real men out there???

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    Apr 10, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
    alrite here goes....are there really men out there(san francisco) who are like want to meet the nice guy and into relationship(LTR,monogamous) ????

    cos i hav come across a lot of guys who claim to be like that just to bed the guys,which i find to be unfair. I mean isnt that why there guys who openly believe in open relationship or just fling or stuff like that...i totally salut those guys for being frank and honest and the actually cheaters here are the ones who just goes on pretending he's relationship type and sleep with this guy for long time then get tire of him and jumps to next guy.

    its so freaking easy to see guys who are hot,ripped up,muscular and sexy but hard to see guys with good heart or the ones who believe in old fashioned dating ,LTR ,monogamous thing......no wonder people say if u r looking for the things mentioned above, then san francisco is not the place for you,first i thought its so untrue for i came across alot of happy couples but as months passed by,guess im proven wrong.....

    what u guys gotta say about this??
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    Apr 10, 2009 9:59 PM GMT
    San Francisco, LA, etc... It doesn’t matter where you at. Guys will always continue what they do...If anything there is good men and bad men everywhere. There are so many sexy men out there that it is naturally to meet them. Life is all about interaction. Unfortunately you really can't control anyone but yourself. But to answer your question, yes there are good men who you can trust though it will take time and patients from both men in the relationship.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Apr 11, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    It pains me to read posts like this.
    Of course there are many bad men who do cheat but there are also nice guys that ARE into monogamous, loving long term relationships.
    I am not sure that becoming ripped up and overly muscular is conducive to being monogamous and having a good heart.


    I for one AM looking for a loving, loyal, monogamous, ltr relationship.

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    Apr 11, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    TallGWMvballer saidI am not sure that becoming ripped up and overly muscular is conducive to being monogamous and having a good heart.
    umm your not being serious are you...
  • swimbikerun

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    Apr 11, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    TallGWMvballer said

    I for one AM looking for a loving, loyal, monogamous, ltr relationship.

    But spiteful, manipulative, group hookups can be so hot!icon_twisted.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 11, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    You're gorgeous and adorable. Love will find you. You don't have to go looking for it.
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    Apr 11, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Men are pigs! Sadly, you have to get in the mud with 'em to find one tired of rolling around in his own feces. Make a rule to not give "IT" up as quickly and you'll be better off. Otherwise, boys like you and I just have to deal with it and perhaps love will find us. *Crossing Fingers for current guy"
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    Apr 11, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Looknrnd saidMen are pigs! Sadly, you have to get in the mud with 'em to find one tired of rolling around in his own feces. Make a rule to not give "IT" up as quickly and you'll be better off. Otherwise, boys like you and I just have to deal with it and perhaps love will find us. *Crossing Fingers for current guy"

    Says the fella who wants nuffin more then to be enslaved ba moi icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 11, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    love is out there among very handsome men like yourself, of course it is. just think of it in the way that a guy who is into playing the field is not your type, don't hold it against him, his experience may be such that that's all he wants or can handle. keep dating and someone of your same thinking on monogomy will come your way, probably when and where you least expect it. I think the guy above me who advised not giving your affections quickly to anyone will help your find someone with your standards. just do only those things that your comfortable with and can feel good about yourself after 'the deed', after all it is you that have to live with yourself, and you that you must please to be happy. he will come along, i'd bet on it, so don't change to conform, your great the way you are.
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    Apr 11, 2009 1:27 AM GMT
    I find it funny how its always kids posting these sorts of questions.. like.. cause they aren't in a long term relationship with a white picket fence two kids, a dog and a beemer in the drive way by the time there 20 its like.. all men are dogs
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    Apr 11, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI find it funny how its always kids posting these sorts of questions.. like.. cause they aren't in a long term relationship with a white picket fence two kids, a dog and a beemer in the drive way by the time there 20 its like.. all men are dogs


    If they're this bitter this young, they have a long road ahead...
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:02 AM GMT

    Ahem, Looknrnd, you're a man and you're no piggie!
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:04 AM GMT
    Oi, mark me down as the "monogamous thing"

    One lover for me! (and i think i've found him!) here's to hoping :p
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI find it funny how its always kids posting these sorts of questions.. like.. cause they aren't in a long term relationship with a white picket fence two kids, a dog and a beemer in the drive way by the time there 20 its like.. all men are dogs


    the thing is, we've seen tons of these posts already...which means there are a lot of young kids willing to have a long term relationship, but for some reason they cant never find each other....

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    I think the problem is that: 49% of the times we want a LTR with guys who dont want such thing, and on 50% we dont want a LTR with most of the guys who do want a relationship with us. The 1% left are the odds of finding reciprocity. Its not you its not them, thats just the way it is.
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:21 AM GMT
    charlitos said
    lilTanker saidI find it funny how its always kids posting these sorts of questions.. like.. cause they aren't in a long term relationship with a white picket fence two kids, a dog and a beemer in the drive way by the time there 20 its like.. all men are dogs


    the thing is, we've seen tons of these posts already...which means there are a lot of young kids willing to have a long term relationship, but for some reason they cant never find each other

    there is a very good reason for that...

    You can't have one.. cause ya don't know how..

    all things must be learnt in one way or the other
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:22 AM GMT
    hell at 20 your barely equipped to handle your own life and you wanna go shack up with someone and have that romantic fairy tail you been watching on tv.. ah huh..
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:26 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidhell at 20 your barely equipped to handle your own life and you wanna go shack up with someone and have that romantic fairy tail you been watching on tv.. ah huh..


    you have to start somewhere...and when it comes to feelings, the best way to learn is by experience. If we want love let us search love and let us fail trying. That's the only way we can get to realize what we really want or need.
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:36 AM GMT


    Charlitos said, "you have to start somewhere...and when it comes to feelings, the best way to learn is by experience. If we want love let us search love and let us fail trying. That's the only way we can get to realize what we really want or need."


    YES, THIS!
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    charlitos said
    lilTanker saidhell at 20 your barely equipped to handle your own life and you wanna go shack up with someone and have that romantic fairy tail you been watching on tv.. ah huh..


    you have to start somewhere...and when it comes to feelings, the best way to learn is by experience. If we want love let us search love and let us fail trying. That's the only way we can get to realize what we really want or need.


    We learn by experience or by being with those who have experience. Sometimes it is best to have a guide that knows the terrain, and as cheesy as this sounds, especially for mapping the human heart.

    I believe that an inner beauty does not exclude an exterior beauty. That's for any age.
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    Apr 11, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    ur good looking, looking for a LTR monogamous relationship in the gay bar scene or most gay social events is about as useless as finding meaning in a Paulie Shore movie. yeah i sound bitter, but honestly it aint gonna happen. lower ur standards and look for something with more substance.

    Brad Pitts with hearts of gold don't exist.
  • xKorix

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    Apr 11, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    No one is making you date assholes. Its your choice buddy.
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    Apr 11, 2009 5:16 AM GMT
    slayer_22 said
    what u guys gotta say about this??


    huucked un. Foniks werked fer u!



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    Apr 11, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    charlitos said
    lilTanker saidhell at 20 your barely equipped to handle your own life and you wanna go shack up with someone and have that romantic fairy tail you been watching on tv.. ah huh..


    you have to start somewhere...and when it comes to feelings, the best way to learn is by experience. If we want love let us search love and let us fail trying. That's the only way we can get to realize what we really want or need.
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Charlitos -- you make good sense !!! i'll tell you this, if i were the guy at the top who started this conversation, i'd be looking your direction cause it sounds like you two agree. lol !!!! now you know i would not be trying to match make or anything !!!! ha !!!! just sayin ya no !!!!
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    Apr 11, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
    Looknrnd saidMen are pigs! Sadly, you have to get in the mud with 'em to find one tired of rolling around in his own feces.


    lilTanker said
    I find it funny how its always kids posting these sorts of questions.. like.. cause they aren't in a long term relationship with a white picket fence two kids, a dog and a beemer in the drive way by the time there 20 its like.. all men are dogs


    Looknrnd almost got it right and how dare liltanker compare the beloved animal, the dog, to man? Men are pigs. You just have to find the cleanest one!

    Seriously though, don't you think the axiom is truer than not: You get back what you put out? I am of the mind that 90% of the time, we know when the guy sitting across from us is not the one, yet for some strange reason, we dismiss every red flag waving frantically in front of us. Think about it this way: You already have a general idea of what it is you want from a guy. Now, beside that list make a list of what it is you have to offer the potential Mr. Right. If it is about as balanced as any state or national budget, well, there you have it. Generally, you are not gonna get what you want unless you have it to give in return.
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    Apr 11, 2009 5:59 AM GMT
    I'll be 20 in June and i started dating when I was 15 another thing about the month of June is that I will have been single now for 2 years. Looking back now on my past I have no regrets I lived and learned just like everyone else and may have been hurt then but I can look back on everything now with a different outlook on it all.

    My advice is this .... " You can't write your auto-biography in advance" yes I know deep down inside you'd love to settle down just like I myself would but that doesn't mean it will happen nor should it be your only means of happiness.

    Although maybe I feel I'm ready for it now when it's ready to be in my life it will be and the same goes with you. I don't go looking for love because it falls into your life when it's meant too.

    Right now focus on all the positive things in your life your friends and family and also focus on yourself and your career then when mr.right comes along great but at least then you'll be the best you that you can be and you'll know you can be just as happy on your own.

    A guy should make you feel complete but a guy should never complete you cause only you can complete yourself.

    Always know the one for you is out their but don't try and plan what chapter of your life he will enter, cause you can't and he will when he's meant too.

    P.S: all this advice is coming from a guy who's still only 19. lol

    Best of Wishes,
    Kev