A decade after coming out ...

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    Oct 29, 2007 4:42 AM GMT
    I read a little of the thread about coming out and just had quick conversation with someone who just came out this year. So I'm curious about what's changed for those of us, 10 or more years later after coming out. I'll go:

    - I left the church and discovered a small and faithful circle of friends.
    - I found a life partner.
    - I moved into a neighborhood that's diverse and wonderful.
    - I started a business with two straight business partners who are absolutely wonderful to work with.
    - I'm closer to being myself than ever before, and I'm happy.

    How about you?
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    Oct 29, 2007 7:26 PM GMT
    Workin' on about 15 years now. Since then I've....

    > gone to high school.
    > graduated college
    > got a job...

    Hmm... seems being gay ain't that special.
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    Oct 29, 2007 7:37 PM GMT
    10 years later..

    - I'm in USA
    - I get few gay friends but they are the best!
    - I have a career, kinda famous .
    - I have a better, a lot better social life.
    - My parents are proud of me more than ever.
    - I'm about to get married to my true love and you're all invited!

    ... maybe it'll take a bit more than 10 years.. but hey, it worth it ! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 8:06 AM GMT
    Well for me, it has been more than 20 years since I came out. In that time I've...

    -gained enormous self-confidence and became comfortable in my own skin
    -become a better person than I was
    -dropped all the baggage of my youth and found who I really am
    -survived a heroin addiction and remained clean for 22 years and counting
    -lost too many friends to count, and one lover, to AIDS
    -watched my arrest record grow from participating in civil disobediences for various causes, including AIDS
    -found some of the best friends I'll ever have
    -discovered my spirituality
    -learned how to take any experience/situation and find a lesson within it
    -reconnected with my ancestry and traditions
    -had my heart broken a few times, and became stronger for it
    -became a political and environmental activist
    -realised that happiness does NOT depend on having a lover
    -figured out what I want to do with my life as far as career goes
    -decided to return to college at the age of 45 to get my BA
    -met and became friends with three of my biggest musical influences

    Life is good overall... and its only getting better! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 8:21 AM GMT
    I've never really not been out.

    What's all the fuss?

    Sheesh.
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    Oct 30, 2007 10:42 AM GMT
    More than a decade and a half after coming OUT:

    - I moved from the deep South to N New England and discovered a beautiful, tolerant, and vibrant communitty.
    - I finished a couple of college degrees.
    - I worked for a major computer company, left, and started my own business. A business that has suceeded beyond my wildest dreams.
    - I left the church, rediscovered my spirituality and returned to the Episcopal Church with a deeper understanding of communitty and fellowship.
    - I have traveled the world on business and for pleasure; and in the process - just when I had given up hope of it ever happening - I met my partner.
    - I moved to London to be with him.
    - After a decade+ estrangement, I have reconciled with my father.
    - After a lifetime of wishing, and hoping, and praying, the Patriots won THREE SUPERBOWLS.
    - After a lifetime of wishing, and hoping, and August/September prayers, the Red Sox won TWO WORLD SERIES.
    - I have a small circle of close friends who span the globe.
    - I am more than just content, I am happy.

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    Oct 30, 2007 12:02 PM GMT
    Twenty years after coming out, there's just not enough time to enjoy all the benefits of having built a great life together with my partner. Lots of ups and downs but mostly ups.
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    Oct 30, 2007 2:27 PM GMT
    14 years after coming out, I'm almost 12 years sober, I remain married to my wife of 20 years, I'm the best I've ever looked even though my inner critic says I'm hideous, fat and old, and my sex life is purely autoerotic.