What am I suppose to do with your number?

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    Apr 05, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    I will go out with a small group of friends and I just want to hang out with them and dance my ass off. There is always the guy or two that starts dancing with us, and that is fine, but then they want to exchange numbers. I don't mind if it is a platonic thing, but 90% of the time it is not, and 99% of the time I don't find them attractive. When this first started to happen I would take their number and delete it 5 minutes later, but that made me feel like a douche. So then I was just honest and I told them that I didn't want to exchange numbers. I thought it was a good idea, but no one seemed to like honesty.

    Is there a polite way to omit exchanging numbers and not offend that personicon_question.gif
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    Apr 05, 2009 11:20 PM GMT
    How bout exchanging numbers then deleting it 5 mins later?
    Oh wait we tried that one..

    I tell them I don't give out my number to anyone 'cuz last time I did, the guy blew up my phone and I had to change numbers.' icon_biggrin.gif





    Or you could just 'Shush, dont ruin the moment'
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    Apr 05, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    No problemo amigo, give out mine... cero cero nueve siete uno cinco cero ocho cuatro siete dos cinco nueve tres... and tell them you're just on short holiday and actually live in the United Arab Emirates... I'll send you a weekly report. ha ha ha! Miss you... Hugs to 'Mo! icon_razz.gificon_wink.gificon_cool.gif
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    Apr 05, 2009 11:42 PM GMT
    Give them a rejection hotline...but then, if they immeadiately call it, they'll find out and icon_redface.gif

    Just take the number, and if they call you tell them it's not going to work out with you when they're some place else.
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    Apr 05, 2009 11:42 PM GMT
    oh pooooooooooooooooooor you....

    be honest.. they don't like it tough shit
  • GQjock

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    Apr 06, 2009 12:01 AM GMT
    Phone numbers are like Christmas presents

    You take them and say thank you .... and then leave them be icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:25 AM GMT
    oh just tell him "as if!" with a look of shocked incredulity on your face.....and get it over with
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:37 AM GMT
    Whatever makes you feel comfortable. You are not obligated to exchange numbers just because they decided to give you theirs nor do you have to explain yourself as to why you don't want to give them your number.

    A simple "Thanks but no thanks" is really all that is needed. It's cowardly and rude to take a number that you have no intention of calling in the first place. It's kinda cruel too. Honesty is like a rose. You admire it for it's beauty and how delicate its petals are til you grab it by the stem and realize how harsh it is.

    They will get over it and eventually so will you too.
  • EricLA

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    Apr 06, 2009 12:38 AM GMT
    Yeah, I like the "Shhh, don't ruin the moment" suggestion.

    But seriously, rejection can be tough. I think the respectful thing is to say what you have nicely: "Sorry, I'm just here to dance with friends, I'm not looking to exchange numbers." If they don't like that answer, then it's on them not you.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Apr 06, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    Oh gawd....I remember the days where I would still get asked for my number...LOL...Enjoy it & have fun while it last, cuz once your "old" its over...LOL
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    Apr 06, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    You could just say you aren't dating right now.

    Though you're basically smearing yourself with pig guts, jumping into a shark tank, and then complaining about getting bitten. If you don't want to get hit on then don't frequent places where guys routinely hit on each other.

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    Apr 06, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    GQjock saidPhone numbers are like Christmas presents

    You take them and say thank you .... and then leave them be icon_wink.gif


    I love it!
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    Apr 06, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    Just break into your own special rendition of....

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    Apr 06, 2009 2:17 AM GMT
    What does it say about you if you lie? Just fess up the truth. You're not into them and the most that would happen might be a friendship. As others have said, rejection can be a bitch, but who hasn't been rejected. If they get bent out of shape, that really is on them. You are just the preverbial messenger at that point.
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    Apr 06, 2009 2:19 AM GMT
    1. Next time you go out, take the number, but don't give him your's.

    2. The time after that when someone asks for your number give him the guy's number from the first time.

    Repeat as necessary. Who knows you might spark something. Haha
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    Apr 06, 2009 3:45 AM GMT


    That sounds like fun. Ask, "What? we just met! Maybe later." and end it there. Have a little fun yourself with them. If they gave it out that casually, you can take it that casually. If you accept a number in fun and friendship, casual or not, their own intentions have to give way to how you decide, as the ball's now in your court. Feel free to swing that racket and hit that ball in any angle you see fit. It'll frustrate a few, but you can make a couple of good friends of the sincere. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:00 AM GMT
    Say you don't own a phone!
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:10 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidoh pooooooooooooooooooor you....

    be honest.. they don't like it tough shit



    AMEN!!!!
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    CaptainPlanet saidI will go out with a small group of friends and I just want to hang out with them and dance my ass off. There is always the guy or two that starts dancing with us, and that is fine, but then they want to exchange numbers. I don't mind if it is a platonic thing, but 90% of the time it is not, and 99% of the time I don't find them attractive. When this first started to happen I would take their number and delete it 5 minutes later, but that made me feel like a douche. So then I was just honest and I told them that I didn't want to exchange numbers. I thought it was a good idea, but no one seemed to like honesty.

    Is there a polite way to omit exchanging numbers and not offend that personicon_question.gif


    I'm usually honest right up front, and yes that has earned me the label of 'bitch'. I don't say it with any attitude or anything, so I'm guessing it's just a reaction to honesty. Rejection sucks, makes sense people would get defensive.

    Bottom line? You try to give me your number, and I don't want it? I'm not taking it. End of story.

    Yea they probably hate you in that moment... but I'd prefer someone telling me they don't want my number, then having them take it and wondering if/when they're going to call - which will never happen because they didn't want it in the first place. I'm very big on knowing where I stand with people, and make the same effort to let others know where they stand with me. That's all.
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:14 AM GMT
    copy it down. give it to the next guy who asks for your number.
    maybe they'll be happy together.
  • calibro

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    Apr 06, 2009 4:17 AM GMT
    I say go with a white lie. Tell them you have a boyfriend so aren't interested. Besides, you're a hottie, so it's not like it would beyond belief that someone already snagged you up. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:18 AM GMT
    My non-fat cappuccino in starbucks last week came with a phone number and a smiley face on it icon_cool.gif

    it was a first for me, i wondered the same thing
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    Apr 06, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    Thank you for all the help guys. Does anyone want to give me their number? I promise to give it to the next guy that wants mine... Unless he is hot. In that case I have dibs.

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    Apr 06, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    ZiMsTeR saidNo problemo amigo, give out mine... cero cero nueve siete uno cinco cero ocho cuatro siete dos cinco nueve tres... and tell them you're just on short holiday and actually live in the United Arab Emirates... I'll send you a weekly report. ha ha ha! Miss you... Hugs to 'Mo! icon_razz.gificon_wink.gificon_cool.gif



    Brilliant! icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 07, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Tell them you'll gladly exchange numbers with them...your phone number for their credit card number. icon_razz.gif