Do you compare your body to the other guy's?

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    Apr 18, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    So I think I'm good looking, but not as beefy as I'd want the other guy to be. I'm mostly turned on by people with really hot bodies... I have high standards in general and I'm kinda used to porn bodies.

    I work out ocassionally and used to swim so I have a decent body, but I'm not big.

    So whenever I find someone muscular, I get a little insecure to be the "less hot" one. I actually don't even try most of the time cause those who take care of themselves that well expect the other guy to be some sort of bodybuilder too. Then again, I'm not really attracted to smaller people.

    Anyone knows what I'm talking about? It kinda sucks.
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    Apr 18, 2009 3:53 AM GMT

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    Apr 18, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    solemate said
    Put photos of you and get yourself verified... you'll see the difference in your thread traffic. icon_idea.gif

    Not sure I get what you're saying. You don't have a pic up yourself.
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    Apr 18, 2009 4:58 AM GMT
    If it's all about being equal to the ones you're into, I would never have dated anyone. They were all polar opposites (in appearance), and they all find it very erotic to have a partner that doesn't look like them.

    steven4So I think I'm good looking, but not as beefy as I'd want the other guy to be. I'm mostly turned on by people with really hot bodies... I have high standards in general and I'm kinda used to porn bodies.


    Hot bodies? You mean big muscular bodies - they aren't hot for everyone...
    High standards? Another assumption that they are the hottest type...

    I have a gorgeous friend with the same problem. And guess what: he never dated any "very hot" guy.

    It's simple: date a bodybuilder type. Sacrifice all other requirements, and it will be much easier than you imagine. Everyone should have such a date once in a lifetime at least. It's a very educational experience, even if it goes wrong. You may realize there's more to your taste than just muscles.
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    Apr 18, 2009 5:01 AM GMT
    I compare myself to others all the time. For me, when I compare and all the envy, lust, jealousy, disdain arise, I get a better sense of myself as human and fragile. It helps to compare, and it hurts too.
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    Apr 18, 2009 5:06 AM GMT
    Excellent observation Brady, I find myself doing the same, seems I can find something anyone that I find is better then myself.
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    Apr 18, 2009 5:17 AM GMT
    Because you enjoy a nice body, does not mean you need to compare yourself to them. People with nice bodies are not always attracted only to the same body type that they are. Also, there are several people who do not work out, but are in great shape and are very sexy. Not everyone who works out want to be a big muscle man either. I have lost 12 lbs of muscle over this past year and actually like it better for me, it feels better and I am not coming out of my shirts so to speak. Everyone does probably want their guy to be in shape and fit, but that does not always mean lifting a lot of weights.

    If you want big muscles and are not willing to work for it, then do not fell like
    "the less one" as you say. If the big muscle guy is with you, then I doubt that he is saying in his mind, "I wish this guy was bigger, well maybe bigger down there, but not in the muscles.

    Enjoy your body as is or change it.
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    Apr 18, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    I compare and admire and feel inadequate. It motivates me and reminds me that i am in it (exercise) for my health not necessarily my physique (although i would love some more definition.)
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    Apr 18, 2009 11:32 AM GMT
    Contentment breeds complacency.
    Always strive to improve yourself physically! My partner has a great physique. I'm always comparing and working on improving mine. Never be satisfied! That doesn't mean be depressed or unhappy. Just strive to always be better.
    Once you meet a goal, surpass it and set another.
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    Apr 18, 2009 11:49 AM GMT
    Keith's right -- it can be a healthy motivator to always compare your progress to the next level.
    Want more confidence in your physique?
    I think the average guy on this site would compare favorably against the general population.

    But we've got a separate issue to answer: guys you want to date are hotter than you are (by your definition of hot).
    Me thinks you're gonna find a few beefy studs who prefer a leaner, lighter guy.
    Opposites attract...at least sometimes.
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    Apr 18, 2009 1:18 PM GMT
    I have to say no.

    Thanks to genetics. I got a big chest and shoulders at a young age, I've always had big calves, but now they are well toned, but still I've had to do very little to get that.

    So I'm more guilty of taking it all for granted.
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    Apr 18, 2009 1:29 PM GMT
    Always comparing myself to other guys. Always.

    It can be a healthy and motivating thing to do. But if you find yourself descending into jealousy, envy, etc. . . that's no good. Envy is a very destructive emotion.

    I once lost a very good friend because of his envy of me. And the really weird thing is. . . he was much better-looking than me. And I'm not being modest. He was amazing looking. But his insecurities kept him from making a realistic assessment of himself.

    Like I say, it was really strange and it took me a long time to figure it out. Strange and sad.