Okay ... this may sound odd ...

  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 25, 2007 3:51 PM GMT
    However ... did working out and becoming physically fit help or hinder your sex life?
  • jc_online

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    Oct 25, 2007 4:20 PM GMT
    I find that I feel more sexual when I work out regularly. I also look better, so my appeal to others increases as well. Fit-n-horny attracts fit-n-horny, right?
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    Oct 25, 2007 4:22 PM GMT
    jc said it the way it is for me. I feel more sexual.
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    Oct 25, 2007 4:30 PM GMT
    It's helped... and it's hindered...

    Helped physically, the studies are out there. HOWEVER there are now times when i am too tired ha ha ha ha
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 25, 2007 4:31 PM GMT
    I got laid more when I was chunky than I do now. I'm in the best shape of my life and I can't get laid to save my soul.

    Maybe it's because I live in Minneapolis, but I don't know.

    It is not fun.
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    Oct 25, 2007 4:33 PM GMT
    Hmmm - good question.

    I think it helps.

    I think that I am more easily sexually aroused when I am fit.

    I think that when I have been really sick or recuperating I have not been as sexual.

    I think people are more sensual when they are fit (not quite the same thing).

    I have often worked out hard to... displace... sexual tension. (again not quite the same thing).

    On the other hand I have often been seriously aroused by a very exhaustive workout or performance (also not quite the same thing).

    R

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    Oct 25, 2007 5:33 PM GMT
    Well, I have more energy and a higher sex drive than before I starting working out but I get approached less now. When I'm dating someone, it makes for great sex. On a more casual level, it may have been a hinderance. I think lots of guys, myself very much included, find it harder to approach a really buff guy versus a guy with an average body. It may sound silly and superficial but I don't think you can discount the intimidation factor when dealing with the fragile male ego icon_smile.gif I know it's prevented me from meeting some guys I should have had the balls to introduce myself to. It probably shouldn't matter a damn bit either way but it's hard to say it doesn't.
  • ang2serra

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    Oct 25, 2007 7:30 PM GMT
    Not sure if it has changed the frequency of sex for me but is sure has changed my stamina in the sack! I was a one-shot-then-sleep kinda guy before I worked out. Now my partner is lucky to escape the bed before 3 rounds.
    I sure do love being in shape..
  • Sayrnas

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    Oct 25, 2007 8:50 PM GMT
    I agree with bwg. I, myself, find it's very difficult to approach a buff or muscular guy then a average joe shaped guy.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 25, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    Well I've been exercising for years, but I think it helps your self esteem, confidence and thus your sexual energy. I think it certainly be aid to you sex life. Depends on what you want. I'm surprised, S Dak Guy you have any issues at all, in Minneapolis or anywhere else....
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    Oct 25, 2007 9:22 PM GMT
    Gotta go back to my earlier years to answer this...

    Before my first year of college, when I lost 110 pounds and got fit for the very first time (10% bodyfat), I was invisible to other guys. Getting a conversation out of them was hard enough... getting laid was impossible. After I lost the weight I was suddenly the most popular guy on the block... everyone wanted to be my friend and most of them were trying to get me in bed.

    Flash forward to now... almost two weeks into my new workout/nutrition plan, currently at 38% bodyfat... I'm 20+ years older, my sex drive is much higher, and I still get cruised... a lot. We'll see what happens when I get back into shape... but I think the reason I still get cruised is because of my self-confidence, moreso than my physical appearance. When I was fat before, I had very low self-esteem... and as I lost the weight, my self-esteem increased tremendously. I haven't lost that, and I think that plays a very big part in how others see you. Also, I ran into a guy a few weeks back that I knew back when I was in shape, and he told me he had a huge crush on me back then, but he was intimidated because I was so fit. What he didn't know was that at the time, I thought he was the sexiest guy I'd ever seen... go figure! icon_rolleyes.gif

    Just my take on it...
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    Oct 25, 2007 9:59 PM GMT
    Well, I have been getting into significantly better shape in the last couple of years, but it's made no difference in dating, really. Of the five known gay guys within 50 miles, the three trolls are still hitting on me and the two hot guys are still ignoring me. (I am still apparently invisible to women.) Everyone in the city is still too far away. Not that I spend much time socializing in the first place.

    This reminds me of the time, a few years back, that I was driving through Malibu, and stopped at the beach. There was a guy in the parking lot, leaning on his corvette and flexing his pecs at everyone who went past. "Weird," I thought, "Does that really work?" Apparently not. He was still at it two hours later, when I left.

    I dunno... maybe it was supposed to be ironic performance art.
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    Oct 25, 2007 9:59 PM GMT
    SoDakGuyI can't get laid to save my soul. Maybe it's because I live in Minneapolis, but I don't know.


    Oy. Luv, I did college in Fargo. Minneapolis was a veritable hotbed of homosexual activity.

    Of course, this was at a point in my life when I didn't mind humping up against coked-out circuit bois and their attendant carnie-trolls.

    On topic - I replaced Prozac with the gym and have ever since walked around with a flopping, rubbery semi. There aren't enough hours in the day.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 26, 2007 2:44 PM GMT
    I think also part of the reason is that I made a connection on many different levels with two guys and the sex was just incredible with both of them.

    I believe I'm wanting a little more than just a hook up, even though those are FUN! But ... I don't know ...
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    Oct 26, 2007 3:16 PM GMT
    For me, it's been neither here nor there, but that's my own fault. I'm a bit introverted, so I'm not really putting myself out there. I've gone on a date here and there, but nothing more that that (and they were just dates - not hook-ups). Plus, I realize that I'm not very approachable - I come across as a bit stand-off-ish. Just like my photos on here - I'm hardly smiling in any of them, when in actuality, I'm a goofy, big-hearted, nerdy dork...you'd never get that from the way I look, LOL! So...I'm working on all of it. I have too...I have the sex drive of a 17 year old in a porn shop, icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 26, 2007 4:01 PM GMT
    Yep, SoDak - I think you're looking for a good connection, not just getting off... PLUS... it may be that some guys are looking at you and figuring you're out of their league, so they don't even give it a shot.

    When I met online the man who would (1 1/2 years later) become my partner - the love of my life - I almost fucked it up because I couldn't understand why anyone so amazing looking would be talking to me....

    It got to the point that he asked me if I was trying to get rid of him, so I explained. He told me I was an idiot. ;)

    I guess I am, where he's concerned. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

    J.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 30, 2007 4:54 PM GMT
    You are right. Even though I would just LOVE to hook up and have a good time, I like having a connection w/ someone.