Getting Older...

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    Oct 29, 2007 12:01 PM GMT
    ...I know age is a frequent topic here, but I want my own thread icon_lol.gif

    I'll be 37 next week (November 5th to be exact), and I'm not feeling all that great about it.

    I don't feel like I'm "pushing 40."

    From what everyone tells me, I don't look like I'm "pushing 40."

    I still like to do a lot of the fun things I've always liked to do - maybe I'm just a kid at heart with a grown up brain, hehe! I think that's why I get along so much better with people younger that me.

    Even so, I feel like I'm automatically dismissed in the dating world by a lot of guys because of age. I'm sure a lot of you other guys feel this way - how do you deal?

    I'll admit it...I'm just looking for a little encouragement here icon_biggrin.gif

    thanks!
  • Timbales

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    Oct 29, 2007 3:35 PM GMT
    I'm 37, or as I like to think of it twenty seventeen.

    When does the age thing come up? Do they ask outright?

    I read somewhere that 50 was the new 30, but I'm thinking someone 45 might have wrote it. icon_wink.gif
  • Laurence

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    Oct 29, 2007 4:07 PM GMT
    Hi Joe

    Stop obsessing and try to enjoy your life (what little you have left of it...haha..only joking).

    You're a nice looking guy who certainly shouldn't be worried about getting older, as you have a nice look that will carry you for many years to come.

    It's the Gay world, there are always going to be guys cuter and younger than you (even 20 year olds are olde compared to 16 year olds).

    Like a lot of the older guys on this site. There's plenty of action for men not in their 20s and 30s. You'll be surprised how popular you become as you get older

    You're allowed to have fun til the day you die, don't let age stop you from running around like a teenager.

    Good Luck

    Lozx

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    Oct 29, 2007 4:09 PM GMT
    I'm 27... when i wake up in the morning my body feels like it's 72!
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    Oct 29, 2007 4:13 PM GMT
    Tons of guys hit on me. Some are so young I've got to tell them no. Honestly, I wouldn't hit on me but what the hell I'm luvin it for now.
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    Oct 29, 2007 4:20 PM GMT
    Cheer up, I didn't become invisible in the gay world until I turned 50!
  • Laurence

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    Oct 29, 2007 4:26 PM GMT
    Wow. Happy birthday Chris.

    No way are you 50.

    (You must have an aging portrait in an attic somewhere).

    Have a great day.

    Lozx
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    Oct 29, 2007 4:51 PM GMT
    You know what Joe...
    I just turned 40 (October 4th)...scared the shit out of me. But then I realized, I felt no different than i did the day before. It's all in the mind. I still feel, act, some say look, like I just turned 30..not 40..
    honestly..don't worry about it. Keep your mind young and the rest will follow..hell I still have the sex drive of a 23yr old...lol
    I always say...I may grow old..but I refuse to grow old gracefully. thats why they invented "just for men" hair color...LOL
    yea yea, in the gay world everyone is obsessed with youth...there is someone for everyone out there...young guys who like older etc...hey Ive been a relationship for 14yrs with the same guy...
    what would I do if it suddenly ended? at my age? lol
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    Oct 29, 2007 5:07 PM GMT
    You know, you're as young as you feel. You have to keep lively like me. Here's a couple of pictures of me doing my best to stay fit. You can easily see that aging is not a problem. At 47, I look practically fetal.

    Me, jogging:

    workout.jpg

    Me, camping (i fell asleep in the sun that day)

    camping.jpg
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    Oct 29, 2007 6:59 PM GMT
    wow Mcgay ! you look so hot when you do these activities!!LOL

    See joescorpio.. there is something called biological age , it may be higher or lower than your correct age depending on your physical health .
    Things that can increase the biological age are usually smoking, unhealthy food and inactivity..
    so keep yourself fit and healthy it's all what we need..and the age? well, it's just a number..
    btw, you look much younger than your age icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 29, 2007 7:09 PM GMT
    Get over it.

    Aging is what we do.

    It you're feeling run down, lethargic, libido in the dumps, time to start an anti-aging regimen. It'll protect your heart, improve your mood, improve your sports performance, make you think faster, keep you leaner, protect you from Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, speed your recovery, protect you from osteoporosis, and lower your risk of prostate cancer. Lots of good science is finally being done on this (anti-aging) and a lot of the bunk that muscleheads have known for years is being exposed. There's no reason for you not to age well.

    See a good doctor. If the doctor won't do what you need / want, get rid of him / her.

    I went to lift last Thursday night. A guy, around 50, or so, walks over and says to me, "How old are you?" I said, "47." He says, "Shit, you look GOOD." I explained that I've been lifting for 32 years, and so on. He looks at me, and he says, "I bet your numbers are perfect, too!" I said "Yes, with the exception of my cholesterol being a bit low, on both sides." He said, "That's awesome. I figured as much." I said, "What's your occupation?" He said, "I'm an ER doc over at [edited]" I said, "You think I'm fucking up, Doc?" He said, "No way. I see fat folks all day long everyday. You're gonna' die of something, but, it's not something you need to be worrying about."

    Doc gave me his blessings. The proof is in the science.

    Feeling older is normal, but, feeling crappy, rundown, lethargic, does not have to be. You CAN grow old gracefully.

    Guys like me, and my friends, are proof positive, and now the science is beginning to back it all up. Actually, the science has been there for quite a while, but, more good double-blind stuff is being done now, that removes a lot of the bunk.
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    Oct 29, 2007 7:16 PM GMT
    Thanks everyone icon_smile.gif

    People often tell me that they think I'm 28-29 when they meet me in person (once, someone even guessed 25, LOL!).

    I was just reading the thread about body image, which gave a lot of the same advice that can apply to the issue of age. The thing that struck the biggest cord was:

    DiverScience wrote:"The biggest thing was the most lucky, and possibly hardest. I dated a man for 3 years, who thought I was beautiful and sexy and amazing. At some point about a year in I suddenly stopped as I was about to argue with him again about my flaws and thought, "Shit, how incredibly crass is it of me to do that? Here's a man I love and respect, but I can't respect him enough to believe him when he says I'm beautiful? Here I am effectively telling my partner he's a blind idiot."


    The last guy I dated is 24 years old. Though the relationship didn't work out, we are still great friends and he means the world to me...so, yeah, it's like I've been telling him he's a "blind idiot" every time he's paid me a compliment. Guess, I'm the blind idiot, LOL!!! icon_lol.gif

    Thanks again everyone for the replies. I'm just feeling kinda blue today icon_smile.gif

  • olden

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    Oct 29, 2007 7:21 PM GMT
    Old age is not for the weak. I am in my late 60's, swim, weightlift run my own business. Life is what you make of it and what you give to it. You will always find someone if you are willing to give your all to the relationship. Don't worry about how people see your body - worry about how people see you.
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    Oct 29, 2007 8:13 PM GMT
    I find rubbing man-juice all over my face keeps me young looking. Well, it was my Gran's advice.
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    Oct 29, 2007 8:16 PM GMT
    your own? or someone elses? icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Oct 29, 2007 9:22 PM GMT
    I wish I was 37 again, you are lucky in my books! I was that age when I met my life partner, it was a very good year for my sex life (hehehehe)!
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    Oct 30, 2007 12:22 AM GMT
    I am trying to remember 37....give me a while ... icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 12:32 AM GMT
    I can honestly say that I've enjoyed my forties thus far much more than my thirties. Stay fit, stay active and you'll stay happy. Anyone who dismisses you because of an arbitrary number on your birth certificate isn't worth your time anyway.
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    Oct 30, 2007 2:44 AM GMT
    Hey Joe...we've got the same birthday, November 5th!
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    Oct 30, 2007 2:51 AM GMT
    I'm 34, and I seem to have more luck with guys in their early 20's than guys my own age.
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    Oct 30, 2007 3:04 AM GMT
    Not to sound like a certain exercise commercial but I am in the best shape of my life at age 43 and enjoying myself.

    I don't act 43 (if you can act a number). I feel much younger biologically than I am chronologically. Don't obsess with the number. It only means you've had more time to have fun. So...don't waste that time worrying about a number.

    Have a fun, fantastic, fabulous, type of birthday. (Just be safe).

    -Chuck
  • liftordie

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    Oct 30, 2007 3:09 AM GMT
    age is really only a number. i am damn proud to be 38. i would not go back to my 20's for anything. and yeah i admit that i am pushing 40.....thank god that bitch is pushing back!!!!!!!!!!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 4:14 AM GMT
    I was pondering this, as I often ponder things :-) and the neato thing about getting older is that I'm past all the uptight bullshit.

    I REALLY don't care about a lot of things, and it suits me just fine.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 30, 2007 4:25 AM GMT
    and man and does it showicon_exclaim.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 6:24 AM GMT
    55 here. The only time it bothered me was the weekend after my b'day when we went to see a movie. I bought the tickets, went inside, and decided to hit the men's room before the show started.

    Sitting there, I noticed that my ticket (not my partner's, he's 4 months younger) said "SENIOR TICKET".

    "Oh, shit!" I thought... "I'm a fuckin' SENIOR CITIZEN."

    Let's just say I'm glad it was a comedy. By the time the movie was over, I'd pretty much forgotten about the whole thing - or was past caring about it.

    It's a label. That's all. You age is what you make it to be. Frankly, I wouldn't be 24 again if you paid me - WAY too much drama! (Although I would have started working out much younger....)

    Joey