So, this is probably one of the worst weeks I can remember in a long time.

  • Timbales

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    Apr 01, 2009 12:47 PM GMT
    I spent last weekend at my in-laws. My partner's parents are 80 and are finally ready to move into an assisted living community to be closer to their only grandchild. His mom is being stubborn about the move even though she wants to go and doesn't want to change a thing in the house to get it ready for sale.

    My team lost the volleyball championships last night, the captain of the other team was being a total asshole the whole night.

    Tomorrow evening I'll be putting my 13.5 year old dog to sleep. She's shutting down and can't stay on her feet for more than a few minutes. She's not eating and her seizures aren't being controlled by medications anymore.

    My car has it's second bad tire in 15,000 miles and is in the shop to be replaced.

    Like that website, fuck my life.
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    Apr 01, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    When life hands you shit, make shit-ade. It doesn't taste as good as lemonade, but it at least gets rid of the shit.

    Sorry life wasn't as kind to you this week as you deserve. But look on the bright side. Perhaps now your partner can spend more time with his parents while getting the house ready. So you didn't take home the championship, but you came in second and that is pretty damn good. When a pet dies, you lose a member of the family. But that always means PUPPY! And the tire... well, the tire just fucking sucks and there isn't any bright side to that.

    Hang in there.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 01, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    Thanks, MZ. Once this week is behind me, things will be better.

    Not going the new pet route, though. We've talked about it, and we both agree we need time and we don't want to be tied down again for awhile.

    Volleyball being over means warmer weather is here and I'll be able to try running outdoors. It also means I can focus more on my work-outs and my Tuesdays are free, no more worrying about what I do on Monday affecting my game the next night.
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:27 PM GMT
    Sorry that you are having such a tough week.

    I had to put my dog (Duke) down after 13 years. It's a hard thing to do.
  • Rookz

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    Apr 01, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    Please know that it does cycle into the good once you're through this rough times. But it's also a mental state that try to appreciate what you have in your life. I know that's hard but try or you'll be in a rotten state of mind.

    It's tough times right now, but you know you've gotten through other bad moments of your life; you can get through this one as well.
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    Apr 01, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    Doesn't it seem like when the world is crashing down in one place it's happening all over you! I'm sorry you're having a tough week. Hang in there, I've found that once you're through some of it, things tend to look better. Very sorry about your dog, that must be very difficult.

    We're all here for you! Peace.
  • junknemesis

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    Apr 01, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    Hi, Tim. I too know what it's like to have a terrible week/month/year. I've gone through loosing family members too.

    *HUG* Wish I could send some good vibes and make things a bit better for you.

    My brother crashed the car (with me in it) right after my parents put on 4 brand new tires. Twice.
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    Apr 01, 2009 3:02 PM GMT
    Tim- You are strong, resilient and intelligent. The sun will come up tomorrow! We have all had our bad karma periods. You will get through it all!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 01, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about the difficulties. I can imagine it is very hard, especially the family related issues with your inlaws and your dog.
    I'm very sorry to hear that.

    We are all challenged at various points in life. My last major challenge was in 2004. I would encourage you to remember the good things associated with your family and events you mentioned, special things with each that have helped you over time... your 13.5 year old dog goes without saying! ... and how much you have grown as a result (ok well the car tire might be an exception...LOL).

    Your a solid guy, remember that, you'll be fine. Just remember we all have issues like this, its not just you. Hang in there!
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    Apr 01, 2009 3:54 PM GMT
    remember in the winter lies beneath the bitter snows, lies the seed that with the suns love in the spring beeeccoommmesss the rooooooooose

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    Apr 01, 2009 4:29 PM GMT
    Hey buddy, at least you and L are all right. Ya got each other and I'm happy for ya.
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    Apr 01, 2009 6:29 PM GMT
    Hi Tim,

    Sorry to hear you're having a bad week. Hopefully you realize you will see your dog again someday...........I believe they wait at the gates of Heaven for us - wagging their tails - and then we get to be together with all our departed pets for eternity. Hope that helps. (My fawn colored chow - pictured - is fourteen so each week could be her last - and I'm enjoying her last period of time with me before she needs to say goodbye).

    Hopefully everything else will fall into shape as well as possible over time. You're a great guy - everybody knows it - and we're all pulling for you!

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    Apr 01, 2009 6:36 PM GMT
    Awww....that really sucks about your dog, Timberoo. My pets are more my family to me than my actual family, so I can only imagine how shattering this would be.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 01, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    thanks guys, I really appreciate it. I just needed to vent. Side effect of being raised 'just deal with it, we all have problems."
  • Webster666

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    Apr 01, 2009 8:14 PM GMT
    The solution concerning your parents is to get them settled in the assisted living facility, then wait a couple months before you do anything to the house. That will give them time to get adjusted to their new surroundings, make new friends, and get used to thinking of the new place as their home.
    If the facility is such that your parents can have some of their favorite pieces of furniture, art work, etc., from their houe, by all means see that that happens.

    The death of a beloved pet is a traumatic experience, sometimes worse than losing a human family member. Talk to others who have been through this. They can help.

    As for your car tires, you'll save money in the long run by buying the best.

    As for the volley ball game, somebody's gotta win, somebody's gotta lose. Enjoy the game.


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    Apr 01, 2009 8:18 PM GMT
    Well.. I can't do this in person.. but if I could, I totally would

    *Cuddles his lil timberoony*

    sometimes life is shit... and its just shit.. but it gets better eventually..
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    Apr 01, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    I've got this little thing that I've learned to do lately. When it gets so bad . . . and I think I can't go on . . . I try to make it worse . . . And when I'm certain that I can't stand it . . . I go one moment more. And then I know I can bear anything.
    -Karen Blixen

    Spend tomorrow with your little girl.
    Then take some quiet time to reflect....have a beer. Just sit.
    I let myself wallow-in as deeply as I need to...the "one moment more".

    After that you need a distraction.
    Trip? Something...