Why Do we always fall for the wrong guys and why are the perfect ones that actually digus living so far away (like on a different continent)?

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    Apr 03, 2009 7:17 AM GMT
    Maybe its my fault. maybe i am too shallow. i always go after the hot looking guys but then i always end up disappointed cause either they are taken or they are definatley not feeling me. WTF!
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    Apr 03, 2009 7:31 AM GMT

    Start saving. Eyither you bring yourself to where thye are/he is or bring them/him to you. Goodluck...... xxxxx
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    Apr 03, 2009 7:33 AM GMT
    ...and chnage your RJ handel...... so you cpuld stop feeling sasori about yuourself.

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    Apr 03, 2009 7:37 AM GMT
    ZiMsTeR said...and chnage your RJ handel...... so you cpuld stop feeling sasori about yuourself.

    ha ha sorry i couldn't help it. icon_razz.gif


    Sasori is Scorpion in japanese and my favorite character from naruto. i relate to him. I am a scorpio! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 03, 2009 7:42 AM GMT

    no wonder i thought i knows you from somewhere......

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    Apr 03, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
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    Apr 03, 2009 8:51 AM GMT
    That is so true...The one you want is always so far away.

    Usually because both are far, it doesnt work out. The distance brings both to suspect each other even if nothing is going on. You just have to make sure that person far away is truly what you want. Hell once you meet, whats say you dont dig him. But if you have a great phone relationship and kjnow what he looks like, it shouldnt be too different lol.

    usually it doesnt work...One always strays.
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    Apr 03, 2009 9:41 AM GMT
    the only reason they seem perfect is because they are far away, you get an incomplete picture where you are left to fill in the blanks and being only human, you believe the best in that person or, should I say, what you believe is best in that person, so you gloss over the fact that he is imperfect and fill in them parts of him with all the good things you want him to have...

    Put him around the block where you get to interact with him on an emotional level face to face and you'll soon find he isn't what you thought...

    Thats why you always find guys who are so good so far away
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    Apr 03, 2009 12:39 PM GMT
    Not true. You realize this when you meet happy gay couples. You would be surprised how many successful gay couples are out there.
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    Apr 03, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    Sasori saidMaybe its my fault. maybe i am too shallow. i always go after the hot looking guys but then i always end up disappointed cause either they are taken or they are definatley not feeling me. WTF!


    Of course it's your fault. The good thing is that you recognise this and can go about changing it. icon_razz.gificon_biggrin.gif

    But in all seriousness, perhaps you need to expand your horizons a bit. I'm sure there must be just as hot guys in your town, they may not exactly look like what you currently think hot is, but I'm sure they are hot none the less.

    I'm often amused by how restrictive the criteria some gay guys use. Only interested in red heads or blonds or cut or uc or you must be a gym bunny or not or you must be a chub or a bear or whatever the current animal designation is en vogueicon_exclaim.gif hairy or not...And the list goes on and on and on. And don't get me started on the ethnic exclusionsicon_exclaim.gif In the mean time they are heading towards their 6th decade of existence, have never had a substantial relationship and bemoan their lack of someone in their life...
    Not realising that the guy who did not look exactly like them who they met 20 years earlier could have very well been "their soul mate"

    Ah well such are the foibles of humanity
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    Apr 03, 2009 2:37 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidthe only reason they seem perfect is because they are far away, you get an incomplete picture where you are left to fill in the blanks and being only human, you believe the best in that person or, should I say, what you believe is best in that person, so you gloss over the fact that he is imperfect and fill in them parts of him with all the good things you want him to have...

    Put him around the block where you get to interact with him on an emotional level face to face and you'll soon find he isn't what you thought...

    Thats why you always find guys who are so good so far away


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    Apr 03, 2009 4:49 PM GMT
    Sasori saidMaybe its my fault. maybe i am too shallow. i always go after the hot looking guys but then i always end up disappointed cause either they are taken or they are definatley not feeling me. WTF!


    Here's the short version: get a local life. You cannot see things clearly at a distance. It's a no-brainer sort of thing.
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    Apr 03, 2009 4:56 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidsmith1mdwbyrc.jpg


    Man, that is some mighty green grass. But I don't understand what you are getting at with this photo. Could you please try to be more transparent in your posts? I get too lost in the imagery.
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    Apr 03, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    I live far from many on this site - which is sort of why I like it. I travel much for work and meet the people who seem so great from a distance. While there are definitely some AMAZING people everywhere, I learned long ago that a lot of the time I'm projecting on to them their amazing-ness. It's all in my head.

    Why waste time with a fantasy, real life is so much more fun!
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    Apr 03, 2009 5:49 PM GMT
    Because you overromanticize looks and distance, and like other people have said you aren't seeing the big picture. Just because it's practically in your back yard and falls short of perfect doesn't mean it isn't worth investigating.
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    Apr 03, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    Zimvestigate then zimvest. That's the way to go. Australia 2011!!! ...where the grass is uncut and have some brown tips!!!
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    Insha'allah!!!
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    Apr 03, 2009 7:11 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidthe only reason they seem perfect is because they are far away, you get an incomplete picture where you are left to fill in the blanks and being only human, you believe the best in that person or, should I say, what you believe is best in that person, so you gloss over the fact that he is imperfect and fill in them parts of him with all the good things you want him to have...

    Put him around the block where you get to interact with him on an emotional level face to face and you'll soon find he isn't what you thought...

    Thats why you always find guys who are so good so far away


    Yar.

    Critical thought is sexy.

    Why do you have to live so far away???
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    Apr 03, 2009 8:25 PM GMT
    UncleverName said
    lilTanker saidsmith1mdwbyrc.jpg


    Man, that is some mighty green grass. But I don't understand what you are getting at with this photo. Could you please try to be more transparent in your posts? I get too lost in the imagery.

    *smakes Unclever across the face with his limp cock*

    Grass is always greener girl..