cedrick saidI was with this guy and the sex was going pretty good . But when I pulled out to change position I started to smell something then I went soft i told him I was done but I could not say why should I of told him or what need to say i never went back to the bedroom what do you think I should of done Dear Abey........
First, I hope the spoon had a condom on it. Not only safer, but otherwise the peanut butter experience could be even more gross. Second, you make it sound like it's not your first anal experience, so you must already know there's often at least a little odor, with some slight soiling possible.
If you really wanna continue having sex with this guy, you're gonna hafta tell him at some point that he needs to cleanse better before sex. If this was a 1-night trick then it's a moot point, and you were correct to save him the embarrassment (assuming he would be) by keeping it to yourself, and just ending it.
And when your dick goes soft, for whatever reason, it's trying to tell you something, usually that you fundamentally don't wanna be doing something, and/or to be with someone. The Peter Meter is fairly honest & reliable, and isn't easily persuaded by our compromises & rationalizations, so I usually follow its recommendation. You didn't like the experience, and shouldn't feel bad about that.