Sex in public.

  • DrobUA

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    Apr 04, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    Ok I took this from the Ratted guys out in the sauna thread. but the thread has gone another direction. Here's the overview.

    "First I walked into the shower and glanced at the steam room where there was a guy in there stroking right in front of the door...then when I came out, i looked in the sauna and saw one guy stroking another...I complained to management...was I wrong?"

    BigSETXjock saidAgain, I am shocked by the closed minded nature of people on this website.

    Who fucking cares if someone wants to get off in the shower, or steam room, or dry sauna?

    If you're not going to join in, what the hell is wrong with a great free show?

    If you don't want to watch, then don't watch. Close your eyes. Whatever. Don't be a little tattletale bitch running up the front desk to report people.



    ARE YOU KIDDING?! Closed minded? I don't think you could find more than 1% of the population that thinks it's acceptable to engage in sex acts in public. How about having respect for the other 99% of the population. It is public space why should we have to close our eyes? What makes you think anyone else wants to see that? Do people really think that this is ok?
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    Apr 04, 2009 2:50 AM GMT
    It's ok sonny boy...you just dont get caught....

    Take a peek at this video and see my point.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=da5uoggW9Eg

    MORE TO FOLLOW!!

    Perhaps this is what's wrong....NOT ENOUGH SEX IN THIS HOLY LAND....

    In some countries sex is looked at just fine...even if its at a MALL...
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:02 AM GMT
    Kid, just because you were born with balls doesn't mean you've earned them!
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    Frankly, I totally agree with you !!! Sex is fine in its place, and that place is not in the public view. If someone wants to have public sex (jack off), let them work for a porn company, then they can be watched by those in the public who 'choose' to watch by buying the vid. A suana or shower room at a public gym is not the place for jacking off, it is inappropriate, its inconsiderate, and just plain tacky to jack off where other people may want to use the facility for what it was meant for, a shower, or a relaxing time in hot sauna/steam room. Its no more appropriate to jack off in these places than it is to piss in public on a public sidewalk. What would be the defense for pissing in public, Oh !!! if you don't like it, look the other way !!!! Personally i think actions like what brought up this subject give us a bad name. Usually by the time a child gets to the age of 10 his mother has taught him better than to do some of this stuff. there's just no excuse for it. I think you did the right thing by complaining, if you see it again, go get some ice water and throw it on the idiot jacking off, and tell him to do his deed at home next time. LOL !!!!
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    I am willing to bet way more than 1% of the population has enjoyed public sex. Take a look at events like Folosm Street Fair. People come from around the world to enjoy public sex and watch it. What kid hasn't jerked off while driving a car? Who hasn't stepped in front of a webcam to do a little show?

    Sure, public sex is taboo, but that is why so many people engage in it and enjoy it.
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
    realifedad said Frankly, I totally agree with you !!! Sex is fine in its place, and that place is not in the public view. If someone wants to have public sex (jack off), let them work for a porn company, then they can be watched by those in the public who 'choose' to watch by buying the vid. A suana or shower room at a public gym is not the place for jacking off, it is inappropriate, its inconsiderate, and just plain tacky to jack off where other people may want to use the facility for what it was meant for, a shower, or a relaxing time in hot sauna/steam room. Its no more appropriate to jack off in these places than it is to piss in public on a public sidewalk. What would be the defense for pissing in public, Oh !!! if you don't like it, look the other way !!!! Personally i think actions like what brought up this subject give us a bad name. Usually by the time a child gets to the age of 10 his mother has taught him better than to do some of this stuff. there's just no excuse for it. I think you did the right thing by complaining, if you see it again, go get some ice water and throw it on the idiot jacking off, and tell him to do his deed at home next time. LOL !!!!


    My momma never taught me a dam (regarding sex that is) thing and I turned out just fine...

    At 10 I was swimming naked with the boy next door...literally!! I loved it. I was raised as a free sprit type. When the sun shines on you...it's meant to feel good and naked too..sex...is just another part of life and should not really be covered up...who said it had to be covered??? TELL ME?

    At the National Parks...many have sex even in DC and in Public and do not get arrested....It's not ILLEGAL (nudity that is) on any of the Nations National Ground
  • CAtoFL

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
    I have to agree with Drob on this one. I go to the gym to workout, not to be forced to witness someone's sex acts. That behavior is appropriate for a bath house, not a gym.

    My gym also has a wide age range of participants. I don't think it would be appropriate behavior for, say, a high school sophomore to be exposed to. And that's not even considering that there are probably 'sex offender' charges to be leveled on the guy whacking it in public.

    Being gay doesn't give us carte blanche to do whatever the heck we want in public. And pulling it out and yanking it in public (and yeah, the locker room is a public area) is inappropriate behavior.
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
    PSCalif saidI have to agree with Drob on this one. I go to the gym to workout, not to be forced to witness someone's sex acts. That behavior is appropriate for a bath house, not a gym.

    My gym also has a wide age range of participants. I don't think it would be appropriate behavior for, say, a high school sophomore to be exposed to. And that's not even considering that there are probably 'sex offender' charges to be leveled on the guy whacking it in public.

    Being gay doesn't give us carte blanche to do whatever the heck we want in public. And pulling it out and yanking it in public (and yeah, the locker room is a public area) is inappropriate behavior.


    I have seen more straight people fuckin in public and more lewd act than I have caught gay men. I mean it's to this I guess there is such a double standard...they can...but poor stupid Homo's should be burned at the stake for sucking cock in public. So what if you catch them....MORE ON!
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
    PSCalif saidI have to agree with Drob on this one. I go to the gym to workout, not to be forced to witness someone's sex acts. That behavior is appropriate for a bath house, not a gym.

    My gym also has a wide age range of participants. I don't think it would be appropriate behavior for, say, a high school sophomore to be exposed to. And that's not even considering that there are probably 'sex offender' charges to be leveled on the guy whacking it in public.

    Being gay doesn't give us carte blanche to do whatever the heck we want in public. And pulling it out and yanking it in public (and yeah, the locker room is a public area) is inappropriate behavior.
    Forcing high school sophomores to watch public sex acts in a lockerroom? Hmmm...that's a nice start! Kinky!

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    Munch -Swim and Labido ---- come on guys !!!! I usually agree with you, but you know better than this !!! Are any of you going to tell me that if you had a son to raise that you wouldn't tell him to keep his pecker behind his zipper in public? That if he's horny, he can wait till he's in the privacy of his bedroom, or some other private place !!!! That is what it boils down to in reality. What is best for all is what's important in a public place, public places are there for the publics good, not for accommodating someone needing to get his rocks off. What kind of a chaotic world would it be like if we didn't practice some decency in public.
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    Our superintendent of schools was arrested for whacking off in a health club shower... He resigned very shortly afterwards...
  • CAtoFL

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    LibidoExspurt said
    PSCalif saidI have to agree with Drob on this one. I go to the gym to workout, not to be forced to witness someone's sex acts. That behavior is appropriate for a bath house, not a gym.

    My gym also has a wide age range of participants. I don't think it would be appropriate behavior for, say, a high school sophomore to be exposed to. And that's not even considering that there are probably 'sex offender' charges to be leveled on the guy whacking it in public.

    Being gay doesn't give us carte blanche to do whatever the heck we want in public. And pulling it out and yanking it in public (and yeah, the locker room is a public area) is inappropriate behavior.


    I have seen more straight people fuckin in public and more lewd act than I have caught gay men. I mean it's to this I guess there is such a double standard...they can...but poor stupid Homo's should be burned at the stake for sucking cock in public. So what if you catch them....MORE ON!


    Who said I thought it was appropriate for straight people to do it? It's not. What a bizarre extrapolation.
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    I recently purchased these Shocking Tanks:

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    "Each time you successfully hit your opponents tank, they will receive a shock from their controller."
    http://www.thinkgeek.com/geektoys/rc/7485/
    I unleashed them on my co-workers and we all had a good laugh.

    You know who REALLY enjoyed them? Those who didn't have the balls to play. The ones who thought they were "crazy" or "sadistic". Hmmm...Hmmm...indeed!
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:44 AM GMT
    realifedad said Munch -Swim and Labido ---- come on guys !!!! I usually agree with you, but you know better than this !!! Are any of you going to tell me that if you had a son to raise that you wouldn't tell him to keep his pecker behind his zipper in public? That if he's horny, he can wait till he's in the privacy of his bedroom, or some other private place !!!! That is what it boils down to in reality. What is best for all is what's important in a public place, public places are there for the publics good, not for accommodating someone needing to get his rocks off. What kind of a chaotic world would it be like if we didn't practice some decency in public.


    My point is... IF...you do it just don't get caught...and if you do...RUN!!

    Oh,I know that when I see people kiss (a dude and a chick) and I can't (me and my buddy) there again is another double standard. I am sorry I say fuck till your heart's content and out side in public if you want.

    Just so happens you may have to pay a price for the risk....that's what I would tell my 3 sons!! LOL..seems to make them more prudish!
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:46 AM GMT
    PSCalif said
    LibidoExspurt said
    PSCalif saidI have to agree with Drob on this one. I go to the gym to workout, not to be forced to witness someone's sex acts. That behavior is appropriate for a bath house, not a gym.

    My gym also has a wide age range of participants. I don't think it would be appropriate behavior for, say, a high school sophomore to be exposed to. And that's not even considering that there are probably 'sex offender' charges to be leveled on the guy whacking it in public.

    Being gay doesn't give us carte blanche to do whatever the heck we want in public. And pulling it out and yanking it in public (and yeah, the locker room is a public area) is inappropriate behavior.


    I have seen more straight people fuckin in public and more lewd act than I have caught gay men. I mean it's to this I guess there is such a double standard...they can...but poor stupid Homo's should be burned at the stake for sucking cock in public. So what if you catch them....MORE ON!


    Who said I thought it was appropriate for straight people to do it? It's not. What a bizarre extrapolation.


    Ok...I dare you to go hold hands with your lover (BOY friend) and kiss on the lips at wal mart.....same shit ...same...I bet your to prudish and would never do it...in one hundred million years!
  • CAtoFL

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:48 AM GMT
    Swim, your playing with your toy won't get you arrested. Someone playing with their 'toy' in public very well might get them arrested. No comparison, if that's where you were going. Although frankly, who knows if that was where you were going. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:49 AM GMT
    I think you need to distinguish between public sex and the kind of behavior described in that other train wreck of a thread. Is it wrong for me to sneak off the trail on a hike with my boyfriend (if I had one) and enjoy a good romp in the bushes? We MIGHT get caught and that's part of the thrill. Or in a parking garage in the back of my truck? I appreciate this desire and understand (and have personally experienced) the excitement one derives from being a bit naughty, risking discovery, etc.

    However, there's a big difference between what I've described above and standing in a public space masturbating. As I said in the other thread, would you whip it out in the produce aisle? Is it okay for me to come over to your house for dinner and, after the meal, unzip and masturbate at the table while everyone else enjoys desert? Let's say I'm horny while waiting in line at the post office. Is it okay to go at it right there?

    Sex in a public place isn't all bad and nasty. It can be fun. icon_smile.gif But doing so in a manner that is utterly disrespectful to everyone around you is not cool.
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    Apr 04, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
    This topic has come up every once in a while among friends or at a party and it can be fascinating, because I've often been surprised by which people end up on which side.

    Here's something to consider in determining what, exactly, it is about public sex that is offensive:

    If there were a gym that had TVs installed in the walls of the sauna (or even just think about the row of TVs many places have in front of the cardio machines), and they played a rotating selection of popular movies - would it be offensive to see the sex scene in movies like Matrix Reloaded, Lethal Weapon, Mulholland Drive, Brokeback Mountain, Boogie Nights, Latter Days, American History X, Y Tu Mama Tambien...?

    After all, you're just trying to put 20 minutes on the stairclimber or relax in the sauna after your workout, and there right in front of you is a big screen showing Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal "stemming the rose". Are you repulsed, offended, somehow paralyzed from moving your leg muscles one more step? Why, or why not? I've been in a few gay bars where they had TVs showing actual porn, either out in the club or in the bathrooms. Even a gay bar is still a public place. What do you feel is the difference between noticing that two people are having sex on the other side of a camera versus noticing that two people are having sex on the other side of the room?

  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    PSCalif saidSwim, your playing with your toy won't get you arrested. Someone playing with their 'toy' in public very well might get them arrested. No comparison, if that's where you were going. Although frankly, who knows if that was where you were going. icon_lol.gif

    Lol, all I'm saying PSCalif is that LibidoExspurt might have a little bit of a point.
    You must admit that you introduced a very specific scenario when joining the discussion about public sex acts.
    I agree with LibidoExspurt: don't do the crime unless you can do the time. But if you don't get caught, have a good time!
    Of all of the horrors humankind inflicts upon itself, random acts of public sex acts ranks fairly low on the scale.
    It seems really to make such a mountain out of a molehill.
  • CAtoFL

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    Apr 04, 2009 4:06 AM GMT
    SportingChance saidIf there were a gym that had TVs installed in the walls of the sauna (or even just think about the row of TVs many places have in front of the cardio machines), and they played a rotating selection of popular movies - would it be offensive to see the sex scene in movies like Matrix Reloaded, Lethal Weapon, Mulholland Drive, Brokeback Mountain, Boogie Nights, Latter Days, American History X, Y Tu Mama Tambien...?


    Would I be insulted? No. Would it be appropriate? No. Because some of those movies are rated R and aren't meant for or appropriate for the age levels of people who frequent my gym. It's not ALWAYS all about us.

    Even in gay bars here, it's illegal to show porn. They still do it but have to portray it as "art". The cities still shut them down most of the time. But there is a huge difference. If I watch a movie and there's a police shootout, it doesn't bother me. If I see one in person, it does. So I think your example isn't a fair comparison.
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    Apr 04, 2009 4:20 AM GMT
    LibidoExspurt said
    realifedad said Munch -Swim and Labido ---- come on guys !!!! I usually agree with you, but you know better than this !!! Are any of you going to tell me that if you had a son to raise that you wouldn't tell him to keep his pecker behind his zipper in public? That if he's horny, he can wait till he's in the privacy of his bedroom, or some other private place !!!! That is what it boils down to in reality. What is best for all is what's important in a public place, public places are there for the publics good, not for accommodating someone needing to get his rocks off. What kind of a chaotic world would it be like if we didn't practice some decency in public.


    My point is... IF...you do it just don't get caught...and if you do...RUN!!

    Oh,I know that when I see people kiss (a dude and a chick) and I can't (me and my buddy) there again is another double standard. I am sorry I say fuck till your heart's content and out side in public if you want.

    Just so happens you may have to pay a price for the risk....that's what I would tell my 3 sons!! LOL..seems to make them more prudish!
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>LOL !!!! I getcha now !!!
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    Apr 04, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    I've had shexsh in public... but I'm discrete about it.. I don't go doing it in the sauna in a gym that isn't a bathhouse and I don't go doing it in the middle of a crowded park.. I choose my places with care and tack...
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    PSCalif said
    SportingChance saidIf there were a gym that had TVs installed in the walls of the sauna (or even just think about the row of TVs many places have in front of the cardio machines), and they played a rotating selection of popular movies - would it be offensive to see the sex scene in movies like Matrix Reloaded, Lethal Weapon, Mulholland Drive, Brokeback Mountain, Boogie Nights, Latter Days, American History X, Y Tu Mama Tambien...?


    Would I be insulted? No. Would it be appropriate? No. Because some of those movies are rated R and aren't meant for or appropriate for the age levels of people who frequent my gym. It's not ALWAYS all about us.

    Even in gay bars here, it's illegal to show porn. They still do it but have to portray it as "art". The cities still shut them down most of the time. But there is a huge difference. If I watch a movie and there's a police shootout, it doesn't bother me. If I see one in person, it does. So I think your example isn't a fair comparison.


    I'm not trying to convince you of my point of view, I'm genuinely curious to hear people express what exactly it is about public sex that they consider inappropriate or discomfiting.

    I think the scenario I outlined is a fair comparison, but I'm not sure you've fully addressed it. You did establish the issue of members at your club who are considered minors by the law. Which is why I also included the situation of the gay bar - any patrons must be adults by definition. You did not clarify whether you feel that showing porn in a gay bar (or more generally in any adults-only establishment) would be socially inappropriate, and why or why not..

    I like your analogy to the police shootout scene; that's an astute comparison. Are you saying that your objection to public sex comes from it posing a physical danger to you?
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    Apr 04, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    LibidoExspurt said
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    LibidoExspurt said
    Ok...I dare you to go hold hands with your lover (BOY friend) and kiss on the lips at wal mart.....same shit ...same...I bet your to prudish and would never do it...in one hundred million years!


    I've held hands with my boyfriend in public, kissed him in public and been on 'The Newlywed Game' on a cruise ship in front of an audience of hundreds with him (and we kissed on every right answer). Being homosexual isn't what's inappropriate (although it seems you wish that that's what I've said). I've said masturbating in a public place isn't only disgusting, it's against the law. But it's not even all about your morals or my morals or the law. It's about respecting other people.

    I wouldn't want to sit across the lunch table from someone picking their nose. It's disgusting. Similarly, I don't want to see a guy (or girl), straight or gay masturbating in a public place. It's not the right time or place and it's vulgar (and unlike nosepicking, illegal).
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    Apr 04, 2009 4:41 AM GMT
    PSCalif saidSwim, your playing with your toy won't get you arrested. Someone playing with their 'toy' in public very well might get them arrested. No comparison, if that's where you were going. Although frankly, who knows if that was where you were going. icon_lol.gif


    Sex...OR.....kissing....OR...hugging...whatever it is are all forms of sexual expression. They are natural. It's just our society has become so puritanical. I am sorry I think it should all be allowed. I am for it.

    I will say in today's world you have to be I guess....DISCREET... right...under the covers

    CLOSETED......in the bed room.

    DISCRETION RULES THE WORLD'S FUCKING DAY!!


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=da5uoggW9Eg

    Just today this dude cruzzed me..3 times when I was in my mustang.....Shit so I popped a hard on and showed him...

    then....? I am not telling you