"In a relationship at the moment"

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    Oct 26, 2007 10:21 AM GMT
    I noticed this phrase in someone's profile, and thought it comment-worthy. Surely it implies that the relationship status is transitory and therefore that the person will be available in due course should they find you interesting? I don't think it's a very nice sentiment.

    Thoughts, gentlemen?
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    Oct 26, 2007 3:27 PM GMT
    I agree. That statement doesn't really sit well with me. Then again, I'm a relationship-oriented kind of guy. Not all guys are, and that's fine - everyone is different.
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    Oct 26, 2007 4:18 PM GMT
    Serial monogamy seems to be the dominant social custom these days. Many people are willing to "trade-up" at the first good opportunity. But what do I know, I've been driving the same car for 17 years.
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    Oct 26, 2007 4:48 PM GMT
    "I'm in a realtionship at the moment"! Well the moment and the relationship, may very well be a thing of the past if the bf sees the profile.

    WOW! That is a very powerful and telling statement!

    I wonder if the bf knows that he is "transitional man"?
  • Laurence

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    Oct 26, 2007 4:51 PM GMT
    Well I always introduce my boyfriend as my 'current' boyfriend. I find this keep him on his toes.

    Lozx
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    Oct 26, 2007 5:25 PM GMT
    It can also be a very polite way of telling someone and members . . .Fu** Off! I will pursue you and contact you, if I'm interested.

    A few years back I met a bartender, we hit it off nicely and talked for hours, and he asked me out to dinner the next day. He gave me his screen name, then going home I checked out his Profile "Taken" was his status. I WAS BALASTIC !!! The next day, when he called I told him my thoughts of what a SOB he was. He did explain he had "Taken" in his profile so he would not be hit on all the time.

    So you really never know for sure, what these terms mean or imply!
    BH
  • maximumrisk

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    Oct 26, 2007 7:10 PM GMT
    Your right. You cant always know what the User originally had in mind when writing it, but the term "at the moment" is just not right in my eyes. Sounds like hes waiting for it to be over.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 26, 2007 8:50 PM GMT
    There are lots of profiles with stuff like that, and you would just have to wonder.

    I have seen profiles of guys, and in there relationship status they have Monogamous relationship, and in what they are looking for they include hookup.

    Others have Monogamous relationship, but in guys they are looking to meet, they say "friends and maybe more".

    Some very confused guysicon_rolleyes.gif

    Mike
  • liftordie

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    Oct 26, 2007 10:12 PM GMT
    gays...confused??? really?? i guess it could happen! LOL reminds me of my favorite line from Brett Butler the comedienne. she said she would always introduce her husband as her 'first' husband...while they were still married!! lol
  • GQjock

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    Oct 27, 2007 10:05 AM GMT
    Yeah... that is odd, like check back with me later and things might be different?
    Mindgarden's got it right most guys who are still fishing online while in a relationship are willing to "Trade up" as the case maybe

    "Sorry honey, it's been nice ... but you see the ass on him?"
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    Oct 27, 2007 12:04 PM GMT
    I have no problem w/ how others choose to live. And, if they want to introduce someone as their future ex-husband, more power to 'em! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 27, 2007 2:32 PM GMT
    Could it be its an open relationship?

    I know couples gay and str8 who might as well be married but do bring in another person on a regular basis.

    An old abused term: Don't judge a book by its cover

    If you jump to the idea that this person is soon to be on the market, your just guilty of assumptions.



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    Oct 27, 2007 2:48 PM GMT
    I rather think the phrase infers that they are soon to be on the market. That's sort of my point. It's not an assumption. I am in a relationship. The modifier "currently" or "at the moment" implies a future moment where this will not be the case
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    Oct 27, 2007 2:56 PM GMT
    "In a relationship at the moment" could mean a lot of things.. after all it came from a profile (ad) a place where their advertising themselves for several reasons.. ok countless reasons.

    Not sure if I’d take it as a willingness to trade up or that he/she is tired of that relationship or whatever.

    The question I have is it false advertisement, what does it say about the person that put it there. I have seen a many profiles with “happily taken” yet hit on me like I was the next best thing for god only knows. Then there are times when its true and they just want more social connections in a rather small gay community around here. So I take it in stride and remember, after all I wouldn’t think I’d date someone that’s in a relationship only to leave it for me.. after all its likely he’d do the same to me.

    Maybe its true.. the grass is greener on the other side of the hill, but then again maybe its not… you should first decide to leave these green pastures before hunting for another. OH and something else about that.. lol Damn let the guy know you’ve decided too lol
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    Oct 27, 2007 3:13 PM GMT
    "at the moment" doesn't need to imply a change of status.

    In a police invesigation they will release info with "at the moment" This doesn't mean the investigation is about to end.

    I could be in a relationship at the moment, it could be just the two of us, but were talking and might consider opening up to others.

    The question isn't the modifier, its the intent of the person. Intent being something we can't view easiely unless he was given evidence of unlocking private pics or a request to cam, etc.. You can't assume based on the implication of how he ends a phrase.
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    Oct 27, 2007 4:46 PM GMT
    "In a relationship at the moment" = "I'm in this relationship because I don't want to be alone, and if someone better comes along I'm outta here"
  • iHavok

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    Oct 27, 2007 4:51 PM GMT
    i've used the phrase before to describe my situation. Usually it's in the phrase, "thank you, that's flattering, but i'm in a relationship at this moment."

    I dunno.
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    Oct 28, 2007 3:51 PM GMT
    You seem a little Pollyanna Trance.
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    Oct 30, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    I think it's a healthy attitude to take, none of us can be sure about what lies ahead.