A bromance or "man-crush" is a close but non-sexual relationship between two men, a form of homosocial intimacy. Coined in the 1990s, the term has historically referred to a relationship between heterosexuals, but the term has gained currency in describing such relationships when one of the men is gay.
Editor Dave Carnie coined the term in the skateboard magazine Big Brother in the 1990s to refer specifically to the sort of relationships that develop between skaters who spent a great deal of time together.
I'm intrigued by this because I've recently been developing many close relationships with straight men. In the last few years, I've been playing more sports, and consequently, hanging out with more straight men.
Quick info. on me: I get the "I would never guess you were gay" comments all the time, and I'm built kind of like a football or stocky baseball player. This information is important, I think, because straight men seem to be more comfortable getting close to men who are "like them".
Known I was gay since I was 5. Been out since I was 16. 34 now. 13 year committed relationship.
Back to my story: I've been noticing that many of the straight men that I've been hanging out with have commented that they like hanging out with me because I don't have a lot of the "macho" or "competitive" crap that many straight men have. I'll get them to bring their girlfriends to the gay bars with them, and they'll make the same comments about the gay bars...that it seems open, friendly, and without macho attitude.
Many of the conversations I have with my straight male friends (usually after racquetball, running, swimming, or dodge ball...God, I love dodge ball) get "deep"...deeper than they'll often get with their other straight male friends. I assume this is because its often important for straight males to keep a "macho front".
Honestly, I'm a little confused on the rules of a gay/straight "bromance" myself. Drinking with them often brings 'arms around the shoulders', 'head rubs', 'back slaps', and even wrestly/horseplay. I was raised German Catholic so all this touchy feely stuff is kind of new to me. lol. But I'm growing more comfortable with it. I'm sure my straight guy friends feel the same about talking 'deeply' with other males. My favorite is my partner's grandfather who holds my hand (and even swings it a little bit) while he talks to me. Isn't that cute?