Apr 16, 2009 3:45 PM GMT
Ok, so I wanted input from some folks here. This is my first post to these forums (I've been a long time reader... so I figured it was about time to register). Here's my saga:
I had a boyfriend, for a little over 2 years that I brokeup with this past Valentine's day. I'm pretty much over it as I was the one who initiated the breaking-up. So, fast forwarding, I traveled to Dallas, TX for a conference and went out every night. The last night, I met this really hot guy and we had a very intense connection. We introduced each other, didn't say much and used eye contact to lure each other in. Before we knew it, we were making out in the bar and feeling each other up, etc.
So - I've only been out (to myself) for a few years, and I'm now 27 (going on 28 soon -- ugh!), and although I've done a few things, penetration has not been one of them... Had to preface this next part with that first. So, after a good two hours of "hot stuff" in this bar and long contemplation, I decided in my mind to bring him back to the hotel with me. I asked him in his ear if he was "negative" and he looked down at his feet and looked back up at me and responded that he was "positive"...
I stayed around with him in the bar for another 10-15 minutes to not make it look like I "darted", but I essentially pulled the rip cord at that point which I feel really bad about. I figured in my mind it was better to be safer and not go any further, even though yes - you can be safe, I know...
So there's my story of my hot night out in Dallas... your thoughts? I'm not really into the whole "going out, finding a guy, bringing him home" type of thing - I went out on like 3 dates when I came out to myself, and they were one-date wonders. The fourth guy I ever went out with "stuck" and he was my last BF of 2+ yrs... Help me oh wise ones!
Many thanks,
- Eric
I had a boyfriend, for a little over 2 years that I brokeup with this past Valentine's day. I'm pretty much over it as I was the one who initiated the breaking-up. So, fast forwarding, I traveled to Dallas, TX for a conference and went out every night. The last night, I met this really hot guy and we had a very intense connection. We introduced each other, didn't say much and used eye contact to lure each other in. Before we knew it, we were making out in the bar and feeling each other up, etc.
So - I've only been out (to myself) for a few years, and I'm now 27 (going on 28 soon -- ugh!), and although I've done a few things, penetration has not been one of them... Had to preface this next part with that first. So, after a good two hours of "hot stuff" in this bar and long contemplation, I decided in my mind to bring him back to the hotel with me. I asked him in his ear if he was "negative" and he looked down at his feet and looked back up at me and responded that he was "positive"...
I stayed around with him in the bar for another 10-15 minutes to not make it look like I "darted", but I essentially pulled the rip cord at that point which I feel really bad about. I figured in my mind it was better to be safer and not go any further, even though yes - you can be safe, I know...
So there's my story of my hot night out in Dallas... your thoughts? I'm not really into the whole "going out, finding a guy, bringing him home" type of thing - I went out on like 3 dates when I came out to myself, and they were one-date wonders. The fourth guy I ever went out with "stuck" and he was my last BF of 2+ yrs... Help me oh wise ones!
Many thanks,
- Eric