Personal space in the locker rooms

  • DrobUA

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    Apr 20, 2009 11:14 PM GMT
    Alright i was showering at the gym today and its a big room with a bunch of fixtures coming out of the wall. There are 20 fixtures in there and I was the only guy showering. Another guy comes in and stands right next to me, there are 19 other opens spots and I thought it was kinda weird. I knew the guy was gay but still. Kinda awkward. Do you give other people personal space in the shower?
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    Apr 20, 2009 11:19 PM GMT
    Absolutely. That guy was either frisky or wanted to discuss philosophy with you.
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    Apr 20, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    bernd saidAbsolutely. That guy was either frisky or wanted to discuss philosophy with you.


    haha must have been the philosophy.. I knew he was gay because of the neon pink speedo he was posing in around the pool. He did more standing and looking at himself than swimming.
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    Apr 21, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    i like my space in the shower. i'm glad my gym has private shower stalls.
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    Apr 21, 2009 1:46 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidAlright i was showering at the gym today and its a big room with a bunch of fixtures coming out of the wall. There are 20 fixtures in there and I was the only guy showering. Another guy comes in and stands right next to me, there are 19 other opens spots and I thought it was kinda weird. I knew the guy was gay but still. Kinda awkward. Do you give other people personal space in the shower?


    He either liked you
    He was a freak
    He was scared to be alone

    Depending on which enjoy the attention icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    I would not care, if he was hot. Otherwise, I would not be comfortable. I think the space rule is more important, if you are peeing. I don't like anyone standing beside me.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 21, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    Regardless of the hotness of the person, I don't like standing RIGHT NEXT TO other people in the locker room or the shower. At my gym we have stalls for showering, too, which is great. The other thing that bothers me is when there are tons of free lockers and someone takes the one that's RIGHT next to yours. What's the point? Spread out for goodness sake!
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Apr 21, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    I wouldnt be so sure the guy was gay....I see a "str8" guy come into my gym with a Pink gym bag, LOL....I dont even think any respectible gay guy would even do that.......LMAO.....icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    yup, i respect personal space. and if i see a hot guy in there, i do try to position myself so i can check him out. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    There is a law of nature that if a locker room contains only 2 or 3 people they will all be blocking each other's access to the same adjacent lockers. Not because they planned to, or are lurking -- it just happens.
    It must be gravitational attraction.
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    Apr 21, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    yuk and eeeewww u should've rinsed off and left out of there, immediately!icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
    Man, I stay clear of this overt shit. If someone is on to me, he can talk to me outside the gym -- not in the public shower.
  • DrobUA

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    Apr 21, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidI wouldnt be so sure the guy was gay....I see a "str8" guy come into my gym with a Pink gym bag, LOL....I dont even think any respectible gay guy would even do that.......LMAO.....icon_eek.gif


    haha trust me he was gay. I have the most finely tuned gaydar in the southwest it wasn't even questionable. I mean I'm not shy or anything but it was weird and halfway through the shower another guy comes (extremely attractive) but has the sense to not to corner me in.
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    Apr 21, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    Well, if he was hot, I would just take it as a compliment and if you were interested, when you are toweling off I would have asked him out. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 5:26 AM GMT

    I tend to stand across from others. I have a roving eye and while attraction certainly plays a part, it isn't always about attraction. I like comparing my body to other guys. It often inspires me to workout harder. I also love tattoos so if the guy has 1 or more, I will openly check'em out.

    Something about my gym showers, they are often chilly when empty and I often notice guys clump up while showering as two hot showers generate more heat than one.

    If it was attraction, I'd have to feel the same for it to lead anywhere. If it wasn't, as long as the guy didn't make overt sexual acts or inappropriate innuendo, I wouldn't care. If the event he did, I'd ask him to knock it off. You'd be amazed how far polite but direct behavior can go.
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    Apr 21, 2009 5:47 AM GMT

    A little off topic but, I had a strange guy shower next to me yesterday. I work out in the gym at my University, where the teams practice, so the shower room is gigantic. There were only two other guys showering when this guy came in and picked the shower right next to me. I thought it was odd, but didn't pay much attention to him. I was facing the other direction when I heard a strange sound. I turned around and saw that he was eating an apple! In the shower! icon_confused.gif Who the hell does that? He was naked, just standing under the shower with one hand on his hip, the other holding his apple.
  • DrobUA

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    Apr 21, 2009 7:09 AM GMT
    UofTLatinBoy said
    A little off topic but, I had a strange guy shower next to me yesterday. I work out in the gym at my University, where the teams practice, so the shower room is gigantic. There were only two other guys showering when this guy came in and picked the shower right next to me. I thought it was odd, but didn't pay much attention to him. I was facing the other direction when I heard a strange sound. I turned around and saw that he was eating an apple! In the shower! icon_confused.gif Who the hell does that? He was naked, just standing under the shower with one hand on his hip, the other holding his apple.


    haha who doeesn't? spaghetti in the shower is the only way to eat it
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    Apr 21, 2009 7:15 AM GMT
    I feel your pity...but

    About to weeks ago a guy stood two feet away from me put one leg up on the bench let his towel fall and started jacking it....

    second most awkward moment of my life
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    Apr 21, 2009 7:18 AM GMT
    Could be worse...

    You could be sitting down while mixing protein drink, when suddenly the big fat old man next to you bends down. Hes so close his balls swing and hit your shoulder...


    thats when you need some space
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    Apr 21, 2009 7:22 AM GMT
    theonslaught saidCould be worse...

    You could be sitting down while mixing protein drink, when suddenly the big fat old man next to you bends down. Hes so close his balls swing and hit your shoulder...


    thats when you need some space


    Ewww.... Okay you win


    You ought to teach him a lesson and go ahead and rip them right off
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    Apr 21, 2009 7:24 AM GMT
    What was the problem? Are you embarrassed cos you have a small willy?
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    Apr 21, 2009 12:01 PM GMT
    Someone sat next to me upstairs on the bus once - when there was no-one else there.

    It kinda freaked me out.
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    Apr 21, 2009 12:09 PM GMT
    too_20close.jpg

    Were the urinals this close?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 21, 2009 12:11 PM GMT
    Well I usually don't shower terribly often at my gym, the YMCA, but they all have individual showers, so it doesn't matter too much.. but I think even there I would likely go to the one that looks the cleanest, but I can say I probably wouldn't go to the one right next to an adjacent shower that was being used by someone.

    If it was an old fashioned "group shower"... I'd never shower right next to someone. hell, I never even use the bathroom by someone else unless there is no choice.. always give the space.
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    Apr 21, 2009 12:15 PM GMT
    once a guy explained to me when i asked him why he stood right next to me in otherwise empty 14 shower-head room that he was using the shower next to me because it had the best water pressure of them all. then he looked at my penis for 10 seconds. then i left.