How to BTM.....

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    Nov 01, 2007 6:12 PM GMT
    Ok so i am 23 i have been out and about for about 1 yr as a top... I have tried to btm a few times and it hurts way to much. But it upsets me i can take it. Here is an expression i always use for this situtaion "Btming is like Sushi everyone else eats it and LOVES it, But i hate it. I wanna enjoy it like the rest of the world does" LMAO...But serouily how do i even begin to teach my self how to enjoy and do anal??

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    Nov 01, 2007 7:05 PM GMT
    As they say before you can learn to walk you have to learn to crawl. Start with using what god gave you, your fingers or a small dildo and work your way up. I think allot of it teaching your self how to relax down there. Pain comes from when your anus tightens up. You have to take your time and let your body get used to having something up there and allot of lube certainly doesnt hurt. They also make desensitizing lubes that really help in anal intercourse. The key is, it has to feel good to you. If you try the above and it still hurts you may just need to realize that your not a bottom and focus on being the best dam top you can be.
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    Nov 01, 2007 11:56 PM GMT
    You need one of these.

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  • MarkX

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    Nov 04, 2007 4:58 AM GMT
    I didn't start 'til I was an adult, and even then it took me nearly half a year before I started loving it. But then I didn't go into it with your healthy accepting atttitude.

    I agree with wehokey: baby steps. And eventually there's the Grand Payoff: men's prostate gland is said to be equivalent to a woman's "G spot," (but who had the authority to make that particular comparison, I can't imagine). There's only one way to that spot.

    As always, I take these posts as an invitation to do a fact checking. This is the first site that Google picked up, and it does a good job at addressing your concerns:
    http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/understanding_the_prostate.asp
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    Nov 06, 2007 1:17 AM GMT
    I know what you mean, I USED to hate it because it ALWAYS hurt! But I tried some *cough* toys out by myself for a little bit and figured out what actualy feels good. There are definitely some "g spots" if you will. To be quite blunt - Ive found that that a rapid in-out motion is not pleasurable at all. Slow and at certain angles is the trick, for me atleast. Sorry if this is TMI!

    But yah, I'd say fool around by yourself for a little while until you find something you like.
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    Nov 06, 2007 2:23 AM GMT
    Same with me, mcgine. Furious powerfucking is torture. It's also a lot harder on condoms, making them more likely to break. All in all, a dangerous lousy fuck.
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    Nov 07, 2007 9:50 PM GMT
    I've had a similar experience with anal as the original poster. However for the most part I've gotten rid of the pain through various methods. But I can't get rid of the uncomfortable pressure. I know that having something in you is gonna create pressure. But I read and see all these people just SCREAMING! at the top of their lungs in pleasure from being fucked. And I just can't understand how that uncomfortable pressure becomes a comfortable one. Any ideas?
  • SpartanJock

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    Nov 12, 2007 10:33 PM GMT
    For me personally, natural btm here. I would be one of those guys screamin' in ecstacy. icon_redface.gif Yeah, the first time hurt, but I learned to relax, and the rest is now history. So, I guess the above advice to work your way up slowly is the most help I can give you. Toys can be great, if not for the education, then at least for the pleasure. icon_biggrin.gif But, overall, if you don't like it, then don't do it!! Not everyone is a btm, and those who are appreciate a dedicated top!
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    Nov 13, 2007 7:59 PM GMT
    Natural Bottom is me as well. My first time was with me on my back with my legs up in the air. My mate was in between my legs and he but a pillow under neath my lower back. USE LOTS AND LOTS OF LUB. It will go in much easier with out as much pain and relax. Tell him to go slow and to Stop for a while and let the dick open you up. It will hurt Briefly but you'll love it in the end. Trust me. Oh... Your 1st time Find A guy with a fat cock that way if you find some one smaller your next go around you'll be the king all night and the guy will be sure to come back to an ass that feels like a pussy, Your Pussy. I love it icon_wink.gif Remember Men, Gay men would not be Gay if their man can't take a dick in the ass. But you wanna know what really helps? Letting A man your madly in love with do you. You won't even think about pain. Thats how it was with my first.
  • helium

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    Dec 30, 2007 7:51 PM GMT
    I recall my few times bottoming. I can say that it was painful at first to do it but taking it nice and slow to ease into it was the key to helping me out. It was fun and entertaining for me who normally doesn't like to bottom. I only do it for that special someone.
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    Dec 31, 2007 3:04 AM GMT
    Lube. Patience. Relax.

    The key is to learn to relax the sphincter muscle of your anus. If you can't do that - it's going to hurt like hell. By applying pressure to the area - the muscle will probably contract immediately. With continued pressure (focusing on your breathing helps too)you can relax the muscle. It is also helpful to try tightening and relaxing your anus - think of it as bottoming practice.

    As always - use plenty of lube (water based because oil based is a bitch to clean up) and go slow at first.