What makes you successful?

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    Apr 12, 2009 11:09 PM GMT
    So finals are coming up and I've always found other people's success stories to be a good motivator to get me off the couch and into the library. We have a lot of amazing successful guys in here with a wide variety of backgrounds. So I was wondering if some of you would like to share your success stories. What makes you a success, what did it take to get there, who were your inspirations(if you had any), how did you stay focused?

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    Apr 12, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    eh.. well.. eh.. I suppose this isn't for me, cause, I never finished high school.. never went to uni either..

    hmm

    I did mentor uni students for a time when I had my own business.. that i sold off a couple of years ago and been retired ever since..

    so.. umm *scratches head* I suppose that's not the type of story you wanna hear is it..
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    Apr 13, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    Well buddy success isn't really that complicated, it is not some difficult 'something' out there, always just beyond a persons reach, ever elusive. Success can only be measured by each individuals personal level of satisfaction/ happiness with what he's done (accomplished), what he's doing, and where he's going in life. The key words are personal satisfaction/happiness with oneself. You can have any number of degree's, any amount of money, any amount of accomplishments others wanted you to do, but none of it mounts to a hill of beans if you are not happy within yourself with all the above. Money is wonderful stuff but while it helps to have it, it is not in and of itself a means to happyness nor success. Do what you love to do, and you will be successfull, don't measure it against anyone elses yardstick. and PS - I'll bet liltanker is happy with his accomplishments, so he's a success.
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    Apr 13, 2009 1:24 AM GMT

    Well, I set up this massive ponzi scheme...
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 13, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    Success is way too tricky to define. So, as mentioned earlier, someone's criteria for success may be completely different than your own, and their tips will be useless.

    I did excellent in high school, reasonably well in college (damn pot), graduated, looked for a job for a year, landed a job close to my desired industry, and yet am pretty unhappy with things.

    Success in your personal life should be much more of a priority.

    Still, try your best to ace your finals. A good GPA is nothing to shrug at.
  • torontoguy222...

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    Apr 13, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    I'd like to think I'm on the road to success. But "success" is so subjective, and varies so much from person to person. For me I don't think success will ever = riches. Instead, it'll = a career I enjoy, a partner that I love, and a comfortable lifestyle. I'd like to think I'm on track to achieving these things...I'm still a university student though. Until I do, I don't think I'm qualified to offer advice, haha.

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    Apr 13, 2009 1:49 AM GMT
    For me it was really a gut check on who I am as a person, what I expect from myself and knowing how I'm going to feel when I accomplished my goal... and also what would happen if I fail!

    So many times I had to get my butt in gear (as we all have). The Bar exam, the Series 7 exam blew me away... you must know yourself well enough to make yourself act.
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    Apr 13, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    torontoguy2222 saidI'd like to think I'm on the road to success. But "success" is so subjective, and varies so much from person to person. For me I don't think success will ever = riches. Instead, it'll = a career I enjoy, a partner that I love, and a comfortable lifestyle. I'd like to think I'm on track to achieving these things...I'm still a university student though. Until I do, I don't think I'm qualified to offer advice, haha.

    Tony
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>I think your on the right track !!! I wish i had had your good sense when your age, but it took me a decade more or so to figure it out !!! Good for you !!!
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    Apr 13, 2009 3:45 AM GMT
    What makes me successful is that I haven't become as jaded and fucked up as most of the Gay men out there.
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    Apr 13, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    as a worry-wort, who wrestles with anxiety and stress issues, i find that the best way to stay efficient and productive and sane is to not take anything too seriously. in classes.... well, they're just classes... lives do not hang in the balance. in relationships.... well, they tend to come and go so why get too invested when the other person isn't willing? with health.... we all start dying the moment we're born, and it's gonna happen some day- we could get hit by a buss tomorrow, and every day we get out of bed we accept the risk of dying..... without these soothing rationalizations, i tend to err toward being overwhelmed with school stress- obsessing perfectionistic-ally over projects, investing too much in relationships and getting burned, and being almost hypochondriacal toward my health. success for me comes by allowing the universe to do its thing, trusting that whatever happens is meant to be.

    to recap: what needs to get done will get done, there's no one to impress or prove anything to, a relationship will never complete you, and you're gonna die anyways.

    of course, its one thing to say all of that, its another to practice it.



    as far as what makes one generically successful in life? i'd say for some its intelligence, for other's its passion and hard work, though i think the best are those who have both horses hitched to the cart.
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    Apr 13, 2009 3:55 AM GMT
    Success in what? ...career? ...working out? ...life?
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    Apr 13, 2009 3:56 AM GMT
    The definition of "SUCCESS" is very subjective and fluid and is a very individual definition.
    Some of the biggest "ZEROES" I have ever known were very well educated and had lots of money, but screwed everyone and their brother to get there and were alone because of it....others had a meager education and made enough to make their bills regularly, but had the love and respect of family and friends alike.....depends on your definition of success....I want to be someplace in between these two and have landed there. I am happy, comfortable and well liked by my family and friends...This is my success.icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:26 AM GMT
    Here are a few pointers that are me and that have helped me over the years.....

    1. Don't worry...be happy
    2. Try not to take anything to serious including your self.
    3. Feel free and be free...you where born free.
    4. Kill the t.v. No big plasma for me.
    5. Take up a hobby and change your fate. Serve others gets the worry off your mind.
    6. Playing a sport helps keep your mind focused and clear.
    7. Learn good study habits and perfect speed reading.
    8. Avoid time wasters. take advantage of every minute.
    9. Have A DAY PLANNER
    10. Get sex out of the way...odd thing I can always do more when I have a good orgasm!!
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    You're all right, success is a very relative term. How about in your careers or research, or interesting projects, whatever.

    Has anyone started a successful business? Started a successful website? Overcome some phobia? Managed a team on a great ad campaign? whatever!
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:37 AM GMT
    owl975 saidYou're all right, success is a very relative term. How about in your careers or research, or interesting projects, whatever.

    Has anyone started a successful business? Started a successful website? Overcome some phobia? Managed a team on a great ad campaign? whatever!

    dun worry they are attempting to sully the question with intentional gray areas because most of them have nothing interesting to add

    *runs away from the pitch forked girls*
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    well, here's an example that is perhaps not what you were expecting:

    friday night i was dancing at secrets in washington, dc. at this club we dance naked and with full erections. so there's very little left to the imagination (which is probably okay in a town full of lawyers). at any rate, a person who was absolutely not my personal preference in terms of physical appearance came over to tip me, and he said, "whenever i am around you, you make me feel like the hottest person in the room."

    that (whether you understand immediately why it is true) is the single most amazing affirmation of me doing my job that i could have possibly gotten from that man. it isn't my job to fuck people. it's my job to make them think that i might.
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
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    owl975 saidYou're all right, success is a very relative term. How about in your careers or research, or interesting projects, whatever.

    Has anyone started a successful business? Started a successful website? Overcome some phobia? Managed a team on a great ad campaign? whatever!

    dun worry they are attempting to sully the question with intentional gray areas because most of them have nothing interesting to add

    *runs away from the pitch forked girls*


    mmmm... yeah, but I was hoping if I kept the thread alive someone might come along and be kind enough to add something productive...
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:45 AM GMT
    well, i don't know if it was productive, but it was an addition. lol
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:47 AM GMT
    thinking twice
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:50 AM GMT
    What do you want as your success? For me it was becoming a parent and finding the right guy to develope a family with. Being in the right place, at the right time, has had a lot to do with it for me. Whether I created the right place and time or happened into it doesn't matter to me. Stay focused on what you want to accomplish and live your life to attain that goal.
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    Apr 13, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    If you work hard and put your mind and heart on every task that you do sooner or later you will accomplish success. I made my own business from having nothing, now I make a good amount of money to have a confortable life and I wake up every morning happy cause Im going to work (to see my sexy employee!) and I think that's the most important thing..
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    Apr 13, 2009 7:41 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidwell, here's an example that is perhaps not what you were expecting:

    friday night i was dancing at secrets in washington, dc. at this club we dance naked and with full erections. so there's very little left to the imagination (which is probably okay in a town full of lawyers). at any rate, a person who was absolutely not my personal preference in terms of physical appearance came over to tip me, and he said, "whenever i am around you, you make me feel like the hottest person in the room."

    that (whether you understand immediately why it is true) is the single most amazing affirmation of me doing my job that i could have possibly gotten from that man. it isn't my job to fuck people. it's my job to make them think that i might.


    MIGHT...Oh, I remember when I did a gig at the Kentucky Derby deal...wow..they wanted me to get naked and dance hard....while the bar owner filmed it all....I don't think so. Now, maybe if I were to dance naked and hard on stage with you that would be a money shot...do you fuck live too?/ LOL

    HAPPY EASTER
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    Apr 13, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    Well that I have been able to lend financial support to my nieces and nephews when they needed it.
    I make an ok living. I will and have done without to help out my family.icon_biggrin.gif


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    Apr 13, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    Because I learned slow is smooth, smooth is fast when one stocks yoplait yogurt. That's right bitch, no one fucks with the Dairy Man.

    It started one blustery afternoon. I was doing something I can't recall, and Keith was doing some I can't recall either. Oh right, I was stocking improvised firebombs when Keith shot some of the contents on to my arm. Enraged, I silently vowed revenge and the moment was made manifest 15 minutes later on the dairy isle.

    I approached from the rear, all 'cool as a cucumber', the mark nervously glanced my way. I could smell the stink of his anxiety. I moved to his left, adjacent to his chum, the Dorito Man. I joined the light conversation, and at the foreseeable and most opportune time, I pounced.
    Actually I just sprayed his crotch with air freshener (Wildflowers and Shame was the scent) that left a big white stain.
    "Haha, bitch."
    /hasty exit

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    Apr 13, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
    My total failure to give a shit. I don't know why but it works for me . I just do not take life to seriously. Only the people in it . icon_cool.gif