I've discovered this about good guys. I live in a relatively large city - 300,000 or so, fairly conservative southern city. I know a *lot* of really good gay guys, both here, and in other cities.
Most of them are happy, well-adjusted, secure with themselves. Some of them have partners, some don't. Some of them don't want a partner - their choice - and some are still waiting for the right guy to come along.
You'd think that having lived here this long, I probably could have found someone who I'd be willing to get to know past a friendship - after all - I know a lot of good guys - and yet, the chemistry has not been there. I've dated guys for up to three months, and it's just a shell. One day, I know, I"ll find the guy that's meant for me.
I've gotten some great friends out of my time online, and have no complaints. But when you want a good guy, you've gotta be secure with yourself, where you're going, and expect a good guy to come into your life.
To the last poster - without pictures - I'm sorry. I simply will not talk to anyone without pictures. It's 2009. What is your excuse. If you don't want to be known publicly, that's fine - but have some body shots, and state that face pics are available after you get to know someone.
If you don't have pictures, I presume several things - that you're a troll, probably overweight, slob, and want to get off on luring other young hot guys in for sex/chat/cyber whatever. Why do I suspect this? Because I've had it happen. It's 2009. Get some pictures. Physical attraction may not be everything - but it is a crucial part of a relationship, for me.