yz250mxrida saidI'm pretty much brand new to the gay scene and I don’t have much, if any experience with relationships. I've had two encounters with other guys and to be honest....I don’t think it was worth being with either of them because in the end.... although the sex was incredibly passionate and loving I realized it meant nothing to THEM after. Unfortunately it meant a lot to me and I became overly attached. However, is that the status quo for the gay community?? Do most gay guys have the ability to have loving, caring, passionate sex with you then never want to see you again?? I don’t get it? Both these guys chased me and threw themselves at me. I'm trying not to become cynical but the two guys I was with had the mentality of a prostitute and I hope that’s not the norm. What are your experiences with these types of people and how do you deal with it if you become too emotionally attached to one?
Take a breath, Bud, you'll be fine. Lots of gay guys are incapable of attachments because of esteem issues, and disconnect in a way that can really make you wonder.
Most athletes that are accomplished have a higher level of self esteem / confidence and what is likely happening is that that don't have what you alter ready have: permission to like yourself and an appreciation for people at other than a sexual level.
You'll be o.k. Understand that there are about 7 BILLION folks in the world, and, especially at a young age, you'll run into some folks that are pretty messed up.
It's o.k. to be gay or bi and it's very natural, but, some folks, especially if they're messed up by false belief systems, have a lot of baggage they carry around.
Don't waste your time with losers. Just keep moving forward and when the right person comes along...it will be MAGIC. Find someone that is like yourself, that has similar values, interests, and when it happens, you'll know.
Relationships can be work, but, they shouldn't be depressing, and they should come almost auto-magically. Given some time, and enough suitors, that's often the case.
Patience. Wax off, wax on.
Understand the world doesn't revolve around you, and sometimes, despite our highest hopes, folks don't feel the same way about us as we might about them. Part of being mature is accepting that and moving on. The wonderful thing about the past is that it's done with.