Dating a guy with a baby.............

  • gary954

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    Apr 12, 2009 12:28 AM GMT
    Just curious, would you date a guy with a small child? It's like a ready made family......icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    yes i would...

    it would be a new experience, but definately an option.
  • SirEllingtonB...

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    Apr 12, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    Daddy jokes aside - yes, I would icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:21 AM GMT
    I think it would be a serious decision on the childless guy. Dating a man without a baby is easier since if a child should be in the picture later, its a mutual decision.

    If the childless guy walks into the relationship with a man who does have a kid, he's going to have to give up a lot, be responsible, be loving and caring whether he likes to or not since hes not #1. It may sound selfish but it just depends on how much the childless guy loves daddy.

    But to answer your question, it depends, is the guy Gerald Butler??
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    yes.. gawd forbid you weren't his number one, his all.. his everything, hes total obsessive thought.. that would be terrible to play second fiddle..

    i would have a problem with it.. it shows something more..
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    Apr 12, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidyes.. gawd forbid you weren't his number one, his all.. his everything, hes total obsessive thought.. that would be terrible to play second fiddle..

    i would have a problem with it.. it shows something more..


    ok so it sounds selfishicon_rolleyes.gif Its probably just the 18 in me talking liltanker sheesh.icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:13 AM GMT
    GNR7600 saidok so it sounds selfishicon_rolleyes.gif Its probably just the 18 in me talking liltanker sheesh.icon_wink.gif
    Really??????? I'd never have guessed icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:38 AM GMT


    Yes, But on the condition that the little child remains a baby and does not later transform into a creature akin to a gremlin (i.e. cute while a baby but monstrous as soon as babyhood is transcended).
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:45 AM GMT
    gary954 saidJust curious, would you date a guy with a small child? It's like a ready made family......


    Well, I wouldn't NOT date a guy because he has a child...that's for sure.

    I'm also not one of those people who feels "incomplete" without a partner, so if I'm not someone's #1, I'm fine with that, lol.
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:51 AM GMT
    It wouldn't bother me as long as I didn't have to change diapers.

    Just kidding. What's a little bit of gerber poo between lovers.
  • dreamer121

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    Apr 12, 2009 3:56 AM GMT
    I would, but shouldn't, I'm not ready to, but once i get on my feet and established i'd have no problem with it. Go get 'em dad!
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    Apr 12, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    Sure would. After careful consideration about how my life would change and knowing that I would make the child my number 1 as well. I would also hope the guy with the child would know whether or not I was right to be a second dad to his child.
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    Apr 12, 2009 6:40 AM GMT
    I want a big family, so yeah I would. I don't know that I'd date someone with older kids, as that's not always fun for the kids or the guy coming into the family. For anyone who has a single parent, they can vouch for me.

    I think it would be something nice to try. I'd hate the breakup though.
  • ROYCE13

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    Apr 12, 2009 6:42 AM GMT
    Recently, yes I have.

  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 12, 2009 7:42 AM GMT
    Yes, yes I love kids. Congratulation on becoming a dad.
  • phunkie

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    Apr 12, 2009 7:49 AM GMT
    Yes I would.
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    Apr 12, 2009 7:52 AM GMT
    my ex had 3 kids....to this day i still love em and wouldn't trade any of the experiences i had with them for anything.
  • underbearboy

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    Apr 12, 2009 12:34 PM GMT
    I think the question I would ask is not would I date someone who had a child, as much as would I be partners with him (if I were to be asked later). I congratulate you on becoming a father... doing so later in your life must have made for a thoughful decision though? I think I'd want to know that he wanted to include me in his child's life, and that I wouldn't feel like I was second fiddle most of the time. Your partner would want to be 'daddy' as well, I would think, and to feel part of a loving family with you and your child.

    Obviously there are also financial and care decisions (just in case) something ever happened to you, for any reason.

    But yeah, I'm not sure I'd be cut out to be a good father... but I'd make for a darn good interesting uncle! LOL

    Peace and best wishes!!!
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    Apr 12, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    I would and I have. For me the only downside was when the relationship ended, the "family" ended. I still love my ex's kids and try to keep up with them as much as possible given they live in another country.

    It can be difficult but it is not an issue for me.
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    gary954 saidJust curious, would you date a guy with a small child? It's like a ready made family......icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif


    See, that's my problem with the whole issue. It's not a ready-made family. At that point, the family consists of two members: the father and the child. The guy the father is dating is not part of the family. As long as the father understands that, I'd date him. But if he tried to turn me into a father and husband on date # 3, I'd dismiss him immediately.

    But I'm not sure how feasible it would be for me to date someone with a kid now. Since I'm about to start law school, I think remaining single is the better choice.
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    Just wondering.... Where is the mother of the child and why does she not have custody, which is the norm?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    nope. my heart's only big enough for two- myself and one other. i can't divide it that many ways. not yet, at this point in my life, at least.
  • bmw0

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    Apr 12, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    I think a man that has a child can be a little more attractive. I guess it all depends on what you are looking for. If they are responsible enough to actually care for their child, they may be responsible enough to care for someone long term. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    bmw0 saidI think a man that has a child can be a little more attractive. I guess it all depends on what you are looking for. If they are responsible enough to actually care for their child, they may be responsible enough to care for someone long term. icon_biggrin.gif



    having a child and keeping it alive do not make a person responsible, necessarily. i know examples.
  • gary954

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    Apr 12, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    czarodziej said
    bmw0 saidI think a man that has a child can be a little more attractive. I guess it all depends on what you are looking for. If they are responsible enough to actually care for their child, they may be responsible enough to care for someone long term. icon_biggrin.gif



    having a child and keeping it alive do not make a person responsible, necessarily. i know examples.


    You are right about that. But your feeling about dating a guy with a baby, is just your age talking, You are just a kid yourself. I felt the same way at your age.