The fine balance between "hard to get" and "impossible to get".

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    Apr 18, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    From reading previous posts/topics it seems like being "too easy" is a turn off to many...

    But how do you know how "hard to get" you to be without being "too hard to get" to the point of discouraging the guy you are attracted to icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 19, 2009 3:18 PM GMT



    Playing 'hard to get' is just that, a game. We don't recommend playing it. What we've seen over and over is that when you play hard to get you get guys who like a challenge - too many of them, not matter how they've had to wait for you, walk as soon as they hear, "I'm all yours." because now the thrill of the chase is gone. That's not the marrying kind, if that's what you're looking for.

    ...on the other hand, there are those that throw themselves at and smother others. Don't do that either. Happy medium - just be yourself - if you're open and willing to forge bonds, you'll do well, we think.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Apr 19, 2009 3:19 PM GMT
    I have my wants and my don't wants.

    No playful gray areas in between.

    I deal in absolutes.

    Like a Sith.

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    Apr 19, 2009 3:26 PM GMT
    It's either interesting or not interesting. Curious or not curious.

    Which is just a front for being a big tease icon_smile.gif
  • drcharm

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    May 01, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    well
    to me i m hard to get for many but the problem when u lik the guy lik totaly and crush to him it just mak thing harder to be
    be u that role number 1 caus he has to lik the real U
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    May 01, 2009 10:52 PM GMT
    play hard to get if you don't want to be got
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    May 02, 2009 3:19 AM GMT
    Blackguy4you saidplay hard to get if you don't want to be got


    Does this mean to be "hard to get" to not be disappointed or deceived icon_question.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    May 02, 2009 3:46 AM GMT
    I always get what i want,and if i dont get it,,it's because i dont want iticon_exclaim.gif
  • jrs1

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    May 02, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    I'm really glad this was brought up because it's tough to know when and where to draw the ' line ' when it comes to properly seasoning the level of interaction between yourself and that desirable person. I'm not sure, but getting a feel for whether or not you're comfortable (i.e., at ease) around the guy may be an important clue as to whether or not you'll truly portray sense of who you are. Other than that, it may just be a waiting game concerning whether or not the two of you can reach a significant level of relationship maturity, fueled by either some sort of connection or fiery attraction.
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    May 02, 2009 4:53 AM GMT
    I know the majority of my strengths and weaknesss and what I can and cannot have when dealing with a people and what I want from them. There are times when I will go against all odds and merely try my best to prove myself wrong and just take a chance and then there are times when I work within my spectrum/limits and go with the flow. In truth everything is odds since I never no the outcome til I try.

    If there is something that I truly want but have not obtained it means that I'm either not ready to have it at the time, it's something that I probably shouldn't have and I'll consider myself lucky for realizing it early or it simply just means that it's not meant to for whatever reason. No matter how hard you try if the other person isn't digging you then I say stop trying to force a shovel in their hand and move on.

    Rejection and the thought of knowing that you can't have everything everytime you want is a simple realtiy.
  • GQjock

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    May 02, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
    If you wanna be gotten then you let him play through .....

    It's like politeness on a golf course
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    May 02, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
    Go on a date, watch a good movie and see if you get on.

    It's not that playing hard to get doesn't work, it's more that I can't be bothered.
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    May 02, 2009 5:42 PM GMT
    Try saying "No! No! No!" during sex and when he pulls back say "Yes! Yes! Yes!"

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    May 02, 2009 6:58 PM GMT
    Some people want sex on the first date. Other people don't.

    Find out what you want and fuck the rest.