Serious Sex, An Emotional Connection

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    Mar 31, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
    Have any of you rjers heard of this?

    It's sex where both people stare into eachother's eyes the whole time without making a sound, and stifling facial expressions. There is no kissing. There is no afterward talking, just cuddling and sleep. It's serious fucking, your face has to be like stone and you cannot break eye contact. What do you guys think of this? It's supposed to be a soul connection, hypnotic in a way.
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    Mar 31, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    that sounds like the most boring fuck I've ever heard in my entire life.. I can't make any facial expressions, I can't look away, I can't make a sound.. WTF am I suppose to do when he hits the spot, stare him down to make him do that again..





    No.. I've never had sex that didn't at least involve noises.
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    Mar 31, 2009 9:25 PM GMT
    It sounds like awkward tantric sex. And I know the whole time I would be thinking "DOESHETHINKIAMUGLY, DOESHETHINKIAMUGLY".
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    Mar 31, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    It happened to me once, with a B-list Hollywood celeb visiting Dubai incognito. All the while he was penetrating me, I felt I was just recording the moment in my head from start to finish, wishing it never ends and most of all, repeatedly saying in my head "Why me?" His only communication to my being is his grip --and mine: my dilation.

    Well, I'm sure I blinked as much as I'm sure as I was conscious of my breathing. You get my drift...

    Emotional connection? Not really. Just an unexpected fantasy unfolding in your reality, that's what it is ..to me.
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    Mar 31, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    I'm with LT on this one. I want to hear him moan, I want to see the expression on his face, I want to make sure he knows that what he's doing at that particular moment is turning me on. F*&% looking into one another's eyes.

    Although I do have to say if looking into one another's eyes involves the moaning and facial expressions, I'm all for it!
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:11 AM GMT
    isn't this how mormons have sex??
    just wondering
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:14 AM GMT
    If the guy you are fucking is stoney faced you are doing it wrong.
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:24 AM GMT
    More oxytocin is released during sex when both partners have their eyes open and are looking at each other. Regardless of moaning or voices, it really is one of the most intimate connections you can have.

    I totally disagree about the stoney face. That kind of walling off limits the amount of openness and vulnerability.
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    BradySF saidMore oxytocin is released during sex when both partners have their eyes open and are looking at each other. Regardless of moaning or voices, it really is one of the most intimate connections you can have.

    I totally disagree about the stoney face. That kind of walling off limits the amount of openness and vulnerability.


    The reason for holding in your emotions and expressions is because it is supposed to cause them to well up so much that it's like nirvana and not madonna



    I'm still a virgin but I have to admit this serious sex sounds weird. It's just another way of telling the person you love most that you care about them without cumming on their face.
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:36 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidthat sounds like the most boring fuck I've ever heard in my entire life.. I can't make any facial expressions, I can't look away, I can't make a sound.. WTF am I suppose to do when he hits the spot, stare him down to make him do that again..





    No.. I've never had sex that didn't at least involve noises.


    I agree...boring. Sex without kissing and noise - maybe the occasional dog collar icon_wink.gif - sounds absolutely awful!

    If a person I dated wanted to do this, I'd tell him to go "serious" fuck himself!
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    Well, I would only see this as being meaningful if each person really thought looking into another guys eyes was the 'ultimate' exposure' of one's soul, like there was no way to be fake or dishonest if you are looking into eachother's eyes and just concentrating on the exposure of one's soul to the other person. This could create feelings of intimacy and bonding.

    The idea also is that all the talking and facial expressions, moaning etc are things in our control and we do them to tap into sexual lower brain functions of our own mind and the mind of our partner. By conscientiously suppressing them, you show that you are doing the sex on a higher mental level and not letting the lower brain seize the moment.

    But it's less sex and more a psychological exercise. Really, why do you need to have sex while doing the staring? Why not just sit on the floor facing eachother, hold hands and look into each others eyes?

    Sounds like a wood killer to me. Maybe if you have trouble with lasting this would be better than thinking of dead kittens. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 01, 2009 12:43 AM GMT
    Miasma said

    The reason for holding in your emotions and expressions is because it is supposed to cause them to well up so much that it's like nirvana and not madonna.


    Kundalini techniques that build up sexual energy reserves without climax are similar, yet even those that I know of do not require stoney faces. I'll dust off those Sanskrit texts and see what I uncover...
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    Apr 01, 2009 1:02 AM GMT

    That sounds like that game we played as kids were you and the other person stare one another down until one of you breaks down laughing.

    I have tried this in a sexual context, but the rules are a bit different: first person to squeeze his eyes shut, loses. I always lose. Ofcourse, planting a wet one on the other guy will result in a loss as well. icon_razz.gif

    HaHa, I only ever did that when I was in a serious relationship, I couldn't imagine this way of doing it having applications elsewhere. If with a trick, you can just come out and tell him he's biting. However, this game seems familiar and not just from what I said before. Me and my closeted friends used to play this game all the time back when I was in the closet. We'd STARE eachother down in class, from across the room, and ofcourse from across the table for the purpose of saying all those things we were afraid to say. I remember, me and the president of the Student Republicans checked into a hotel room once and that's all we did, stripped down to our bare essentials and stared at eachother all night. icon_redface.gif

    We never did seal the deal, Kyle, if yer lurking around here pictureless, call me, hon that number I gave you is still active.


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    Apr 01, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    The part about no afterwards talking could be nice...I might try it once icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:29 AM GMT
    Wow, I just... could not do that.
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:34 AM GMT
    A guy moaning and making noise as I &%$# him is a major part of what gets me off. If I can't get some kind of feedback on that, I am going to loose interest. Kissing is rather important stimulus to. I have had sex with no kissing, and I feel distant and removed.
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
    I fucked w/ a guy once who up front told me he didnt want to hear any sound from either of us. Just have sex, eyes open/close didnt matter, just letting it by what it was. It was good and hot, after sex we cuddled and in the morning I left. It was fun, but I do enjoy verbal sounds when w/ my sex partner.
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    Who has time for that shit, I wish some MF would ask me to stare into his eyes all night..shoo..When it's time to fuck....It's time to fuck...Period.icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 01, 2009 3:48 AM GMT

    However, it is hot when sex starts out normal: with trashtalking/moaning and groaning and then over the course of the sex evolves into this sorta silent exchange with the intense expressions and the slapping of man parts the only sound.

    Equally hot is when a guy is for some strange reason trying to be quiet and then you lick/poke/thrust and a squeal or low hollar escapes. In the absence of talking, heavy breathing is very sexual too.


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    Apr 01, 2009 4:06 AM GMT
    This thread is getting kinda hot.
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    Apr 01, 2009 4:52 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidEqually hot is when a guy is for some strange reason trying to be quiet and then you lick/poke/thrust and a squeal or low hollar escapes. In the absence of talking, heavy breathing is very sexual too.


    See now I"m al for this right here.. if you end up silent naturally, because it feels right and this sorta stuff happens.. thats just fucking HAWT as!