are gay guys ageist?

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    Apr 15, 2009 10:01 PM GMT
    It seems very difficult to find mates among gay guys in the UK if you are over 50 even if you are very fit and intelligent. Is that the case in the US?
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    yes
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 15, 2009 10:14 PM GMT
    It all depends on the person, some guys are ageist and some are not ageist. It is an unpredictable, mixed bag here in the USA.
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    not any more than straight guys.

    also: THIS TOPIC AGAIN!?!?!?!?!?
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:16 PM GMT
    rezdylan saidnot any more than straight guys.

    also: THIS TOPIC AGAIN!?!?!?!?!?
    the guy is 90, you can't expect him to remember shit icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:17 PM GMT
    ummm... I had BFs, and 2 partners (the first died), when I over 50 in the US. I am 60 now, with a partner I found when I was 58. I would not conform to your model.
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:23 PM GMT

    What kind of mates? Don't answer that, I already know: young and pretty? You ask the question: are gays ageist, well, when was the last time you gave someone your age any attention? It's probably been a while. Cry me a river, honey.

    In the case of many older gays, this is the case. Their preferences are ridiculous. Don't give me that bollux about standards being unchangable. They should be if you know you haven't got any chance at all of hooking up with your preference. Why not date someone your friggen age or atleast hell, close to it? Most older guys are more secure and relationship oriented anyway.

    ....but, you want to play! And, so do the younger guys, but just like you, they want to play with shiny new toys not some old Radio Flyer from the stone ages. Aren't you too old to be playing, mate? LOL, I flamed you because I want you.


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    Apr 15, 2009 10:26 PM GMT
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    What kind of mates? Don't answer that, I already know: young and pretty? You ask the question: are gays ageist, well, when was the last time you gave someone your age any attention? It's probably been a while. Cry me a river, honey.

    In the case of many older gays, this is the case. Their preferences are ridiculous. Don't give me that bollux about standards being unchangable. They should be if you know you haven't got any chance at all of hooking up with your preference. Why not date someone your friggen age or atleast hell, close to it? Most older guys are more secure and relationship oriented anyway.

    ....but, you want to play! And, so do the younger guys, but just like you, they want to play with shiny new toys not some old Radio Flyer from the stone ages. Aren't you too old to be playing, mate? LOL, I flamed you because I want you.



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  • Delivis

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    Apr 15, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    Yes, and there is nothing wrong with it.

    Most couples are within a few years ago, made a decade at most of each other. There are very good reasons why 20 year olds generally do not date middle aged people, or older. It is a good, practical, descrimination. I also descriminate against people that live too far from me, that don't speak my language, and several others things - and so does virtually everyone else.
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    Ahhhhhh, competitation... :-)
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    Delivis saidThere are very good reasons why 20 year olds generally do not date middle aged people, or older.

    And whats that???
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    If you mean, 'ah some gay guys so snotty-nosed that they won't hang out with older guys?'

    The answer is yes, but closed-minded people are dull. So f**k 'em.
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    Apr 15, 2009 10:44 PM GMT
    Lost_And_Found saidIf you mean, 'ah some gay guys so snotty-nosed that they won't hang out with older guys?'

    The answer is yes, but closed-minded people are dull. So f**k 'em.


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    Apr 15, 2009 10:54 PM GMT
    devontrainer saidIt seems very difficult to find mates among gay guys in the UK if you are over 50 even if you are very fit and intelligent. Is that the case in the US?


    what sort of mates are you looking for?

    The buff ones or the regular average joe? If it's the average joe - heck they are all over I've found

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    Apr 15, 2009 11:24 PM GMT

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    I do, but this better not happen at our wedding.

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    Apr 16, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    I feel this is universal. Gay years, how old are you in gay years.

    In the str8 world, a 50 year old is now looked at as a 30 YO.

    In gay years, a 40 YO is redundant.

    A 50 Yo. young things are offended to even see them in a club.

    Many threads have been created to attack the vintage gay men; this is OK.

    I once asked the question why many older gay have no respect for the younger gays? It turned into a flame war.

    I have to wonder how many popular young things will suffer from a mental illness, when all their youth is gone, and all of a sudden, people look though them.

    Yes I have limitations on people I will date, it all comes down to my preference. But friendship is another thing.

    I had a good old chinwag with a 70 yo at gym this morning.
  • josephmovie

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    Apr 16, 2009 12:18 AM GMT
    Just like the straight world, it depends on the size of his wallet.

    I don't think the gay world is all that ageist, as long as you look alright for your age.
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    Apr 16, 2009 12:28 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    What kind of mates? Don't answer that, I already know: young and pretty? You ask the question: are gays ageist, well, when was the last time you gave someone your age any attention? It's probably been a while. Cry me a river, honey.

    In the case of many older gays, this is the case. Their preferences are ridiculous. Don't give me that bollux about standards being unchangable. They should be if you know you haven't got any chance at all of hooking up with your preference. Why not date someone your friggen age or atleast hell, close to it? Most older guys are more secure and relationship oriented anyway.

    ....but, you want to play! And, so do the younger guys, but just like you, they want to play with shiny new toys not some old Radio Flyer from the stone ages. Aren't you too old to be playing, mate? LOL, I flamed you because I want you.




    My thoughts exactly. When you were 20 did you go for guys that were 50+? If not then don't expect anyone else to.
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    Apr 16, 2009 12:34 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said

    Don't worry that pretty head of yours.. there will be no piss poor acting at our wedding!!!!!!
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    yes some gay guys are ageist-young and old. Should age be a major criteria for mates period ?

    BTW, glad to know you are both intelligent and fit.
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:06 AM GMT
    Gotta say I agree.
    If you weren't shooting for 50+ at a much younger age, or at least giving them the time of day, then why expect anything else when you become the "50" or the "plus"?

    I'm 26, and I can say that my preference has actually adjusted with my age. There is definitely a certain level of maturity realized in your twenties that you don't see at the start of your twenties. There are MANY young hot-bod "lower twenties" that I would never date or give the time of day. Maturity is a huge deal to me. If you don't have it, you're annoying me. And that's certainly not to say that maturity comes with age either.

    At 20, my preference was around 17 to 30.
    At 26, my preference is mid 20's to mid 30's, maybe even higher.

    I personally think that my preference will adjust with my age, so when I'm 50, it will be appropriate. Gay men, in any country tend to lack that "adjusting scope". So maybe you shouldn't worry so much about the other guy being younger. Worry more about the fact that you should be into older guys that can actually stimulate your mind, unlike many of the "young hot bodies", because it's likely a better place for you right about now...
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:16 AM GMT
    Some are but not all. Well on second thought I am. I won't date outside of my age group. LOL!
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    This 20ty something guy wanted to date me and when I told him that I have a niece and nephew older than him and that he's just wayyyyy to young for me. His response was age is nothing but a number! I countered by saying from where I'm sitting those numbers are just tooooo large for me to be bothered. Move on child!
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:20 AM GMT
    For the most part, the majority of homosexuals are either Atheist or Converted to some religion other than Christianity. I used to be, years before I acknowledged my sexuality for what it was.
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    Apr 16, 2009 2:06 AM GMT



    Ageism is everywhere and it's not. In other words, some do, some don't.

    If RJ is any indication - not too much ageism. Some of the IMs we get certainly *cough* prove this. Even us being married doesn't stop 'em!