Nov 02, 2007 9:45 AM GMT
It seems that we cannot do without our chat and virtual friends in our postmodern world. We spent a lot of time chatting, webcamming and mailing with friends that we cannot meet in our daily life, just because of distance in time and space. This, I think, is a very nice way of making friends and discussing topics. I think that online we are more open to express our opinions and show our feelings, because we don’t need to be afraid to sound silly or weak while looking in someone’s eyes. So the virtual world gives us the freedom we cannot have in the real life. In the real world it is, for some of us, odd to say ‘I love you’ to someone you really love, because then you are vulnerable and feeble. In the virtual world, if someone ignores you, you just hop to the next one with a good profile, a handsome face, a hot body and a webcam, for virtual sex. Is the virtual world by definition superficial? I cannot answer this question with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’, because I think that there exists a magnetism that can connect people, despite the difference in time and space. I think that it is possible to have strong feelings, and maybe I should call it ‘love’, for someone you don’t know in the real world. Pictures and texts maybe are enough to cause feelings of appreciation and love for another person very close in the virtual world, but far away in the real world. It’s sad that that we don’t have the possibility to touch each other, look into each other’s eyes and feel the warmth of each other’s body in the virtual world, because then we can really know if we are friends. So what am I doing here? I don’t know. Or maybe I do know. I think that I have met some very nice persons in this virtual world, friends, and yes, maybe even someone I want to marry and live for ever happily together. Sometimes I am happy with this feeling, but at other moments I feel miserable and anxious. Does online love exist? It is logical that my virtual friend has his own (virtual)life with his own (virtual)friends and his own (virtual)lover. So I must understand that I am just another profile with maybe a cute face and a hot body. Sometimes, when I get lost in the virtual world, I say to myself that it may be time to discover the real world (again).