To much worrying

  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 10, 2009 2:14 PM GMT
    I have to admit this. One of my worst habit is worrying. I worry about everything. Even if I have nothing to worry about , I will find a problem so I can induge in worrying. Only after reading a excellent book "How to stop worrying, and to start living " by Dale Carnegie that my worrying habit can be control. But old habit die hard and sometimes I will return back to my destructive way.

    Is there anyone here suffer the same problem. Probably you guys can help me to overcome this problem. Just saying "Dont worry Be Happy" not going to do it. It more complicated and emotional than that.
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    Apr 10, 2009 5:54 PM GMT
    You gotta just work threw it. When you start to worry about something. Do something that keeps your mind off it. Work out, make something, if you get a thought somehow forget about it or ignore it. Little steps.

    I'm sure you will get over it... so stop worrying about it. icon_smile.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 12, 2009 1:53 PM GMT
    Rich,

    I see, you have read the book by Dale Carnegie, "How to stop worrying and to start living". Thats is one of the chapter in the book. I try my best to follow them, but worrying habit is hard to break. I need to keep reading the book in order to have more selves control of myself.

    Worry give you nothing but stress and anxiety. It limit your ability to think of solution and . looking for cause of the problem.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 12, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    I used to be a "worrier" when I was a kid.... and while I can "worry" now, I think its controled, reasonable concern that I deal with in a mature, way.
    I control it.. not vice versa.

    You say why did it change" I think it honestly changed as I grew up, gained confidence in who I am as a man. I run an investment firm, I have financial clients... with this economy and market, I have a great reason to "worry" and again.... there is concern, but I don't worry. We deal with things as best as possible.. but I have a life to live and I want it to be a happy and fulfilled one.
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    Apr 13, 2009 4:18 AM GMT
    I am also a big worrier but much better than I used to be in my 20's.

    The thing that helps me most is to ask if the worry will be a concern in 5yrs?

    Most often the answer is no. If you answer yes, then worry.icon_confused.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 13, 2009 4:21 AM GMT
    My ex is a big, big time worrier He spends time thinking of new things to worry about!
    It is more complicated than simply having the "right" mindset. Perhaps it is genetic, neurological imbalance or chemical imbalance?
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    Apr 13, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    Rich0008 saidYou gotta just work threw it. When you start to worry about something. Do something that keeps your mind off it. Work out, make something, if you get a thought somehow forget about it or ignore it. Little steps.

    I'm sure you will get over it... so stop worrying about it. icon_smile.gif


    How is that not:

    zakariahzol saidJust saying "Dont worry Be Happy" not going to do it. It more complicated and emotional than that.


    What is really helpful in those moments of worry to identify it. "Oh, I'm worrying now." The more you are able to catch yourself the great your ability to not let your mind keep running away with worrying. There's more to do later with what the worries are about, but this is a big starter that most people don't quite get the handle of. Wishing you all the best in learning to calm your thoughts.
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    Apr 13, 2009 4:34 AM GMT
    i suffer the same problem. and seriously, not taking things too seriously IS my remedy. its not always easy- its like fighting a war inside myself- one minute i'll be worrying myself sick (immune system plummets, acne breaks out, sleep is lost, etc), and the next i'll be rationalizing myself into not caring about anything at all, as a defense mechanism. then, after i've neglected it all and things have built up, i have to worry about it again. there is no cure. thinking your way out doesn't help for long. i think one just has to outgrow it through life's experiences (?)
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    Apr 13, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    But you say you like to worry.

    You, "indulge in worrying."

    Don't, "Don't worry, be happy", just work to find solutions for your concerns. To that end, you may or may not "be happy." But you'll have reached some conclusion to your dilemmas OR trilemmas! oh Noes! What will you do now?!
  • DiverScience

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    Apr 13, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    I worry incessantly. Habit from my mother. I worry about things far too far in the future to plan for.

    My method is to distract myself with hobbies.
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    Apr 13, 2009 7:01 AM GMT
    when I start to worry.. I tell me self.. Self (cause i don't like talking in the third person.. sorta creepy ya know) I say "Self, one day, your gonna be dead, rotting in the ground, worms will feast upon your eyes, bugs will crawl all over you, things will move about silently eating away at the mush in your brains"

    Then.. I make a note to my self..

    Get Cremated..
  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 13, 2009 12:22 PM GMT
    Swimbikerun

    "Perhaps it is genetic, neurological imbalance or chemical imbalance"

    I kinda agree with the genetic part. My late mother was an extreme worrier. I probably inheritance this worrying problem from her. However, some article I read suggest that worrying is a learn habit. It kinda self pity, low selves esteem and low confident. I am better than before but still old habit die hard.
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    Apr 13, 2009 12:25 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidwhen I start to worry.. I tell me self.. Self (cause i don't like talking in the third person.. sorta creepy ya know) I say "Self, one day, your gonna be dead, rotting in the ground, worms will feast upon your eyes, bugs will crawl all over you, things will move about silently eating away at the mush in your brains"

    Then.. I make a note to my self..

    Get Cremated..



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    Apr 13, 2009 12:29 PM GMT
    I get it from my mother as well. I worry a lot, my last sort-of-bf said I think too much.

    I guess it's related to my profession as well, I spend all day thinking about what is / could be going wrong, and fixing problems.
  • beaujangle

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    Apr 13, 2009 12:53 PM GMT
    I worry a lot but I have also learnt relaxation techniques like meditation. It calms my mind and solutions start appearing!

    Try it; it works for me.
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 13, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidSwimbikerun

    "Perhaps it is genetic, neurological imbalance or chemical imbalance"

    I kinda agree with the genetic part. My late mother was an extreme worrier. I probably inheritance this worrying problem from her. However, some article I read suggest that worrying is a learn habit. It kinda self pity, low selves esteem and low confident. I am better than before but still old habit die hard.
    Anecdotally it appears deeper and more ingrained than a learned habit. It's almost like a cigarette habit.