Marry a lesbian friend to keep up appearances for career?

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    Apr 21, 2009 1:57 AM GMT
    Yesterday a guy I'm seeing told me that he and his best friend of 20 years, a lesbian, have an agreement to possibly have a child together by the time they turn 30...I'm fine with that, I think its great....HOWEVER, they have also discussed the notion to marry each other for appearances since they both hope to get into the entertainment industry.

    Their plan: Get married (without the ceremony) so that they can say that they are married to the media and/or accompany each other to events for appearances to deflect any media gossip/suspicion on each of them being gay. Similar to entertainers that bring "girlfriends" to events while their lovers follow close behind as if in their "entourage"...There's no love involved, no sex, no living together even, She has her lover and so would's strictly for appearances...

    My immediate reaction was to tell that marriage to deflect rumors was extreme since he is fully masculine and he plans on having kids. Rumors will come even if he was married since we see that all the time with celebrities. What seems to work is to Deny, Deny, Deny.....But then I thought about it some more, is making these plans putting the cart before the horse? Isn't it too soon to be making plans to deflect gay rumors for successful entertainment careers they don't even have yet?

    Outside of the forum argument of society being so screwed up that people have to resort to this...How do you feel about this from both the perspective of the guy considering marriage and the perspective of the lover that is asked to go a long with it...?
  • Hunter9

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    Apr 21, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    if you marry a women, where's the benefit of being gay?
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    Apr 21, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
  • DrobUA

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    Apr 21, 2009 3:50 AM GMT
    hahaha yea.. I'd get the career first. You don't need to worry about something when there's a 95% chance you will be like everyone else that tries to make it in in that business. Having said that if by some chance you did make it why not make it public and use your fame to do something good for your community? I don't think its a huge secret that there are a lot of gays in the entertainment industry. Unless you are going for the role of teen heart throb I wouldn't worry about it effecting your career.
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    Apr 21, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    We need more prominent, legitimate gay males in the media anyway. No one has an issue with Sir Ian McKellen being gay because he's an absolutely wonderful actor. Having more openly gay males in movies, on the radio, or on TV would only be beneficial to any cry for equality that we sound. There's less for people to fear if they see that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay.