Between a rock and a hard place

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    Apr 10, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
    Even after coming out to my mom I still don't feel comfortable telling her about where I'm going with other guys.

    Even at this time a guy I like invited me over tonight so we can talk and get to know each other a little better, even though I spent a few hours at his place earlier today after coming from the clinic for having a biopsy. Since this is close to 11PM I'm a bit concerned about having to answer a lot of questions my mom might have for me.

    I tend to always follow the rules of the home, by not staying to late and giving a phone call when I'm heading home. Of course I'm 21 and that means being able to make my own decisions on my own terms, but I would just end up giving myself a guilt trip at the end for lying to her and I would be concerned about what she would think of me.

    How can let my mom about these kinds of things, especially since we haven't sat down and spoken about my coming out? I would like to tell her that I'd like to hang out with guys even if its real late and she doesn't approve of my coming and going.
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    Apr 10, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    "I was out with a new friend that I just made. We had a really good time talking. What did you do this evening, mom?"

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    Apr 10, 2009 3:13 AM GMT
    First, no one invite you over to their house at 11Pm to just chat. The only thing that will be coming out of his mouth is your cum. If you tell your mom at 11 that you are going over a friends to talk she knows that "talk" is code for "fuck like rabbits". Going out to meet some friends for a drink, meeting some friends for a late showing of a movie, something that is not specific and involves a group is a nice little white lie to keep the image of a rim job out of your poor mothers brain.
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    Apr 10, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
    But it's none of mom's business now. So he gives her a perfunctory answer and then seques the conversation to her.
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    Apr 10, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    I agree with the above posters. Be vague but engaging so she has no need question you further...unless she's overbearing - move in with the new guy if that's the case!
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    Apr 10, 2009 5:27 AM GMT
    Looknrnd saidI agree with the above posters. Be vague but engaging so she has no need question you further...unless she's overbearing - move in with the new guy if that's the case!

    If mom is overbearing or nosy then she has nobody to blame but herself and you just tell her "You asked. If you are just going get upset, dont ask."
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    Apr 10, 2009 10:34 AM GMT
    Caslon10000 said
    Looknrnd saidI agree with the above posters. Be vague but engaging so she has no need question you further...unless she's overbearing - move in with the new guy if that's the case!

    If mom is overbearing or nosy then she has nobody to blame but herself and you just tell her "You asked. If you are just going get upset, dont ask."


    I concur!
  • twostroke

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    Apr 10, 2009 10:43 AM GMT
    One thing is being honest and truthful about being gay -and quite right to tell your parents if they ask or just because you like them to know.

    Quite another is to feel obliged to tell them who you sleep with and all the more saucy bits. -THAT´S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS-

    If they accept it, fine. if not, well..... there´s a big world out there to discover.