This whole thing is a false argument on several levels, as I already posted above. No one is LOSING rights, but GAINING ones we should never have been denied in the first place.
This is not a trade-off, but an identification and consolidation of civil rights to which we were always entitled. We are losing no rights in return for other rights. We are OBTAINING rights, not swapping them.
But this is the false choice that Republicans are trying to sell to the public with their talking points, echoed by some here. They claim that if gays gain anything, everyone loses something else. Listen to their propaganda, it always contains that element of loss, a phony price they put on gays, or even on ordinary citizens, for exercising our Constitutional freedoms.
And it's rather the Republicans who had actually trampled the Constitution under the Bush Administration, with warrant-less searches & surveillance, ignoring of Habeas Corpus and the right to a speedy trial and to face witnesses and see evidence, to limitations on Free Speech, and blocking the exercise of the Constitutionally-guaranteed role of the people's representatives in Congress to oversee & participate in certain actions.
Those are some real rights we truly did lose, not the loss of questionable concepts of States Rights being misused to practice discrimination on the local level. As was done by right-wingers during the Civil Rights Era, as is being done again today. Shall we call this the Gay Rights Era?
Reject this false argument of giving up other rights for gay rights! Don't debate it in those terms. When you do so you are falling into the trap the Republicans have made for us.