new guy at bottoming

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    Apr 21, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    No.. not me hehehe I've not been anywhere near new since... oooooooh what decade we in now icon_razz.gif hahaha

    anyway, I seem to have found my self erm the sexual object of a guy who is both young (19) and highly inexperienced (i'm his third guy) putting aside the feelings of cradle robbing I get a fair bit.. I'm kinda worried..

    I don't really remember much after the first time, I knew it was uncomfortable but it was sorta like duck to water.. but, I'm worred, erm, I've never been with someone so inexperienced so much.. I've been the first for a few, but, it was just one night usually not repeated encounters..

    so, I suppose, is there anything I'm suppose to do or not do? I mean he seems to be handling it all right, gawd knows hes eager icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif like.. REALLY eager icon_redface.gif and he's only complained once of being sore, so we stopped for a while until he was feeling better (for the record I wanted to stop there, but he pushed for more.. and who was I to refuse I say)

    I suppose its stupid but, I don't wanna hurt him or do any damage or nuffin erm.. yeah, heh who'd have thunked me that I'd need to ask a sex question

    where is munchies.. I need munchies *nods*
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    Apr 21, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    I think what a lot of people forget when it comes to anal sex is the anatomy of it.

    In the supine position (stomach up) the rectum curves up. So if your penis curves up naturally supine positions (like missionary) or "riding" so he is facing you will be the most comfortable for the bottom. However if your penis curves down, the opposite will be more comfortable.

    Most importantly, the anus (the outer portion) immediately contracts upon contact and needs time (for beginners) to relax. So it is imperative to take it slow at first entry and use plenty of lube - lubricating the penis, condom (inside and out), and the (inside) rectum and the (outside) anus.

    Another consideration is to use a female condom. I know.. you're like wtf?!

    But if you remove the support ring from the middle it can be much more comfortable and pleasurable for both than a traditional condom


    Here's a fun picture!

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    Apr 21, 2009 3:09 AM GMT
    Now, Dr JrdnS, what sort of precautions should a new bottom take besides of course, lubricant, protection and being gentle.. or more importantly, what can the top do besides lubricant, protection and being gentle to make sure he doesn't erm.. damage his bottom

    and is questions I never thought I'd actually ever ask..
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    Apr 21, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    You both are just going to have to take it slow and work up to the um... rougher/faster kind of intercourse.

    You could also try products with mild pain relieving properties like analeaze to help deal with soreness on his part. If you can, you can try penetration while not fully erect, erect insertion and allowing the penis to become "less" erect while inside.

    He could experiment with gradually increasing sizes of toys. This would allow him to essentially practice at any reasonable private time of his choosing.

    But you both have to acknowledge that in order for it to become both easy and more pleasurable it does take time to stretch and fortify the rectum. And any discomfort should be addressed immediately by either slow removal of the penis, or just going slower and shallower in general.

    It is also helpful to insert a finger before hand (no pun intended). This will help him become more used to that initial discomfort and the removal discomfort. At the same time, it is important at this point to not partake in penetration that involves repeated exit and entry. That can be really harsh on the tissues of the anus.
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    Apr 21, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    It's also important for him to eat a high fiber diet. This will keep the rectum and anus cleaner and will help over time make anal sex more comfortable.
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    Apr 21, 2009 4:23 AM GMT
    You know, I was the "only my third time" guy as a bottom for about 6 guys in a row before they started to notice...

    And I've been the "third guy" for many others as a top. Something magical about that number, if you know what I mean. icon_wink.gif

    I'm sure he'll warm right up. icon_twisted.gif
    Just take him slow at first, let him sit on it for a little while, then show him a few things.
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    Apr 21, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    lil canker, i feel sorry for the poor pig your fucking....
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    Apr 21, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
    hehehe hes very enthusiastic, he struggles but much like a trooper he handles it hahaha umm, was just scared about hurting him..

    Onslaught, I know your jealous, its alright, your allowed to be, but if you attempt to insult another guy I'm with again I wont bother being very nice to you anymore.

    pyrotech saidYou know, I was the "only my third time" guy as a bottom for about 6 guys in a row before they started to notice...

    And I've been the "third guy" for many others as a top. Something magical about that number, if you know what I mean. icon_wink.gif

    I'm sure he'll warm right up. icon_twisted.gif
    Just take him slow at first, let him sit on it for a little while, then show him a few things.

    hahaha dun worry.. hes to stupid to try and play games.. and it doesn't help that I know his first and second and how crap they are in bed (yeah odn't ask how I found that one out) hes a legit newbie..
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    Apr 21, 2009 9:43 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    hahaha dun worry.. hes to stupid to try and play games.. and it doesn't help that I know his first and second and how crap they are in bed (yeah odn't ask how I found that one out) hes a legit newbie..


    lol, Well then, take 'em easy. And if he's easy, take 'em twice. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 21, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    Try a variety of positions for maximum pleasure for both of you. I like to start face down on the bed with his whole body pressed on top of me, then roll to my side and have him straddle my lower leg while holding my upper one out of the way and nibbling on my calf muscles.