In love with a co-worker??

  • machostud4u

    Posts: 2

    Apr 13, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
    Hey all,

    I may need some advise. Now I know what I am doing and dont need any smart comments. Something that is a REAL ADVICE. Here is the situation:

    I am Bi. I met this awesome, wonderful co-worker at Happy Hour about 3 months ago. Since then we've been hanging out a lot. Well I invite him to everything or happy hours I goto. We go for lunch and even goto dinners. He is straight, well at least from where I am standing. He is very shy. But opens up when we drink or are alone.

    I try to talk to him everyday but sometimes I get very busy with work. I dunno if we pinging him everytime makes me a stacker or what but we enjoy each others company.

    I am going overseas for 2 weeks later in the year to see my best mate and I am taking my co-worker with me. I am going to pay for his airfare.

    I dont know how he feels about me but I know we are good friends.

    What do you guys think? Am I krazy? nuts? stupid? haha.. If anyone has been in this situation, let me know.

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    Apr 14, 2009 12:44 PM GMT

    "I dunno if we pinging him everytime makes me a stacker or what but we enjoy each others company."


    This is not great. Imagine the guy is straight and while away with you finds out. You're asking he accept you and also be OK with your desire for him. That's a lot to ask. He's also a co-worker. What would happen if things went bad? How do you continue to work with him? Does he have other friends in the office. Suppose he tells them because they are close?

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    Apr 14, 2009 1:33 PM GMT
    I have to agree with Doug. You are paying for this man trip for what in the hopes that it turns romantic? To top it off your are over seas. What if you profess your and he does not feel the same way, how do you think he’s going to feel? He can't get away from you because you took him out of his comfort zone! Your are flirting with disaster sweetie. He's straight. Does he know that you are bisexual?

    I would think twice before you go booking the Honeymoon Suite. You are doing something that straight men accuse us full-blooded gays of doing all the time. It's not us who are doing this.

    How can you possibly be in love with this guy when he really does not know who you are really. When you love someone one it is because the person knows you and accepts you for who you are, all of you not just the parts that appear to be straight.

    You have made this all about you and your feelings and what you want. You need to consider that fact that friend or not and no amount grappling you guys do he’s straight!
    Apparently he thinks you are too and the deception could ruin the friendship.
  • machostud4u

    Posts: 2

    Aug 05, 2009 4:57 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. I am not going to express my "horniness" to him and will keep it in my pants. I do love him dearly and if its just good friendship, I will do that..

    Cant wait for our trip!! Its coming up and we both are very excited.

    Appreciate your advise. icon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif