Household duties between partners!!!

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    Apr 16, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    Maybe I'm just blowing this outta perspective here; but does anyone else have trouble with their partner pulling their fair share of the household chores? I have lived with this guy now going on two years and I wouldnt change that for the world; however, here recently there has been a significant decrease in the amount of sharing that has been going on. Originally and up til about 2 months ago; we had an agreement that everything would be 50/50 between us. Now it seems like I do all the work and when I do ask for help with something; I always get a pissy/can't be bothered right now attitude. It's not like I ask for much either; simple things like putting away his clothes that I folded or sweeping the kitchen that's it. Well let me know if you have any advice.
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:37 AM GMT
    Step on the mother fucker's balls and tell him to start pitching or start looking for a flat. If my mom asked me to put away my cloths and I gave her a pissy answer she would slap the shit out of me.

    Is he working and a full time student? Are you his house boy? If you are both working and/or going to school, that behavior is absolutely unacceptable. The only thing to do is tell him. If he ignores you, set an ultimatum: if I don't see a significant improvement by the end of the month you better start looking for a new place to live. You may love him, but when he makes you do all the work he certainly isn't loving you.
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    Talk to your partner; there may be external stresses (work, plunging stock values?) interfering with his work ethic at home.

    Alternately, get really bad at something. Disaster strikes whenever I try to cook, and if I start to talk about making dinner, he gives me that 'oh, that's so cute that you think you can' look. To this day, I never have to cook for him. On the flip side, I can't stand the way he folds my clothes...so that's my job. It's all about the economics of practicality.
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    We each have our areas, but we are flexible when needed.

    If he's not pulling his weight, don't do his stuff. Don't do his laundry, dishes, cook for him, etc.
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    Apr 16, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
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    hmmmm, not enough info spiritus....do you both work? Is one part-time?
    Do you have a house? Who's doing the yard etc? Who looks after the car if you have one? 50/50 doesn't always mean a split of duties, it can also mean one does the plumbing and electrical and the other the yard and exterior, for example.

    Did someone get a job change or pick up a second job? Is one of you looking after an elder? The questions are many, really.