peeps here without pics....

  • rnch

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    Apr 05, 2009 1:58 PM GMT
    in this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?
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    Apr 05, 2009 2:36 PM GMT
    Some people just may not feel comfortable putting their picture online. I think it's better to have no picture than to post fake pictures they find online.

    I've got a digital camera, but have never taken the time to make a 'verified' picture. It's just not that big of a deal to me. There are also other websites that I visit that I've never uploaded a picture to. I guess I just never get around to it.
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    Apr 05, 2009 2:41 PM GMT
    ITS UP 2 PPLS ERE IF HE DO OR NT COZ MAYBE HE HAVE SOME REASON 4 NOT POSTIN A PIC N I THINK IF U HAVE PIC IS BETTER BUT IF U DONT HAVE IT .ALSO IS NT CAUSE PROBLEM IGUESS SO
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    Apr 05, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    hey rnch,

    jprichva, who has a thread happening as he goes into hospital, lost his great job in December when his employer found out he's gay....
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:02 PM GMT
    meninlove said hey rnch,

    jprichva, who has a thread happening as he goes into hospital, lost his great job in December when his employer found out he's gay....


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  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 05, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    For me it isn't an issue. Men here have their own comfort levels.. I choose not to be judgemental on the issue.
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    I agree, but some people not be ready to post pictures yet...But they should at least post some kind of pic...I used to post just body shots until I was ready to post facial pictures.
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    meninlove said hey rnch,

    jprichva, who has a thread happening as he goes into hospital, lost his great job in December when his employer found out he's gay....


    After reading this sad tale......everyone should know that in the preferences section, there is a box that can be checked off: Allow only members who are signed in to the RealJock site to view my profile

    Hopefully this will keep people who don't belong on this site from looking for Us all for despicable and predjudicial reasons. (At least I hope that's what it does.)

    Cheers,
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    I am suspicious of profiles that have no photos AND basically no profile text. I have gotten the impression that some people create instant profiles so they can get in the forums and make inflammatory posts anonymously (i.e. trolls). Anonymity seems to make the some cowardly or timid people very bold.

    Whether someone has a photo or not, I think it would be nice if only verified profiles could read or post to the forums.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Apr 05, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
    Musclequest said
    meninlove said hey rnch,

    jprichva, who has a thread happening as he goes into hospital, lost his great job in December when his employer found out he's gay....


    After reading this sad tale......everyone should know that in the preferences section, there is a box that can be checked off: Allow only members who are signed in to the RealJock site to view my profile

    Hopefully this will keep people who don't belong on this site from looking for Us all for despicable and predjudicial reasons. (At least I hope that's what it does.)

    Cheers,
    Keith
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    Well, there are one or two members of this site that (in my opinion) do not belong here. One I would class as a gay basher among other things.

    All that needs to happen, is for one of your straight workmates to see something on your computer, and then they decide to join up to RJ just to confirm their suspensions. In fact they don't even have to join. If you participate in the forums, anyone can see you.
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    firehawk saidITS UP 2 PPLS ERE IF HE DO OR NT COZ MAYBE HE HAVE SOME REASON 4 NOT POSTIN A PIC N I THINK IF U HAVE PIC IS BETTER BUT IF U DONT HAVE IT .ALSO IS NT CAUSE PROBLEM IGUESS SO
    FIREHAWK

    Caps lock is cruise control for cool. Might want to consider un-pressing it; but yes people do have reasons of which we would like to believe NONE are because they are ashamed of being gay.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 05, 2009 3:51 PM GMT
    In the spirit of emoticons and Instant messaging I say WGAF icon_biggrin.gif

    Live and let live I say
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    Apr 05, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    Pertinent forum:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/216086/
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
    rnch saidin this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?


    Just pre-ignore them. If someone is so uptight, or has so much baggage, or is to lazy to complete a picture and profile, I'm not wasting time on them.
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:09 PM GMT
    rnch saidin this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?


    That's not your issue to worry about.

    You have to respect that not everyone is out.. And until I came out to my family and friends I never posted pics on gay sites.

    If we all make some guy in the bible belt growing up in some hardcore Christian family with no one to talk to about being gay feel apart of our community and let him see that they're lots of great gay people out there.. regardless if he has no pic he deserves to be here.

    It's amazing how we forget the pain and how difficult it is to come out.. and when we do come out we bash our gay brothers into coming out.

    Stop hatin..


    (not defending the pervs out there who use a faceless profile to lurk and ask too see naked pics.)
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
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    rnch saidin this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?


    That's not your issue to worry about.

    You have to respect that not everyone is out.. And until I came out to my family and friends I never posted pics on gay sites.

    If we all make some guy in the bible belt growing up in some hardcore Christian family with no one to talk to about being gay feel apart of our community and let him see that they're lots of great gay people out there.. regardless if he has no pic he deserves to be here.

    Stop hatin..


    Many organizations have a MINIMUM level for acceptance. The name of the site is "Real Jock" and, of course, many folks here aren't even close. All that being said, when you coddle something it only makes it weaker, and you become an enabler. I want no part of it. You help folks by walking them into, through, and beyond, their comfort level, sometimes with them complaining, initially. The military does it with young men every day. True athletes do it every day. If one continues to do things the same, they'll mostly remain the same. In 2009, most gay hate is from within the person themselves. Many gay folks are about as dishonest as dishonest gets with things as basic and simple as sexuality. It's just preference. The best thing a person can do is to say if you want to know me; if you want what I have (e.g. honesty, happiness, confidence, low stress) then this is the MINIMUM level of expectation I have from you. To be all-accepting, with no expectation, is a HUGE disservice, for gays, for education, for literacy...you name it. I for one will not support that.
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:21 PM GMT
    Rabble rabble rabble!

    Yes, but does he need weigh as much as a duck?

    Quack.
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    Sean_85 said
    rnch saidin this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?


    That's not your issue to worry about.

    You have to respect that not everyone is out.. And until I came out to my family and friends I never posted pics on gay sites.

    If we all make some guy in the bible belt growing up in some hardcore Christian family with no one to talk to about being gay feel apart of our community and let him see that they're lots of great gay people out there.. regardless if he has no pic he deserves to be here.

    It's amazing how we forget the pain and how difficult it is to come out.. and when we do come out we bash our gay brothers into coming out.

    Stop hatin..


    (not defending the pervs out there who use a faceless profile to lurk and ask too see naked pics.)


    Scary----but I agree with you. icon_wink.gif (We usually don't agree on forums)
    There are many who are not out YET, that are checking things out. I for one think that this site is a great vehicle for someone to do that.

    If you don't agree, ignore their posts. Or simply ask them, NICELY, why they post no pics.

    Cheers,
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:28 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    Sean_85 said
    rnch saidin this day of camera phones and inexpensive digital cameras; there is NO excuse for someone not posting a pic here soon after subscribing.

    i see a few guys here making threads with no pic(s) who have been here for quite some time....

    is there a time limit for posting pics before you are ousted? if not, perhaps there should be?


    That's not your issue to worry about.

    You have to respect that not everyone is out.. And until I came out to my family and friends I never posted pics on gay sites.

    If we all make some guy in the bible belt growing up in some hardcore Christian family with no one to talk to about being gay feel apart of our community and let him see that they're lots of great gay people out there.. regardless if he has no pic he deserves to be here.

    Stop hatin..


    Many organizations have a MINIMUM level for acceptance. The name of the site is "Real Jock" and, of course, many folks here aren't even close. All that being said, when you coddle something it only makes it weaker, and you become an enabler. I want no part of it. You help folks by walking them into, through, and beyond, their comfort level, sometimes with them complaining, intitially. The military does it with young men every day. Truth athletes do it every day. If one continues to do things the same, they'll mostly remain the same. In 2009, most gay hate is from within the person themselves. Many gay folks are about as dishonest as dishonest gets with things as basic and simple as sexuality. It's just preference. The best thing a person can do is to say if you want to know me; if you want what I have (e.g. honesty, happiness, confidence, low stress) then this is the MINIMUM level of expectation I have from you. To be all-accepting, with no expectation, is a HUGE disservice, for gays, for education, for literacy...you name it. I for one will not support that.


    I guess everyones different.. I came out on my own.. I just knew it was the right time to. I didn't need it forced out of me.

    I know its just a sexual pref. But I'm seeing someone here has lost his job over it.. people are beaten and killed sometimes because of it. It's not that easy. I guess i'm just a bleeding heart who see's it from there p.o.v.icon_redface.gif

    People come out by having positive examples and by seeing a group like real jock of thousands of gay men who are happy in there skin and cool with their sexuality it makes other people want to come out and be themselves.

    That's what got me to come out.
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    Apr 05, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    Pinny said...but yes people do have reasons of which we would like to believe NONE are because they are ashamed of being gay.

    And I'm one of them, burned in the past by misuse of my online pics. So I display a red Vespa photo, to match my SN, which is really the same thing as having no personal pic at all.

    But I do make my private RJ pics available to guys I hope I can trust here, and I sometimes cam in RJ chat, too. Plus 3 RJers have met me in person so far, along with my red Vespa, too, here in South Florida.

    And they've seen the gay pride stuff on my scooter, and how out I am in real life, proving that my online privacy concerns have nothing to do with my being publicly gay. Hell, I've led gay pride parades in a major US city on my motorcycle, had featured roles onstage with a gay chorus before packed theaters, spoken on TV on behalf of gay rights issues; I am anything but gay timid. And I'm also verified on RJ.

    So I think someone could be mistaken to assume negative things about those of us who don't have public pics on RJ. As Pinny suggests, there are other valid reasons. Plus RJ permits it, which I hope will not change.
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    Apr 05, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    I think we should oust you for using the word "peeps"!icon_lol.gif

    No seriously, some people don't feel comfortable having pics. That's their business and we should respect that.
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    Apr 05, 2009 6:22 PM GMT
    Who cares if they have a picture or not. Are you here to get fitness, health and life info and discuss things, or are you just here to cruise the site? Just get over it.
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    Apr 05, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Why is it anyone's business if they have a picture or not? Some of the same people bitching about the lack of pictures stress how this is NOT a hookup site!
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 05, 2009 6:26 PM GMT
    tafkalil saidWho cares if they have a picture or not. Are you here to get fitness, health and life info and discuss things, or are you just here to cruise the site? Just get over it.


    I think we're all here for a little of both, to be honest, or we wouldn't have the option of having 100 men on our hot lists.

    And while I respect the right to privacy (I went a year without any pics), it can be a bit frustrating. You're in the forums, you come across a witty comment, but there's not a picture to see if the guy is cute or not, not a face (or bicep) to match to the opinion. I don't know, I personally don't like it when that happens.
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    Apr 05, 2009 6:29 PM GMT
    I personally do not have pictures just because I don't feel completely comfortable! I will cam with people once I get to know them, but I don't like when people look at pictures without getting to know me.

    Doesn't seem like a big deal, I'm not sure why you are so up tight about it.