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    Apr 05, 2009 7:15 PM GMT
    Hey there anyone who reads this. I have a problem, well more then one but only one that I need help on.

    Today at work it was eventful, if it wasnt the guy that came in with a knife, it was the dude who scammed me that made it a night!

    This cute dude comes in an says he as a favor to ask. He then proceeds to put "his" car key onto the counter an tells me its for is 35 000$ car an that i musn't lose it or he'll have my head... so i tought he just wanted me to safe keep it for a while an all that... but no he wanted to borrow 40$ for gas money because his daughter was sick at her mom's or sumthing like that.

    At first I was very hesitant, but I finaly caved in, and gave him the money. I got his name, phone number (proably fake too).. I tought only after he left t get his license plate number.

    Well he never showed up with the money..

    My friend told me this morning when I told him about it that it had happend to 2 of his friends last week.. same dude.. same amount.. almost same reason.. same phone number.. same name...

    but SHE got the license plate, she just couldnt take a picture.. but where I work we have cameras all over, one of them is bound to have gotten a good view of him.

    So here's my question do i ask my supervisor to look at the cameras so that i can have a picture of him?.. here's the dilema.. if i do that I'll lose my job almost certainly...


    If anyone Can help me please so.. I know it's only 40$ but its not the first time he does it.. but I also need the job.


    Stephane
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 05, 2009 7:23 PM GMT
    Well Stephane, I hope you learned from the experience.

    My suggestion is that you consider carefully whats happened. You owe it to your employer to tell the truth.. if you don't you should be fired. If you tell her/him and make a case for your continued employment based on this experience, it may go far to have it work.

    This is about more than just your job.. its about a life experience. I hope you make the right choice.
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    Apr 05, 2009 7:30 PM GMT

    $40 bucks < your job!
    You do the math, honey, just don't be such a sucker next time.
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    Apr 05, 2009 7:30 PM GMT
    Just let it go, the money will come back to you in some form, its not that big of a loss, and certainly not worth causing you trouble with your work. Chances are that he'll be back to try again, you all stick together and take care of it the next time he comes in by calling security, they'll bar him from the store. Good luck !!!
  • Webster666

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    Apr 05, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
    Why would you lose your job ?
    How could you be that gullible ?
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    Apr 05, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    Yeah - What exactly do you do that people would give you car keys and ask to borrow $40? And, why would you get fired for loaning someone money? I think if you want advice, you need to give some more information.

    Otherwise, it's only $40. Live and learn.
  • jvmssi

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    Apr 06, 2009 12:21 AM GMT
    If someone comes in with a sob story needing 40 bucks, or any multiple of 20 there of, my assumption is that they are trying to get money for a drug of some kind especialy at night. Live and learn, and its nice to know that there are people that believe even when they know they are probably being taken on the off chance there was a sick little girl.
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    I'm confused. Did the guy leave his car keys, or his car with you? If so my number one concern wouldn't be 40 bucks. It'd be the fact that I was in possession of stolen property. Was the 40 bucks your own personal money or your work place's? If it's your work place's you're probably better off fessing up immediately rather than hiding it. The best that will happen is that you'll have to pay it back, or they'll take it out of your next paycheck which is better than being fired.

    The whole thing sounds hairy to me...if you hadn't complied he might've robbed you (because from what you say he'd already threatened you). It might be an idea to call the police as well.

    So potentially trusting this guy could cost you 80 bucks or your job. You've got to operate with some sense man. Just because someone's cute and has a sob story it doesn't mean they're honest.
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    Well, sorry and it sucks to be you and 40 bucks maybe a stinger for you, but its a cheap lesson, if the lesson is learned.
    Eat your loss, learn your lesson, keep your mouth shut and keep your job!

    Next time, reject any offers or pleas from anyone in a similar situation. Tell them to go to the 24 hour check cashing place or swing a deal with their family or friends, but you are not the agency responsible for pulling their sorry asses out of a self induced problem...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Apr 06, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    Your heart was in the right place which gives you bonus points in heaven, just let this incident go and dont allow it to make you cold toward your fellow man..
    The karma of the universe will deal with himicon_exclaim.gif
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    Aww mate, mate, the sky, its falling mate, you got like 60 bucks I can borrow to buy a new screw for it? ya know.. I got this testicles here.. you can have'em as collateral until I get back..

    mate.. come on mate..
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    Thank you all for the great answers.

    the dude really looked like he was on the verge of tears that his little girl was sick.. so.. the fact that he was cute wsnt the real thing that made make the decision.. but his little girl lol.

    I can't say that I am mad at him.. he obviously needed the money more then me.. bt lets just say that if i ever see him again.. he'll know that not only can karma be a bitch.. so can i.

    this experience will leave me with a slight doubt in the human nature.. people try to be nice.. an look what happens lol.. Ill just think twice next time.
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    Apr 06, 2009 1:08 AM GMT


    Hey noah, It feels pretty bad, I know. A guy approached me at a mall and managed to con me out of $100! He gave his home number, which turned out to be a school in Newfoundland. His sob story was about being stranded out here without work, having come all this way to BC on a one way ticket for a job. (BC job market was notorious for getting temps then canning them all within a week as the economy at that time was pretty unsteady). He'd been staying at the YMCA, a pastor at the nearby Salvation Army had been helping him out yada yada yada. He was good.

    I even got him on a bus for Alberta destined for the tar-sands project. You can imagine my shock when I called his home to let his wife and kids know he was OK ...the school admin coolly advised me they had logged more than 50 calls from across the country! There was already a Canada wide warrant for his arrest per the police. Had I been watching the news I would have seen his face on the news the week before. They were very sympathetic but said to let it go. They also said to not let the incident change me. Both officers were warm and reassuring that caution next time would be a good idea.

    So let it go...you used your own money, and did it on your own cognizance, so your employer has nothing to do with it.

    Be well, be warm and just be a little more careful with your kindnesses.

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Apr 06, 2009 1:13 AM GMT
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    Hey noah, It feels pretty bad, I know. A guy approached me at a mall and managed to con me out of $100! He gave his home number, which turned out to be a school in Newfoundland. His sob story was about being stranded out here without work, having come all this way to BC on a one way ticket for a job. (BC job market was notorious for getting temps then canning them all within a week as the economy at that time was pretty unsteady). He'd been staying at the YMCA, a pastor at the nearby Salvation Army had been helping him out yada yada yada. He was good.

    I even got him on a bus for Alberta destined for the tar-sands project. You can imagine my shock when I called his home to let his wife and kids know he was OK ...the school admin coolly advised me they had logged more than 50 calls from across the country! There was already a Canada wide warrant for his arrest per the police. Had I been watching the news I would have seen his face on the news the week before. They were very sympathetic but said to let it go. They also said to not let the incident change me. Both officers were warm and reassuring that caution next time would be a good idea.

    So let it go...you used your own money, and did it on your own cognizance, so your employer has nothing to do with it.

    Be well, be warm and just be a little more careful with your kindnesses.

    -Doug of meninlove



    oh wow! all of a sudden my 40$ seems serioulsy insignificant!



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    Apr 06, 2009 1:39 AM GMT


    noah, your $40 isn't insignificant at all. It's as good as $400! It was something you gave of yourself (which impressed the hell out of both Bill and I) and that's why it feels bad. You're obviously a man worth knowing by your kindness to a stranger. That's beyond price.
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    Apr 06, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
    RunninchltSo potentially trusting this guy could cost you 80 bucks or your job. You've got to operate with some sense man. Just because someone's cute and has a sob story it doesn't mean they're honest.


    noahcresmorethe dude really looked like he was on the verge of tears that his little girl was sick.. so.. the fact that he was cute wsnt the real thing that made make the decision.. but his little girl lol.


    Whoops, I didn't mean that to sound as toolish as it did, I really have no doubts that your intentions were good and you weren't just smitten by the handsome stranger. I apologize, that sounded really bad on my part.

    I really think the fact that you didn't get hurt is the most important thing since you mentioned a man with a knife came in. You didn't elaborate there, but there's always the possibility there's a connection between the two of them.

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    Apr 06, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    Runninchlt said
    RunninchltSo potentially trusting this guy could cost you 80 bucks or your job. You've got to operate with some sense man. Just because someone's cute and has a sob story it doesn't mean they're honest.


    noahcresmorethe dude really looked like he was on the verge of tears that his little girl was sick.. so.. the fact that he was cute wsnt the real thing that made make the decision.. but his little girl lol.


    Whoops, I didn't mean that to sound as toolish as it did, I really have no doubts that your intentions were good and you weren't just smitten by the handsome stranger. I apologize, that sounded really bad on my part.

    I really think the fact that you didn't get hurt is the most important thing since you mentioned a man with a knife came in. You didn't elaborate there, but there's always the possibility there's a connection between the two of them.



    no worries about it, i know u didnt mean it like that icon_biggrin.gif

    Yah some dude walks in at like 5:30, an it's only me an some other girl that is workign at night. so anyways i see him coming towards me with a knife dangling from his coat, like a big, kitchen/butcher type knife.

    i give him his coffee, an all that then i go to the back, an warn the girl not to go to the front unless im there too.

    no one was harmed, but funny enough, its my dad that walked in randomly that made him leave.
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    Apr 06, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    noahcresmore saidHey there anyone who reads this. I have a problem, well more then one but only one that I need help on.

    Today at work it was eventful, if it wasnt the guy that came in with a knife, it was the dude who scammed me that made it a night!

    This cute dude comes in an says he as a favor to ask. He then proceeds to put "his" car key onto the counter an tells me its for is 35 000$ car an that i musn't lose it or he'll have my head... so i tought he just wanted me to safe keep it for a while an all that... but no he wanted to borrow 40$ for gas money because his daughter was sick at her mom's or sumthing like that.

    At first I was very hesitant, but I finaly caved in, and gave him the money. I got his name, phone number (proably fake too).. I tought only after he left t get his license plate number.

    Well he never showed up with the money..

    My friend told me this morning when I told him about it that it had happend to 2 of his friends last week.. same dude.. same amount.. almost same reason.. same phone number.. same name...

    but SHE got the license plate, she just couldnt take a picture.. but where I work we have cameras all over, one of them is bound to have gotten a good view of him.

    So here's my question do i ask my supervisor to look at the cameras so that i can have a picture of him?.. here's the dilema.. if i do that I'll lose my job almost certainly...


    If anyone Can help me please so.. I know it's only 40$ but its not the first time he does it.. but I also need the job.


    Stephane


    Live and learn. We all have a story or two about being conned by a dirt bag. It comes with being a giver.

    You can look at the video, but, it's not going to get you the $40.00 back. That's gone.

    Make an entry in your Quickbooks. Fraud: $40.00 and move on.
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    Apr 06, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
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    Runninchlt said
    RunninchltSo potentially trusting this guy could cost you 80 bucks or your job. You've got to operate with some sense man. Just because someone's cute and has a sob story it doesn't mean they're honest.


    noahcresmorethe dude really looked like he was on the verge of tears that his little girl was sick.. so.. the fact that he was cute wsnt the real thing that made make the decision.. but his little girl lol.


    Whoops, I didn't mean that to sound as toolish as it did, I really have no doubts that your intentions were good and you weren't just smitten by the handsome stranger. I apologize, that sounded really bad on my part.

    I really think the fact that you didn't get hurt is the most important thing since you mentioned a man with a knife came in. You didn't elaborate there, but there's always the possibility there's a connection between the two of them.



    no worries about it, i know u didnt mean it like that icon_biggrin.gif

    Yah some dude walks in at like 5:30, an it's only me an some other girl that is workign at night. so anyways i see him coming towards me with a knife dangling from his coat, like a big, kitchen/butcher type knife.

    i give him his coffee, an all that then i go to the back, an warn the girl not to go to the front unless im there too.

    no one was harmed, but funny enough, its my dad that walked in randomly that made him leave.


    That is pretty weird. Glad he wasn't waving it around trying to stab people or anything though.