Unintended social consequences with coworkers

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    Apr 08, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    First, I really want to thank everyone who commented in my original delurking thread (http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/480488/). I never would have imagined the amazing amount of support you guys have provided! I'm totally floored.

    Now that I'm approaching the 60 pound point, I've noticed my weight loss is having interesting effects on those around me, especially my coworkers. I'm highly amused. I never imagined that my path would affect those around me so much. It can be easy for us to get out of health or gain weight because we sit at benches and computers all day designing and executing experiments.

    1) This is something I've labeled "Not the worst guy" effect. When I started dieting and exercise, people kind of said, "Oh, that's nice". And I was the fattest, most out of shape person in my lab. Now, after all these months and pounds lost, I'm getting very close to not being the 'worst guy' anymore, and it seems like this has spawned people to get into action. I've been told by my coworkers that I've inspired some to diet (eat right) and others to start back up the exercise that they fell out of the habit of doing! I think it's easy to be lazy/lazier when you can compare yourself to people around you, and say, "there's always someone worse". But now that I'm about to leave that position, I think others are getting into action.

    2) I used to keep a well-stocked candy and chocolate bowl, and people loved it. I couldn't keep the damn thing filled up, and there was never a compliant about it. However, in the last month, as we've been talking about diets more and exercise more, people actually started to complain about the free candy, because they felt it was hurting their new weight-loss efforts! The lab actually asked if I would replace the candy with fruit! So now, I buy a shit-load of fruit once a week and haul it into the lab for everyone to eat instead of candy.

    3) I've been chugging along with my exercise and dieting ok, on my own. People talked about how if you do things with buddies, that you form positive competition to encourage better results. I'm not exactly clear how this happened, but I was suddenly entered into a weight-loss challenge with two other guys in my lab, and we are each ponying up 50 bucks to the winner after 3 months. This is funny to me, because I'm at a point where I felt like I was fine without competition, but I figure it can't hurt. But we never had an event like this in our lab's history in the past.

    I'm really looking forward to see what additional social changes the future will bring now that it's more than me in my pool of coworkers that is working hard to improve their health.
  • cesarin03

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    May 06, 2009 5:38 PM GMT
    ruggie said

    2) I used to keep a well-stocked candy and chocolate bowl, and people loved it. I couldn't keep the damn thing filled up, and there was never a compliant about it. However, in the last month, as we've been talking about diets more and exercise more, people actually started to complain about the free candy, because they felt it was hurting their new weight-loss efforts! The lab actually asked if I would replace the candy with fruit! So now, I buy a shit-load of fruit once a week and haul it into the lab for everyone to eat instead of candy.


    I hope they are paying for your fruit, considering you stocked candy because you felt like it. It sounds like you were forced and that its inconveniencing you... i'm sure someone else in the lab can take over that task if need be!

    ruggie said3) I've been chugging along with my exercise and dieting ok, on my own. People talked about how if you do things with buddies, that you form positive competition to encourage better results. I'm not exactly clear how this happened, but I was suddenly entered into a weight-loss challenge with two other guys in my lab, and we are each ponying up 50 bucks to the winner after 3 months. This is funny to me, because I'm at a point where I felt like I was fine without competition, but I figure it can't hurt. But we never had an event like this in our lab's history in the past.

    I'm really looking forward to see what additional social changes the future will bring now that it's more than me in my pool of coworkers that is working hard to improve their health.


    I joined a pool also with the guy i'm dating. Winner of the 16 week challenege picks a place for an overnight trip (first one) and the other pays for all meals, gas, and the room. However, its still win-win under the sheets lol.

    Congrats on your success thus far! this is my second time aroudn going through this whole process. Keep up the good work!