Straight guy with a question, any help appreciated

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    Apr 18, 2009 6:39 PM GMT
    I'm straight, and I have a question that bottoms may be able to answer. I mean no disrespect with anything I post.

    So, my wife decided that she wants to take me with a strapon. I don't think I have a problem with this, but there are some things I'm wondering.

    Firstly, for an anal virgin, what positions would be painful and what would feel better? I've heard that it's possible to come from receiving anal, what positions are best for that? If I use a toy to practice on myself, what would be the best way to have an orgasm and what would be the best way to "get ready" to take a dildo?

    On my back and her on top of me
    On my back and her "standing" on her knees
    Cowboy/Reverse Cowboy
    Doggy style
    On my stomach
    Me sitting on something and her standing

    Really, any help is so cool, thanks.
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    Apr 18, 2009 7:03 PM GMT
    Hi. icon_smile.gif

    Not really an expert here. Be warned the following may be a bit... graphic.

    But first of all... hygiene. Make sure you clean yourself thoroughly first. Douches and all that. Sounds yucky, but better that than to have... unfortunate circumstances happen midstride. LOL

    For entrance, it's generally much more painful if you squeeze. Push out, like you're um... defecating. icon_redface.gif This will relax the sphincter. Practice with smaller dildos with your wife first. And use lube.. lots! There are also um... buttplugs that you can wear for a few hours before intercourse to relax it a bit more and keep the rectum clear.

    The prostate is the organ which gives pleasure during anal intercourse. It's situated inward toward your the base of your penis. The position for greater pleasure generally depends on the shape of the dildo itself (or in our case - the penis, hehe). The position which puts more contact with the prostate is the most pleasurable of course. For a dildo curving upward for example, you on your back and her kneeling would probably be the best. For a dildo curving downward or straight out, her behind you would be more pleasurable. Depends really. Also some dildos are shaped with knobs to hit the prostate.

    Anyway, good luck. And have fun with the missus. icon_wink.gif

    DISCLAIMER: I am an anal virgin too. ROFL This is a hodgepodge of biology and what I have learned from other guys here.
  • BostonGuy6

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    Apr 19, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    I would definitely use a lot of lube. try it your self, it will hurt the first time.

    but in my opinion the most pleasureable position would be you on your back and her on her knees. This is the most intimate position in which you will be able to look at her and kiss her and she can see if you're in too much pain.. and you may or may not get off from just taking it. but if you jerk off while taking it there is a much better chance.. and for me the most intensely powerful and pleasurable orgasms come from this position.
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    Apr 19, 2009 1:41 AM GMT
    From behind, at least, seems to be the easier way for the first time. If you are just having trouble getting it inserted I suggest sitting on it. That way you can ease into it at your own pace. Once you are used to it then have her pull out and get in whatever position you want.
  • rnch

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    Apr 19, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    a snort from a fresh bottle of poppers about 10 seconds before insertion will help you to "loosen" up internally and will make insertion much, much easier and less painfull.
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    Apr 19, 2009 6:34 PM GMT
    So thanks for the feedback. I found a certain household object yesterday that's shaped very much like a dildo. So I tried it on myself in a few positions after putting a condom on it and applying lube. Didn't hurt at all, which surprised me. I don't think I found the prostate and I'm not sure I could come from that, but I jerked off and it seemed a bit better than normal.
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    Apr 19, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    Kijuro saidSo thanks for the feedback. I found a certain household object yesterday that's shaped very much like a dildo. So I tried it on myself in a few positions after putting a condom on it and applying lube. Didn't hurt at all, which surprised me. I don't think I found the prostate and I'm not sure I could come from that, but I jerked off and it seemed a bit better than normal.

    Not all men get pleasure from prostate contact (me, for one), and some get pain from it, especially if they have an enlarged prostate or other medical problems with it. Also the sensations from the sphincter muscle may initially mask any pleasurable feelings. Meaning that with time & practice, and generous amounts of lube, the nice prostate sensations will become more apparent.
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    Apr 20, 2009 2:02 AM GMT
    A 'certain household object'? Let me guess. A screwdriver. icon_wink.gif