Everyone knows my preference. I tell them when I meet them. It nips it in the bud. I tell them I'm bisexual, or tri-sexual (I'll try anything once, I tell them..not true, but, it cuts the ice), and, often, they'll say well you'll like so and so he's gay as a 3 dollar bill. Sometimes, they say what's it feel like and I say neato. ROFL.
Last night, as I left the gym...and I workout in my wrestling shoes, shorts, over singlet, and 5'5" 195, and lean...so everyone knows me...we were talking (the sales guys and I) about this chick (she's hot)...and I was talking and Chris says, "You need to be riding in the other saddle, Pard!" We all giggled. I replied, "Gonna' go down low for the carpet, eh, Chris?" Everyone about fell out of their salesperson chair. We all had a good laugh. I said, "Well, licking the carpet ain't all bad, but, God gave you a prostate for a reason boys." Everyone about fell out of their chair. We were really giggling then.
When you have integrity, and make light of it, people become more honest and less inhibited in return. Sure, there's a redneck or two, around, but, they are the guys who want you to get them drunk and then they want to top you until you dripping in sweat. Only difference between bi and gay is a six pack and a dirt road, and most times,...most times...you don't need the dirt road.
People are sexual. Many gays are SO UPTIGHT, and so self-loathing, and so afraid of their sexuality, or...they are so blatant as to be sickening. It's just what it is: no big deal.
I always tell my workers, business associates, first thing...so they know, and it works in my favor many times too.
The self-centered, poor me I'm a fag, is just that self-centered bullshit.
Tell them in passing and they'll hook you up.
I told my friend the gym owner and he says..."Let me hook you up with [name], my employee. He thinks you're hot."
People generally are accommodating. I don't think a person should put it in their face, but..I always just say, "Yeah, I kinda' sit on the fence and can go either way. She's hot, but, shit, he is, too." The walls drop fast.
Once it's out in the open, it's a bunch easier on everyone. Everyone can be honest, and if you don't have integrity, you have nothing.
Scared people do stupid shit.
Being afraid only empowers hate and reinforces stereotypes.
I firmly believe in leading by example.
Once folks see I'm a neat person to know, and to work with, they forget the gay / bi part, unless they hook me up, which they often do. Most folks have a question or two, like what's it feel like or how often, etc?
I do NOT thing sexuality should be the focus of anyone's life, but, if there's a really hot guy...I want him to have me in his short list.
I met this Navy Seal a couple of weeks ago.. He told me too, shortly after I told him. He's so FUCKING HOT.
Many folks ARE NOT 100% one way, or another. In my case, because of how I look, many guys just wanna' touch me. It's pretty amazing.