Stolen Boyfriend..by Best Friend

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    Apr 23, 2009 6:07 PM GMT
    What do you do when your best friend steals your under your nose..
    Now the relationship between is going bad, your former best friend is askng you for advise...Would you help?
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:21 PM GMT
    No, I wouldn't help.
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:26 PM GMT
    I would be so mad and fantasize what I would do to both if I could.. but I would calm down and realize what just happened to me isn't necessarly a bad thing. It happens for a reason if you are looking for someone to treat you right this situation will make you stronger and give room for a person that does deserve you. I would not talk to any of them and just go on with my life. Plus I would bet that my ex has no boundaries so he and my ex best friend can have a good life with their trust issues. Que sera, Sera (whatever will be, will be)
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:43 PM GMT
    First of all this person could not be much of friend if he did something thatlow down. So no I would not help as a matter of fact we would not even be friends. What goes around comes around in triplett!
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:47 PM GMT
    Meh, help him if you feel like. If your advise doesn't help then you'll probably get blamed, but then again he stole your bf, so he probably deserves it.
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    Apr 23, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    You should give some details.

    What do you mean he stole your boyfriend?
    Were the two of you just dating and it didn't work out?
    Were you both a couple and then broke up?
    Did he sleep with your best friend while you were going out and then became a couple?

    Otherwise it doesn't make any sense.
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:01 PM GMT
    Ghen saidMeh, help him if you feel like. If your advise doesn't help then you'll probably get blamed, but then again he stole your bf, so he probably deserves it.


    Break the cycle and don't respond to it and keep moving on! I've been in this situation and if you even give time to what hurt you it validates their relationship as ok. If you are ok with it then waist your time but if this really hurt you or you are still working through the pain. Take the time to be by yourself and save the confusion and look away & move on.- hope this helps
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]MunchingZombie said[/cite]You should give some details.

    What do you mean he stole your boyfriend?
    Were the two of you just dating and it didn't work out?
    Were you both a couple and then broke up?
    Did he sleep with your best friend while you were going out and then became a couple?

    Otherwise it doesn't make any sense.[/quo

    My ex boy friend and I were in a relationship..I travel alot due to work..While away my best and boy friend decided to keep each other warm...Which progressed into an affair ..found out about and broke up with my boyfriend..

    Hope it makes some sense...
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:47 PM GMT
    Off with their heads!

    You owe them nothing...move on.
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:50 PM GMT
    It makes perfect sense.

    Your boyfriend and your friend are pieces of shit.

    A friend does not do that to another. You need to cut him out of your life and move on. It might be painful, but if he is willing to fuck your boyfriend and still call himself your friend then he isn't worth your time.

    I am sorry you are going through this.
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:51 PM GMT
    Lol! exactly. You need to move on. Stop thinking about it, you owe it to yourself to give yourself some time alone. Do not jump into I forgive you, we can be friends, mabye its me thing. Take some time to feel what you need too alone. Don't call him even if you feel like talking and feel like you are ok.. you need to keep steppin, if you really love him and are willing to trust him again then "fool me badly one shame on you, fool me badly twice shame one me."
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    Apr 23, 2009 7:58 PM GMT
    Night_Rider saidWhat do you do when your best friend steals your under your nose..
    Now the relationship between is going bad, your former best friend is askng you for advise...Would you help?


    Move on.

    There's lots of different angles on this with almost none of them being good.

    Save the drama for another life.

    Remember you choose, whether, or not, you wanna' be miserable, fat, happy, skinny, big. You're in control.

    A smart man would move on.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    if he stole my guy... i doubt i'd help.. i wouldn't consider him a best friend after that.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    Don't deal with shitbags. Karma is a bitch, and will come back to hurt them eventually.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:07 PM GMT
    Neptune23 said
    Ghen saidMeh, help him if you feel like. If your advise doesn't help then you'll probably get blamed, but then again he stole your bf, so he probably deserves it.


    Break the cycle and don't respond to it and keep moving on! I've been in this situation and if you even give time to what hurt you it validates their relationship as ok. If you are ok with it then waist your time but if this really hurt you or you are still working through the pain. Take the time to be by yourself and save the confusion and look away & move on.- hope this helps


    Or he could crush his enemy, see him driven away, and hear the lamentations of his man.

    (please add the necessary butch voice)
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
    I'd tell him to come over so we can talk about it...and then punch him in his junk.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:09 PM GMT
    Ghen said
    Neptune23 said
    Ghen saidMeh, help him if you feel like. If your advise doesn't help then you'll probably get blamed, but then again he stole your bf, so he probably deserves it.


    Break the cycle and don't respond to it and keep moving on! I've been in this situation and if you even give time to what hurt you it validates their relationship as ok. If you are ok with it then waist your time but if this really hurt you or you are still working through the pain. Take the time to be by yourself and save the confusion and look away & move on.- hope this helps


    Or he could crush his enemy, see him driven away, and hear the lamentations of his man.

    (please add the necessary butch voice)


    Being hateful and vindictive / warring is almost never a win.

    Just FYI, it's "waste" (for wasting time), as opposed to "waist." Don't you just hate those five letter words?

    The situation of the poster requires distance. He needs to get as far away from his traitorous acquaintances as need be.

    As you grow more mature, and have time to reflect, you'll likely consider that the separation of your ex-boyfriend, and your non-friend, from you, was a very good thing. It often takes a bit to come to that resolution, however.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    Wow...sounds like your former best friend must have some gigantic brass balls to ask you for advice. No, I would not help. He showed no consideration or respect for you....why should you show any in return?
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:27 PM GMT
    find a new best friend and date better guys icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:30 PM GMT
    It's ironic that the best friend is prolly living through what he put you through.
    The sting and stench of Betrayal. It's hurts and it sure smells funny!
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:31 PM GMT
    Put as much distance as you can between both of them. And move on. You don't need that kind of misery. If you don't, shame on you.
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    Apr 23, 2009 8:58 PM GMT
    I'd thank them.

    Thanks goes to the ex-bf for showing how little he respects you.

    Thanks goes to the friend for showing what a douche he is and for helping you to see you're better off without him.
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    Night_Rider saidWhat do you do when your best friend steals your under your nose..
    Now the relationship between is going bad, your former best friend is askng you for advise...Would you help?


    are they hot? is there a chance for a three-way?





    makes a lot of difference
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:21 PM GMT
    (reads forum headline- becomes ghetto)

    "AWH hell naw!" (throws up GIANT peace sign)

    "You steel my man and then have the audacity to ask me for advice! Who you tryna fool? WOW, talk about selfish, insensitive, and just plain IGNANT to respecting others. How is you friends with this creep? Block/Delete/Ignore.......This "friend" done getting what was coming to them......You should feel no ways sorry for them. This sit-chi-ation done did itself right."

    (returns to a normal composure)

    In other words, your advice to your "friend" - "O WELL" icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 23, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    No way.. What goes around comes back around..