Share a wonderful moment you have had with a significant other, boyfriend, or loved one.... that was non sexual.

  • silverfox

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    Apr 04, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    Ok here goes.


    I went to a boyfriend's beach house at the end of Long Island during the summer. It was the first time I was there. It was on the water and it was beautiful in it's simplicity. We spent the day riding bikes and swimming and when we got home we made dinner. After dinner I went to take a shower and when I came out he said to join him outside on the deck. It was after dark by this time. There he had set up a bunch of pillows, a couple of blankets. He asked me to lay down and look up at the sky. He switched the deck lights off and it was pitch black except that the sky was full of stars. More stars then I have ever seen on any given night. He laid down next to me and we both looked up. I couldn't speak it was so overwhelming....I almost couldn't catch my breath. He grabbed my hand, and his dog came over and sat right at my feet...as if on command. I was completely at ease. I felt safe and secure.
    No words were spoken. I squeezed his hand tight.
    At that moment...I knew I might be falling.
  • junknemesis

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    Apr 04, 2009 6:51 AM GMT
    I was with a friend of mine in Minneapolis. We were walking outside around a small lake park and the sun had gone down. We figured to rest for a bit so we sat down on a bench, talking about inconsequential things. Our small talk was interupted by a small canine figure walking towards us. It became very clear that this figure was a fox. Me and my friend became silent, and watched as it walked by us, totally unconcerned. We started talking again after it passes, but not long after we heard it's footsteps comming back. So we quieted down again, and the fox walked past us, but stopped right in front of where we were. I could have reached out and touched it's nose, it was so close. The creature looked at us for a few moments, and I took my friends hand in mine.
    Then someone up the hill yelled out some sort of greeting to someone else out of sight, and the fox bolted away and vanished.
    I think of my friend whenever I see a fox now.
    Also found out that he has a serious crush on me, but nothing ever came of it.
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    Apr 04, 2009 6:56 AM GMT
    I don't know how to describe it, but I always have wonderful memorable evenings with an ex. It's never sexual anymore, but he's so sweet and caring, and we're so naked emotionally with each other that it's always a special time with him. I have many others with more detail, but I'm tired. The ex sticks out because every time I feel like settling in life, he reminds me that there are other great people to be found out there.
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    Apr 04, 2009 9:58 AM GMT
    One of the best memories I have is of my mom when I was about 8. That year, the toy all kids wanted was the Busy Buzz Pen. Well, there were none to be had in 100 mile radius. So I knew I would not get the one thing I wanted for Christmas. Well, on Christmas morning, in big box with many little boxes inside, I found a Busy Buzz Pen. That was the best present I ever got. I was the only kid in school who actually got one. My mom had driven all the way to Atlanta, a 4 hour trip one way on Christmas Eve after some relatives told her where to find one. My mom has always been some kind of superheroe to me because of that. I really miss her, but the little things she did as a divorced mom helped my recognize just how worthy as a person I am and these memories always remind me of that. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 10:05 AM GMT
    Recently, I had a friend fly over to visit me briefly. And one night, I showed him the balcony of the room which I used to rent, which was visible from the main road. I made sure that was in the itinerary of his short trip. Why? 'Cos it was where I stood speaking to him on the phone long distance, at a time he felt so fed up and had no one else to confide in, as he was yet to come out. It broke my heart to listen to him in tears.
    Now that he braved the odds to come out, he's as magnificent as the most beautiful swan in that popular children's fable. He remains a dear friend to me, and always will be. icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 10:14 AM GMT
    Ooof, I just got carried away, I forgot to stamp:

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  • silverfox

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    Apr 04, 2009 11:41 AM GMT
    Great stories guys.....thank you for sharing.... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 12:41 PM GMT
    I remember the first night I was with my ex lying in bed and talking openly and honestly about life, hopes and dreams. While we were talking overwhelming feelings of content, safety, home and love were mindblowing. In the midst of these great feelings the radio was playing and a song came on that completely summed up the moment. Even though it was our first night together I knew I was in love.
  • rnch

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    Apr 04, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    my current man and I had been together for about 3 months, off and on, because of his guilt issues over his wife.

    after working a 14 hour EMT shift here in humid, sultry new orleans; he arrived home to find out that his apartment house had no electricity or water. he asked if he could take a shower at my house.

    after he was cleaned up, i gave him some sweat pants and an old t shirt to wear.

    we stretched out on my bed, watching tv, talking about what had happened in our lives the last few days we had been apart.

    he grew incresingly relaxed and drousy. our conversation regressed into grunts and short answers.

    he snuggled up to my left side, put his face on my pec, wrapped his arm around my stomach and fell asleep.

    mere words cannot describe the feeling of comfortableness, of security, of closeness, of "total rightness" that i felt at that moment..

    at that moment i Strongly Suspected that i had a "keeper".
  • silverfox

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    Apr 04, 2009 5:12 PM GMT
    stringman saidI remember the first night I was with my ex lying in bed and talking openly and honestly about life, hopes and dreams. While we were talking overwhelming feelings of content, safety, home and love were mindblowing. In the midst of these great feelings the radio was playing and a song came on that completely summed up the moment. Even though it was our first night together I knew I was in love.


    OMG stingman...what was the song????
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    Apr 04, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    junknemesis saidI was with a friend of mine in Minneapolis. We were walking outside around a small lake park and the sun had gone down. We figured to rest for a bit so we sat down on a bench, talking about inconsequential things. Our small talk was interupted by a small canine figure walking towards us. It became very clear that this figure was a fox. Me and my friend became silent, and watched as it walked by us, totally unconcerned. We started talking again after it passes, but not long after we heard it's footsteps comming back. So we quieted down again, and the fox walked past us, but stopped right in front of where we were. I could have reached out and touched it's nose, it was so close. The creature looked at us for a few moments, and I took my friends hand in mine.
    Then someone up the hill yelled out some sort of greeting to someone else out of sight, and the fox bolted away and vanished.
    I think of my friend whenever I see a fox now.
    Also found out that he has a serious crush on me, but nothing ever came of it.

    Loring Park, perhaps? I've had many encounters with "foxes" there. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 5:46 PM GMT
    My partner and I were walking across the parking lot on our way into the grocery store. He grabbed me, nearly pulled me off my feet, and gave me a quick, really strong hug. He's not a PDA kind of guy so...it was special. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 04, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    OMG stingman...what was the song????

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    It's a little corny but it did sum up the situation......

    Betchabygollywow by the stylistics.

    Funny thing was we had had such an intense conversation and we both felt the same way but we were not able to say it to each other....Then the song came on... summed up the situation...and that was that.

    We had a good run. One day maybe I'll have another.
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    Apr 04, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    I took someone new and very special out for the first time - to dinner in the City. Later, back at his front door, I kissed him - once - and once more - longingly, with passion. It was an unforgettable kiss. I sort of floated in suspense back to my car and all the way home that night. I was in Heaven.
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    Apr 04, 2009 6:12 PM GMT
    I went with my friend for an HIV test.. He took the test before and the results were positive, so the doctors recommended him to go for another test cuz these results aren't accurate .

    So he went inside the results room, and it took him too long.. I started to worry, I didn't know how to look in his eyes.. I was looking at the floor when he finally came out, I looked above and he said "it's ok now, I can't belive it" .. I was so happy, and hugged him .. such a relief..


    Another great moment - I met a guy recently and we became friends. When we spoke I discovered that he doesn't just live in the village that my parents came from, but he's also live 20 meters away from my grandparents' house !!
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    Apr 04, 2009 6:14 PM GMT
    It wasn't a moment, but a whole week. My BF & I drove to a farmstead north of Minneapolis, where a renowned sculptor had her studio. He was sitting for his bronze bust, which is pictured in my RJ private photos.

    I took hundreds of photos of the sculpting process that took a week, which I later made into a presentation album for him, when the bust was formally unveiled in his art museum. I also made a video of the casting process, subsequently done at a foundry elsewhere in Minnesota.

    But at the farmstead, when not taking photos in the studio, I played with the artist's children in the main house, romped with their big dog in the meadows, played their piano, had family lunches with them, and learned about making grandfather clocks from her husband, in his own studio-workshop.

    We were staying in the Twin Cities, and between sittings, and during a couple of days off, we had such adventures! We went to a sprawling outdoor Renaissance Faire, and spent another day at the Minneapolis Institute of Arts (MIA) where he was a board member.

    We'd barely known each other a month, and he'd only reluctantly told me how rich he was a week earlier. But I didn't entirely appreciate it until we entered the vast MIA, where he was instantly recognized by the staff, and assigned a private guide to accompany us. And naturally the entrance fee was waived.

    The art he had given the MIA was included in our tour, the brass plaques with his name on them confirming this was no BS he was handing me. I in turn took him to a service at the gay Metropolitan Community Church (MCC), where he'd never been before. I knew a number of the ministers & congregation there, and he received a warm welcome.

    We also went to the Mall of America, where I treated him to my favorite place for gin martinis, a passion we both share. And we rode the amusement rides together like 2 little kids, in the huge 4-story indoor main court.

    Some nights we went to the gay clubs in Minneapolis-St. Paul and danced with our shirts off (I could still do that earlier this decade). Another day we toured up the St. Croix River Valley, north of the Twin Cities. We stopped at an outdoor art park, where these gigantic sculptures are displayed over a couple of acres. We climbed the river gorge, ate designer ice cream along its banks, and ended the day at a wonderful restaurant that served me a luscious filet mignon smothered with goose livers & cheese raviolis.

    And during these little day trips we took, all around the sculptor's farm, we visited 2 of his retired uncles and their wives on their estates. Retired CEOs of a couple of the largest corporations in the US (in fact, one WAS the biggest US company when he retired), I could only gasp at such wealth & power, right in front of me.

    It was an enchanted time, in retrospect too magical to have ever been true. But it was true, I have the pictures, and I will always cherish those memories. We were only together for 2 years, before he left me for someone else. He wanted us to get back together over a year ago, but I had my new partner, and shallow though I am, even the lure of great wealth couldn't tempt me. It's enough I have these memories.
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    Apr 04, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    One time I went to see my friend Gary. I was going through his area, so I thought I would go and see him for a bit; I missed him very much. We sat down on the couch and started to talk a bit. Then he laid his head on my chest and I wrapped my arms around him. We sat there and cuddled for a few minutes. I felt so warm in that moment. It felt like time had stopped and allowed me to live in that moment with him. One of the sweetest moments I've ever had. It's like him and I were one for a time and it felt amazing.
  • jrs1

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    May 18, 2009 11:48 PM GMT

    After a long night out and coming back to crash, he woke me up with kisses to tell me he had a surprise. I don't know if it's because we're both young at heart or because summer was ending but, he took me to a water park and we played all day. I was 20 and he was 25 then and we laughed all day ... Although we're good friends now, it's a moment with which we both still remark.
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    Jan 13, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    This is the neatest thing I've ever done for my partner:

    A couple of years ago while my partner and I were talking about life, adventures, travel, etc., I asked him if I could ever "kidnap" him and take him on a vacation that he hadn't planned for. He said yeah. Time passed, and one day the opportunity came up. I planned the trip several months in advance, bought everything necessary, booked our camping spot on the beach, talked to his work and let them know that Jay was going on a vacation that he didn't know about, etc. On the "big day", I asked Jay if he would go with me to take my mom to the airport so she could visit her sister. icon_smile.gif He said "sure". We picked my mom up and drove to the airport. He suspected nothing. I got out of the car and started unpacking "my mom's luggage"...which was camping gear mostly. Jay looked confused. I said "Suprise! We're going to a small island off of Puerto Rico for 7 days to camp on the beach!" His face had the cutest look of shock I've ever seen. This look stayed on his face all the way as we flew over the ocean to the island. At this point, I said, "By the way, I lied, we're actually staying for 11 days". True paradise for 11 days. The island, the weather, the night sky, snorkeling, ....everything was beautiful.

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    Jan 13, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    On adoption day, when the Judge said, "Congratulations, you're now the lawful parents of your children." I looked at my partner, and it summed up everything.
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    Jan 13, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    Steel091 said One of the sweetest moments I've ever had. It's like him and I were one for a time and it felt amazing.


    I have had ten or so such moments with my friend Tim. Sometimes the affection is so spontaneous between us that it feels like the two of us are melting into one being. The love I feel for him at those moments transcends sexuality, it is so breathtaking. We are not lovers in the conventional sense or boyfriends. Yet the sexual feelings I have for him after these episodes actually surpass the erotic impules that I have had for my lovers and/or the few boyfriends I have had.

    Go figure.

    But, at least I have felt these things, and have shared them with a person in my life.
  • silverfox

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    Jan 13, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    zarin saidOn adoption day, when the Judge said, "Congratulations, you're now the lawful parents of your children." I looked at my partner, and it summed up everything.


    NOTE FROM THE OP"

    Um.......this one got me all kinds of choked up.

    Thanks for sharing.
  • rdberg1957

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    Jan 13, 2010 6:16 AM GMT
    Memories of my first partner, David. I was 22, he was 47. Sometimes we would make dinner in his galley kitchen. I would prep, he would cook. Mozart was playing in the background. We would not say a word and we were perfectly at home with one another.

    Oh and in 1997, the first Sunday in July, I surprised the guy I was dating. I brought him to dinner at a German restaurant East of St Paul, MN. Then, I took him down by the St Croix on a perfect summer day with hardly any wind. We went up in a balloon over the St. Croix river and could see for miles around. I was terrified, but happy.
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    Jan 13, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    Every moment is wonderful! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Glorfindel

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    Jan 13, 2010 1:30 PM GMT
    A wonderful moment with my first bf: my xmas present to him. icon_smile.gif

    I picked him up at his apartment, then we drove into downtown DC. We went to the restaurant on the top of the Kennedy Center. We had dinner (entree and salad), shared a bottle of wine and had desserts along with dessert drinks. Then we went downstairs and saw a performance of the National Symphony. They played Beethoven's 5th symphony (among other pieces).

    On the way back to my place afterward, we talked about the performance and both agreed that the conductor had played the symphony too fast.

    One of my fondest memories of that relationship. icon_smile.gif