Asses are not nearly as attractive in real life... advice?

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    Apr 22, 2009 10:29 AM GMT
    Umm...

    I haven't had anal sex yet. Basically when I look at guys in real life, it doesn't excite me like porn. Say, if I see a guy in a movie bending over and his crack shows, it's hot. But if it's in real life, it's whatever. I can be impressed with a guy's butt in real life, but certainly not enough to think about rimming/anal sex.

    Which is weird because in porn I find it hot.

    Does anyone get what I'm talking about?

    I just know the things that come out of there and it's a major turn off. I AM attracted to anal sex overall but only in porn.

    Maybe it's because I know subconciously that in porn, they're totally clean for sure... I don't know. Help? Has anyone got past that problem?
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    Apr 22, 2009 10:50 AM GMT
    I do NOT have this problem. In fact, I think a man's nicely-shaped bare butt is one of the most beautiful sights in the world. Depending upon the mood I'm in, I may find his posterior view more attractive than his frontal. And I don't have to be thinking of poking my nose or dick up there; I just love the mere sight of it.

    You may have answered your own question: you are projecting certain acts upon the ass that you find unappealing in real life. So naturally in person the naked bum loses interest for you.

    But not every crack is an invitation to enter further. I've known lots of men who wanted no intrusions in that regard, yet a firm grip upon their muscular mounds was not unwelcome, either, which I am always happy to provide.

    Take each man as you find him, wholly and in all his separate parts. And consider the male ass as art, not anally. A feast for the eyes, not the follow-up to porn.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 22, 2009 10:55 AM GMT
    Careful ... you're gonna start expecting the airbrushed version of sex to be real
    Even the porn stars don't look exactly like that and don't have sex in exactly that way
    There are camera angles that come into play and lighting
    Most of which we don't have in our bedrooms
  • GoodPup

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    Apr 22, 2009 12:43 PM GMT
    I totally know what you are talking about.. but for me it is cock.
  • rnch

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    Apr 22, 2009 3:01 PM GMT
    when u find the right guy; you will discover that ALL his body parts are attractive to you. icon_cool.gif

    just keep looking. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 12:08 PM GMT
    I agree with the previous posting. When you find the right guy, all his parts are attractive. I never considered myself an "ass" man, until I met my boyfriend. He has a perfect ass..and i give little to no thought to the natural function that it serves in the bathroom.

    We take turns bottoming, and both prepare in advance, so that we are clean for the other.

    And the flesh is so much better than the movies...believe me
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    Apr 23, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    Right now, real anal sex is not a reality for you. It is a fantasy of something to happen in future.

    Porn sex is a reality. You can watch it anytime you like on your computer screen.

    So, of course the known gets you going and the unknown turns you off. Go get laid. Lots and lots of hot, safe sex. Then, those airbrushed boys wont seem so perfect.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 23, 2009 12:52 PM GMT
    Like any part of the body, it can be attractive to look at or not.
  • rnch

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    Apr 23, 2009 1:05 PM GMT
    fitnhot saidI agree with the previous posting. When you find the right guy, all his parts are attractive. I never considered myself an "ass" man, until I met my boyfriend. He has a perfect ass..and i give little to no thought to the natural function that it serves in the bathroom.

    We take turns bottoming, and both prepare in advance, so that we are clean for the other.

    And the flesh is so much better than the movies...believe me
    yrh u rite! icon_cool.gificon_lol.gificon_wink.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 1:06 PM GMT
    you´re looking at the wrong asses...

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    Apr 24, 2009 3:19 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidyou´re looking at the wrong asses...

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    Preach on brother. I love rimming, fingering, and fucking a hot ass.

    I am the opposite. When an asshole winks on a porno, I am so turned off. And when it is this big gaping chasm...yeah, gross!icon_eek.gif