My best friend asked me to be in a threesome.

  • JayneCobb

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    Apr 12, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    Well there it is. My best friend (who I believed to be staight/maybe still is) asked me to have a threesome with him and his girlfriend. When I asked him how that would work out since I was gay, he replied "well I would be dong both of you". (Now usually I'm not a bottom, but for this guy I could make an exception.) I also have been falling for this guy for quite a while now...


    For the 10,000 dollar question. Is he gay (bi?), not many straight men I know like to have threesomes with other guys, let alone top them. Also, It must be odd for the girlfriend during this situation when im getting it and shes just chillen...



    Go for it? Pass? Give me any and all advice you come up with please!
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    Apr 12, 2009 5:14 AM GMT
    pass, my personal moral objections against threesomes aside (as I think they are wrong and just all about sex), this could go really wrong: it could ruin the friendship by creating future awkwardness; it could deepen the feelings you have for him while he only wanted an experiment, leaving you emotionally attached; you could possibly be the reason his relationship with his girlfriend might end, and it should end because of them alone; and best friends dont do that, a friend wouldnt even ask to do that unless they wanted to move the friendship to a relationship, in which case it would involve only two people (how many long lasting relationships do you know where the couple says "yeah, we started seeing eachother after we had a threesome")
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    Apr 12, 2009 5:15 AM GMT
    I'd personally pass on it because he is your best friend and there's a chance that it may complicate the friendship or maybe ruin it. There's a chance that the case may be different but sex has a way of adding a new dimension to things and complicating them at times. Thats just my take on it...others might see it differently.
  • Nayro

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    Apr 12, 2009 12:11 PM GMT
    well.. if he''s hot icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 12:19 PM GMT
    I d pass. Seems like it might just be opening up a can of worms.
  • rnch

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    Apr 12, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    go for it! my best str8 (more or less!) friend and I have had a couple of memorable 3 ways that only strenghtened the bonds of our close friendship. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    I've been asked by a few friends if I'd join them and their girlfriend, but I've always passed because of the girl. I don't think it would be fun trying to stay hard while some girl's vagina is flying around. They've got teeth, ya know...
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    Apr 12, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    guy & girl no way, but two other guys sure. Have done it and have kept the friendships, in some ways have brought all us closer in our friendship.
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    Apr 12, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    Definitely do it. Sounds hot
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    Apr 12, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    I've had great 3-ways and 4-ways, and beyond that number, simply orgies at that point where you lost count. But, they were all gay, and this one involves a woman.

    It's already a challenge to keep everyone equally occupied & happy in a gay group scene, not sure how you would relate to the female, and she to you. Maybe she'd be cool about it, go down on you, not mind if your own attention to her was a bit less than enthusiastic. I guess you could suck on a tit without vomiting.

    This could be good or bad, largely depends on the personalities, attitudes, agendas. I wouldn't automatically rule it out, but carefully consider the other 2.
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    Apr 12, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    I would definitely pass but ask him if wants to meet wothout her sometime icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 17, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    No question about it, do it, M/M/F three-ways are pretty easy to pull off and fun as hell
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    Apr 17, 2009 9:12 PM GMT
    go for it. how hot is that. you only live once man. you'll never forget this three some as long as you live. but if you don't do it, you'll always wonder what it would have been like.
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    Apr 17, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
    The only reason I would possibly say no is if you have romantic feelings for the guy. Which you said you do have. Therefore, this will likely only lead to pain. But if you're prepared for that, I say go for it. Never be scared into inaction by potential pain -- pain is sometimes important to feel; it matures you. And who knows? Maybe some strange new relationship will grow out of this.

    Just don't go in expecting to make him your boyfriend. Or come out expecting to remain best friends. Basically, abandon expectations.

    Though... I suspect you've already made your decision, even if you're not aware of it.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 17, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    Say No Thanx ....

    This is going to change everything
    This guy is supposed to be str8
    You think he's going to all of a sudden jump to guys?
    You're likely to feel used and you'd probably be right

    If this was a guy you didn't really know? Go for it
    Have a blast
    But someone who's supposed to be your best friend?
    Why?
  • DrobUA

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    Apr 18, 2009 8:16 AM GMT
    That means he is definitely bi. I personally don't think sexuality is black and white but no straight guy would go out of there way to have sex with a guy. As for whether or not you should do it, that is 100% your call. Depends on your guy's relationship and what you want to get out of it.
  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 18, 2009 11:58 AM GMT
    I will said yes, if it not because of the girl. I have never see a real naked adult naked girl before in my life. And I certainly not gonna start.

    But if with 3 guys, sure why not
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    Apr 19, 2009 11:20 AM GMT
    never had a threesome before but i kinda fantasize about it...If I were in your situation I might have probably done it.

    For some reason I find a bisexual threesome way more exciting than the gay alternative. I guess its just the fact that you never know if the other guy is gay or not and you just wish every second that at some point what you always wished for might finally happen and the whole mental play is such a turn on to me. However, in my fantasy the girl disappears right after the "straight" guy turns <---- this way.
  • handsoffire

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    May 02, 2009 4:30 AM GMT
    Have done this a fair number of times. I'm a lil flexible in the sex department so it's been all good for me. I've also had ones where She and I collaborated on a lot of things that we were doing to him icon_smile.gif
  • clof

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    May 02, 2009 5:02 AM GMT
    Haven't done that before, and it does sound HOT.

    But i would definitely say no to that, the girl things kinda freak me out, i mean the boobs, and the XXX.....Don't even think i would still have the mood to keep up facing a naked girl!
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    May 02, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    I had the same thing asked of me the other day by a mate and his wife..

    There reason was because I was apparently open minded, wouldn't be judgmental and have experience doing "different" stuff and they trust me..

    Eventually I came to the decision to say no, I get the whole thing that they trust me and all, but, things could get incredibly sticky if things went not according to plan..

    What if the wife erm.. enjoyed it more then he did or he did while she didn't, where would his limits be on what we'd do and hers, what about after its all said and done..

    Things could get incredibly difficult and I'm just not willing to sacrific the friendship for a night of potential fun.
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    May 02, 2009 7:44 AM GMT
    mmm are you will to dive into her muff? I took a shower with a girl and a guy once. It was kinda wierd with the girl there. They were both friends of my and we were trippin on mushrooms. Maybe try it if your drunk first.
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    May 02, 2009 8:01 AM GMT


    Hey JayneCobb, thinking about this, "I also have been falling for this guy for quite a while now..." makes me feel you should say no to them.

    If it's just for fun fine, you're all consenting adults and no one is hurting anyone else, but if you've got feelings for the guy, hey he's already in a relationship and it sounds like they're just experimenting.

    How will you feel afterward when they sail off together, happy and content leaving you alone? It seems he feels friendship only while you feel romantic and serious about possibilities.



    -Doug of meninlove
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    May 04, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
    JayneCobb saidWell there it is. My best friend (who I believed to be staight/maybe still is) asked me to have a threesome with him and his girlfriend. When I asked him how that would work out since I was gay, he replied "well I would be dong both of you". (Now usually I'm not a bottom, but for this guy I could make an exception.) I also have been falling for this guy for quite a while now...


    For the 10,000 dollar question. Is he gay (bi?), not many straight men I know like to have threesomes with other guys, let alone top them. Also, It must be odd for the girlfriend during this situation when im getting it and shes just chillen...



    Go for it? Pass? Give me any and all advice you come up with please!


    Do It, Sounds Hot! You and your buddy can become closer and you can help convert him into being a gay! hehe I kid the last part ! icon_cool.gif
  • awayfromtheci...

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    Jun 13, 2009 12:51 AM GMT
    Well.......Jayne? What is the update?