Ever date a psycho?

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    Apr 23, 2009 12:02 PM GMT
    Whats your story?

    I've dated many guys that when i try to break it up with them , they go crazy. Alot of the time im scared to date guys and it takes me a while to actually bring them to my house because alot of guys ive met end up stalking or harassing me after i break up with them. Another one i hate is harrassing text mesages and emails.

    How do you guys stop that from happening?
    should i just beat him up or something.
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    Apr 23, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    before or after ur weight-loss?icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    Beat them up? That could lead to your being thrown in jail. Does the term restraining order mean anything to you.

    Unless he is the aggressor and you are defending yourself, you could be
    facing at assult charges.

    As far as the text messages and emails are concerned. Don't read them or listen to them just delete them.
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    Apr 23, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    Uhm, just to emphasize that Ducky's correct, my last BF (my first psycho) DID attack me and spent three nights in jail. And then, he was mad at ME.

    So, as the saying goes, "let's be careful out there".

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    Apr 23, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    I've briefly dated three different guys that had some serious psychological issues. One thing that I have noticed though, crazy people tend to be damned good in the sack.icon_razz.gif

    The first one was probably bi-polar. I'm not qualified to make that diagnosis, but I have two family members who are and the indicators seem to be consistent. There was a lot of yelling, crying, drug use and tantrums. . He once chased me 10 blocks after spotting me on the street screaming and crying at me because I wouldn't get back together with him. He also once handcuffed me naked and shaved all my body hair off with a straight razor. Why did I date him for 3 months? The sex was mind blowing.


    The second one told me shortly after we started dating that he was being treated of bi-polar disorder and OCD. I approached it with an open mind and we had a lot of fun for a couple weeks. Then one afternoon I was at an animation festival with a friend and had my phone off. He new about the animation festival because I had been excited about it for weeks. When I didn't answer my phone, he left 5 messages within 10 minutes of each other each one angrier and more accusatory than the last. I got the messages and tried to call him back, but he didn't answer his phone. Two days later he called me and told me he had checked into the hospital for psychiatric evaluation because dating me made him want to kill himself and/or me. Again, the sex was amazing.icon_lol.gif


    The third was was bi-polar and admitted it to me on our first date. He was actually an extremely sweet guy. A few weeks into dating him he started becoming rather withdrawn and only seemed to be really happy when we were having sex. Which was okay because the sex was incredible. Then one day he dropped off the face of the earth. No return phone calls or e-mails for two months. When he did get back to me he told me he had gone on a meth bender and was too ashamed to talk to me afterward. It didn't really go anywhere after that.icon_lol.gif

    The moral of the story? Dating me seems to exacerbate any and all preexisting psychological disorders.
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:07 PM GMT
    No, but someone who I thought was just a close friend thought we were dating and turned out to have a serious obsession with me - to the point of saving all our e-mail correspondences, all my posts to a message board we both frequented and every picture of me from facebook to her hard drive. She also got into my facebook account and read all of my messages. I could never figure out why she would get so upset when I did things with other people and didn't go out of my way to include her in them... Ultimately it got to the point of her threatening to harm herself when I wasn't around her...

    Edit: Haha, I forgot to include, I wasn't out to her (and she still doesn't know, although I wonder if I had just told her if things would have ended faster...)
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    Yea, I briefly dated someone who was a little crazy, obsessive and posessive. I finally used some reverse psychology, and told him I wanted to make it work, and he broke up with me. Then he told me we could still "love" eachother, and all this other crap. Um, no dude, you dumped my arse remember?icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    from

    fmylife.com

    "Today, I went on a date with a guy for the first time. We went to Starbucks and got coffee. We talked for awhile, and we weere joking and having a good time. Suddenly, he put his hand on my stomach and said, "soon, this will be plump with my seed." FML"

    now thats a psycho! haha
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    I've told this story before in an RJ thread. Not sure if this guy was a genuine psycho, but he scared me well enough.

    We'd talked a number of times at a gay bar where he was a bartender in 1995. One afternoon, as his shift ended at 4 PM, he asked if I'd like to go over to his nearby house. I agreed.

    He gave me a quick tour of his place, that ended in his bedroom. Soon we were undressed and making out on the bed.

    He was a bottom, and as I entered him doggie-style he started YELLING loudly that I was the biggest guy he'd ever had, in obvious joy. Naturally this pleased me initially.

    But as I fucked him he continued SCREAMING, at the top of his lungs, that he LOVED me, and wanted me to "marry" him (not legally possible in that state). And that I should rent a U-Haul truck the very next day, and move all my things into his place without delay! And this all the while I'm fucking him for the first time!

    I quickly got turned off, and actually a bit frightened at his nearly hysterical ravings, and could feel myself going soft. I faked an orgasm and pulled out, quickly heading to the bathroom to dispose of the condom, that I covered with my hand to hide the lack of cum inside it.

    Returning to the bedroom I suggested he take his own turn in the bathroom to clean up. Once he went in there I scrambled into my clothes as fast as I could, and raced for the front door. He caught me in the middle of the living room heading for the door.

    I lied that I had just remembered a dinner engagement for that night, and had to leave immediately. He begged for me to stay, but I bolted out the door, and still being stark naked he wasn't able to follow after me.

    I ran outside and leapt onto my motorcycle like it was a horse in a scene from a cowboy movie, hight-tailing it out of town as fast as I could. I never saw him again.
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
    lol i wasnt serious about the beat him up comment btw...
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:43 PM GMT
    all of them have been... less than sane. i feel like the only one of my kind lol.
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:43 PM GMT
    all these stories remind me of that movie thats about to come out "obsessed"
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    Apr 23, 2009 4:51 PM GMT
    I havent had situations as bad as the ones described but I did have one person I started dating who after just a week of meeting and dating and.. other stuff (hehe) that he started texting me 10 times a day. My job is the kind that I usually cant answer the phone while working. One time I made the mistake of ending the call with my usual greeting of "love ya bye" which is say to almost everybody that I know( family, friends, etc people who arent necessariy the love of my life). He texted me and said, " did you really mean that ?". He took the end greeting to mean that I was in love with him. It was really weird because I have never had to sit down with someone and explain that we are on two different wave lengths. Personally I have never jumped to those conclusions. My experience after that one heart to heart talk ended with him leaving me alone and no other damage done. So my experience came out relatively tame compared to the ones posted here but still just dont understand how people jump to a 'relationship" level and obsessive level within a short amount of time. I kind of like to take it slow.
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    Apr 23, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    My ex is a mean drunk. A few Bud Lites and he was still fine. But, add a couple shots on top of that, and it was like throwing a switch in his brain to full-on psycho mode.
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    Apr 23, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    Another anecdote, that I'm not sure rises to the level of being a psycho, but certainly eccentric in my book. A guy who remains my friend today, maybe because "it takes one to like one." LMAO!!!

    As we woke up after our first night in bed, he sheepishly confessed to me that he wasn't 42-years-old as he had claimed, but actually 52. I started to cry, and he mistakenly thought I was upset.

    I explained I was crying for joy, because I was 54 myself, liked him very much, but had been afraid I was too old for him. I said my waking up to find him really 52 was like some kind of miracle had happened overnight, because I prefer men close to my own age, and I continued crying for quite a while. I can be such a pansy! LOL!

    But then he directed me that I had to always tell everyone that he was 42. Well, OK, I could do that, even though he was an old-looking 42.

    Next he said he was working with a doctor so he could live to be 160 years old. Of course that's impossible at present, and when I expressed doubt he bluntly told me that I had to accept that as a fact, or we couldn't ever be friends. I decided to humor him.

    A little later he snapped at me for having corrected him about something. He explained that from the age of 13 he had declared that no one could ever correct him. If I criticized or doubted him in any way, about anything, I could never be his friend. This was another novelty for me, but I decided out of mischievous curiosity to let it pass, and see what would develop.

    It took a year before he started to let me criticize him, and now he invites me to do it all the time, saying I'm his best and most trusted advisor, though we are no longer boyfriends.

    He still insists he will live to be 160, but I no longer care, so long as he is happy. He also continues to lie about his age, which has become a joke, since everyone who knows us both says I look younger than him, despite my being nearly 3 years older.

    But I let all this pass, because I do love him, and admire him, and he is my friend. Maybe I'm as eccentric as him? LOL!
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:15 PM GMT
    Yeah, I know all about this topic. One guy i dated briefly wanted me to move in with him after just a short period of time.
    One time, when I came home, I had 40 messages on my answering machine from him, all sent the night previous.
    Unfortunately, I did move in with him. And he changed into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He could be sweet one minute and mean the next.
    Usually, in bed he was a pussycat. But during the day he was very authoritative and demanding
    Once, he said if I ever left him, he would kill me.
    Needless to say, I got out of that mess as fast as possible.
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    Well, I'd like to think of my last relationship a bit of a phsyco one. Except I was the aggressive one. He was 50 years old im 26 we dated a year things were great but I always felt he used me as an accessory to get attention from younger guys. We broke up now and he has been hitting up 19 year olds but during our relationship I broke so much shit and obsessively try to catch him cheating on me. I am so glad that period is over. Psycho dates say alot about a guys personality, controlling & manipulative and I happen to be both. j/k
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:35 PM GMT
    Several...Worst being


    I flew 5 hours to see him..he was nowhere to be found I spent three hours sitting in a hotel lobby before I tracked him down, drunk and lost wandering round the streets. He wanted to have sex in a room with 3 other people pretending to sleep while we fought. I said no, he didn't take it, I spent the night in a hallway. He tried to rape me I told him he could go fuck himself, he punched me in the face...

    Long story short i ran away and was at the airport a wreak waiting for the 7am flight with a bloody nose black eye and in tears
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:50 PM GMT
    Being a psycho is one of my top 3 criteria to make me interested in someone
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:51 PM GMT
    a better question is, "have you ever NOT dated a psycho?"

    lol
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    I was stalked by a psycho-pathectic-cookoo-bird for 6 years. He broke into my house, stole things, etc. Made my life hell. Eventually I told him that if he did not leave me alone I would kill his parents. I have not heard from him since.
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    My friends made me buy and wear a 'psycho boyfriend magnet' T-shirt after the last guy I dated for a while. I broke up with him because he was psychotically insecure. If I hung up on him after receiving an abusive rant, he'd drive over to my house and bang on the door in the middle of the night. This happened 3 times. Another similar time, he called me 103 times in a three hour period after I said I didn't want to talk to him.
    I told him something personal in a vulnerable moment and he used it against me - not acceptable. I'd never do that to anyone.
    He never believed what I told him once he had decided what 'the truth' was, good or bad. It didn't matter that there was not only no merit to his belief, but there was tangible proof. Also, he didn't seem to believe that he needed to live up to the same distorted standard that he'd hold me to.
    It's too bad because I don't think that he was a bad person, just someone who's insecurity and self-loathing were manifested in wildly erratic behavior. I did feel for him, but I couldn't deal with defending myself against fantasies and delusions.
    About 10 months after we broke up and 6 months since the last contact, my dog died and he sent me, out of the blue, a nasty horrific email meant to hurt me regarding the loss of my dog. As bad as I felt about my dog, this made me laugh since I realized not only that it had no effect, but also how absurdly juvenile it was.
    I hope he's happy now, where ever he is.
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    I am never dating..... thank gawd!
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI am never dating..... thank gawd!



    shhhh, now just put the fucking lotion in the basket.
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:55 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    lilTanker saidI am never dating..... thank gawd!



    shhhh, now just put the fucking lotion in the basket.

    hahahahehehehehe icon_biggrin.gif

    but where did I put the lotion... icon_eek.gif