. Anyone do something different for a first date? I'm open to suggestions icon_smile.gif


    Coffee. I feel that artificial intimacy with a stranger is an error.

    But you told me that you loved me!
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:52 PM GMT
    LibidoExspurt saidWhy is this in the sex section?

    Is it because you really wanted something kinky like this:

    Take you in the desert and fuck your brains out??

    LOL

    I think most guys would dare not admit to that...even if that's what they really wanted.


    But really, I am KING of the Grill and can cook up some awesome food. I would feed you, take you for a drive in my hot rod..see the stunning desert sunset and make out at the top of the mountain!


    Yeeeaahhhh...about that. I didn't mean to do that. I was gonna post a different topic, but I changed my mind at the last second. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:55 PM GMT

    Order something spicy... like Thai or Indian... to get a preview of how he looks like drenched in sweat... hahahhaha!
  • DanielQQ

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    Apr 01, 2009 7:03 PM GMT
    personally, i like having maragaritas on a sunny patio, with chips and salsa icon_smile.gif