Good Guys

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    Apr 15, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    Where are all the good guys at? someone who wants to get to know you for who you are. I agree that good looks attracts someone at first but someone who wants to get to know me for who i am will keep me attracted to them. Am I alone in this department?
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    Apr 15, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    oh they ran away yonks ago mate.. sorry but your stuck with us..
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    Apr 15, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
    I am with you Countryguy. Seems that in today's society of immediate satisfaction we get caught up in being quick to judge, quick to dismiss and don't take the time to get to know people. I try my best, but not always successful.
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    Apr 15, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    agreed.
    you're definitely not alone, I'm definitely feeling alone thou
  • Delivis

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    Apr 15, 2009 4:00 AM GMT
    We are out there. Though in my case, i am happily coupled with another good guy.,.icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 15, 2009 4:01 AM GMT
    Delivis saidWe are out there. Though in my case, i am happily coupled with another good guy.,.icon_smile.gif

    Cherish it man!

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    Apr 15, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
    Is this like an Eastside/Westside thing? Cause I know of a lot of unappreciated, unnoticed and unspoiled good guys on this site and even some more risque ones. They're out there. Just gotta give everyone a chance before you find one.
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    Apr 15, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
    I have yet to find anyone like that too. And every couple I meet are seriously into threesomes.

    But shit since I'm single, I'm certainly not complaining.
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    Apr 15, 2009 7:50 AM GMT
    You know when i read stuff like this, it's hard to feel so blessed to have two long term relationships. To have two men who love me back. It's a nice feeling. But I had my time of waiting before this come to pass.

    But I thank god it did.........icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 15, 2009 7:53 AM GMT
    You're not alone man, its hard to find a guy like that.

    when you do, man its great but damn sometimes things happen and it can hurt when alll seems lost.

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    Apr 15, 2009 8:15 AM GMT
    I'm a single good guy icon_biggrin.gif but I'm picky icon_razz.gif
  • cbrett

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    Apr 15, 2009 8:24 AM GMT
    Im a good guy too we are about
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    Apr 15, 2009 8:42 AM GMT

    You are so right. Sex is great but it is not enough. It is friendship which sustains us and helps us to grow and feel secure. Being gay can be very lonely
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    Apr 15, 2009 9:08 AM GMT
    devontrainer said
    You are so right. Sex is great but it is not enough. It is friendship which sustains us and helps us to grow and feel secure. Being gay can be very lonely


    Being human can be very lonely.
  • Anto

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    Apr 15, 2009 10:31 AM GMT
    You are not alone!

    Is it superficial or part of the problem you are talking about when guys will block or ignore someone for not having pictures in their profile, not looking for sex?
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    Apr 15, 2009 11:48 AM GMT
    no such person exists.

    we are all attracted to the visuals first of all
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    Apr 15, 2009 11:56 AM GMT
    I've discovered this about good guys. I live in a relatively large city - 300,000 or so, fairly conservative southern city. I know a *lot* of really good gay guys, both here, and in other cities.

    Most of them are happy, well-adjusted, secure with themselves. Some of them have partners, some don't. Some of them don't want a partner - their choice - and some are still waiting for the right guy to come along.

    You'd think that having lived here this long, I probably could have found someone who I'd be willing to get to know past a friendship - after all - I know a lot of good guys - and yet, the chemistry has not been there. I've dated guys for up to three months, and it's just a shell. One day, I know, I"ll find the guy that's meant for me.

    I've gotten some great friends out of my time online, and have no complaints. But when you want a good guy, you've gotta be secure with yourself, where you're going, and expect a good guy to come into your life.

    To the last poster - without pictures - I'm sorry. I simply will not talk to anyone without pictures. It's 2009. What is your excuse. If you don't want to be known publicly, that's fine - but have some body shots, and state that face pics are available after you get to know someone.

    If you don't have pictures, I presume several things - that you're a troll, probably overweight, slob, and want to get off on luring other young hot guys in for sex/chat/cyber whatever. Why do I suspect this? Because I've had it happen. It's 2009. Get some pictures. Physical attraction may not be everything - but it is a crucial part of a relationship, for me.
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    Apr 15, 2009 12:12 PM GMT

    Here, here...
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    ...in my Shepherd's Bush! icon_eek.gificon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 15, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    ncsucarjock88 saidTo the last poster - without pictures - I'm sorry. I simply will not talk to anyone without pictures. It's 2009. What is your excuse. If you don't want to be known publicly, that's fine - but have some body shots, and state that face pics are available after you get to know someone.

    If you don't have pictures, I presume several things - that you're a troll, probably overweight, slob, and want to get off on luring other young hot guys in for sex/chat/cyber whatever. Why do I suspect this? Because I've had it happen. It's 2009. Get some pictures. Physical attraction may not be everything - but it is a crucial part of a relationship, for me.


    Well I was sort of agreeing with you there until I get to the last two sentences where you seem to believe its your job to tell people what year it is..

    Don't go making assumptions about other people, you've no idea why he doesn't have photos and the fact of if he has them or not are inconsequential and should not reduce his opinion.. and body shots?? what the hell are they going to tell us about him? what? what? you wanna know if hes got a hot body? WOW then you'll listen to his opinion.. WOW

    And good on ya for admitting that physical attraction is an important part for you.. maybe he has no desire to find a relationship on here.. HELL he could find you butt ugly.. as shocking as that is, he may not want to date you.. get off your high horse, you aint that special or witty

    and before you start down on it.. yes, I know you can have an opinion and yes, I've mine and yes we can share them both and bla bla bla bla bla bla oh crap where is a bucket I need to vomit..
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    Apr 15, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    For all you whiners......


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    Apr 15, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    It's you not them that's the problem.
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    Apr 15, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt's you not them that's the problem.



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    Apr 15, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt's you not them that's the problem.

    Just for that.. I'll fight my gag reflexes and blow you..


    Alright maybe I can't fight my gag reflexes but I wont be a bitch to you for a few hours....


    Alright so I can't not be a bitch to you for a few hours.. but know this..

    You made me smile icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 15, 2009 9:41 PM GMT
    It's a tough one, that's for sure. There are only a few people on this site that have actually conversed with me when I approached them. But, the ones that have are awesome to chat with. So, I'm thankful for that.

    The good guys are definitely out there though. It just takes a lot of work to find them.
  • Rookz

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    Apr 15, 2009 9:44 PM GMT
    Hello, I'm a good guy! And luckily, I found a good man!

    There are those great men out there, you'll find each other.