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Older men dating young guy craze (vice-versa)

  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    What do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?
  • Alpha13 Posts: 3475
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    If it a fad it is predicated by the young guys...at least in my case. I have been experiencing a greater than 20 year spread but i'm not a sugar daddy. Strictly man to man..
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    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 10:22 PM GMT
    My partner is significantly older than me. He has several older friends and I asked him why they don't hook up with each other? He claims older guys usually don't go for each other "Because they don't have to". He believes there will always be an older-for-younger/younger-for-older guy market and that's just the way it will be.
  • MuchMoreThanM... Posts: 20968
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    Dating older guys never meant that the older guy had his shit together emotionally or psychologically. I used to believe that this would have been the case, however, I found out through experience that I was way off base. I used to be drawn to older men but not really the case anymore.

    I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.
  • withHonor Posts: 947
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    My man is older than me, and I did have a situation which my FORMER trainer and once former friend though he was my sugar daddy. He just showed how much of a jerk he is by judging Us. And when my man and I started dating, I paid for most of our meals so in the beginning I was the sugar baby.
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    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 10:26 PM GMT
    i just feel like such a cougar at 26 now that my ex is running around wih 19 year olds.
  • styrgan Posts: 2017
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 11:35 PM GMT
    A craze??

    When I was dating my ex (who had me by about twenty years), just about all my friends, older and younger, took the time to be judgmental twats...

    I think there's a spike because there are more incentives for co-mingling among generations, but that is hardly a "craze"
  • DrStorm Posts: 185
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle said

    I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.


    Well, not only did you just contradict yourself, but you also make a gross generalization about older guys dating younger guys. Perhaps you were only attracted to "twatty, skanky" old men?

    I have two friends in their 60s who have been in LTRs > 10 years with guys in their 30s and both are fine, upstanding, respected men. They are not sugar daddies and both actually happen to be with younger guys who preferred older, more mature men.

  • styrgan Posts: 2017
    QUOTE Apr 23, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    DrStorm said
    muchmorethanmuscle said

    I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.


    Well, not only did you just contradict yourself, but you also make a gross generalization about older guys dating younger guys. Perhaps you were only attracted to "twatty, skanky" old men?

    I have two friends in their 60s who have been in LTRs > 10 years with guys in their 30s and both are fine, upstanding, respected men. They are not sugar daddies and both actually happen to be with younger guys who preferred older, more mature men.



    Yeah. I totally agree. The incentives tend not to be about money (for younger guys) or an immature longing for one's youth or something "pretty" (in the case of older guys).
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:15 AM GMT
    Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?


    Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

    A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
    That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
    Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

    There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
    Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    I generally am attracted to younger guys and always have been. But there's a definite limit for me. I couldn't see myself dating someone more than about 12 years younger, and even that's a real stretch. I'm comfortable going out with someone 8 to 10 years younger, and up to my own age.

    I have to admit I'm a little baffled when I hear of couples with 20+ years difference in age, especially when it's someone in their 40s dating someone in their teens or early 20s.

    (Notwithstanding the above, there are many RJ guys in their early 20s I would gladly date).
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:23 AM GMT
    Dante_redux said
    Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?


    Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

    A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
    That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
    Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

    There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
    Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.

    Go back and read it again. He said someone who was 20 years older, as in a 26 year old and a 46 year old, not a 26 year old and a 20 year old.
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:25 AM GMT
    Global_Citizen said
    Dante_redux said
    Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?


    Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

    A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
    That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
    Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

    There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
    Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.

    Go back and read it again. He said someone who was 20 years older, as in a 26 year old and a 46 year old, not a 26 year old and a 20 year old.


    Ooops.. haha Didn't catch that obviously....
    I think I need to go back to bed.
    Thanks Global!

    (embarrassed)
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:27 AM GMT
    it sounds to me like your ex has the emotional maturity of a toddler. tends to be the case with men in their 40's who serially date men 20 years their junior
  • GQjock Posts: 11625
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    My first BF was 15 years older than me

    It depends on the people involved
    I feel that as long as both people work
    and there is not weekly allowance involved
    what's wrong with it?
  • charlitos Posts: 8934
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    he is not doing anything illegal and he is not forcing anybody to have sex with him. Anything else is not of our business.
  • GonzoTheGreat Posts: 12932
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    charlitos saidhe is not doing anything illegal and he is not forcing anybody to have sex with him. Anything else is not of our business.


    so you, uh, like older men Charlie?

  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2468
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:47 AM GMT
    We can only hope. I'm amazed that such hot young guys are not only willing to talk to me, but are hitting on me! In real life.
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
    My first boyfriend was 20 years older than me, I was 18. Yet, he was more of an emotional train wreck now that I look back into how our relationship progressed because of his alcohol addiction.

    Age shouldn't matter as long as it's in the legal limit and out of the mutual love and respect between two individuals.
  • torontoguy222... Posts: 408
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:01 AM GMT
    My first true love was 44, and I was 18 lol. We dated briefly, then continued a f*ck buddy relationship. Unfortunately, the feeling was not reciprocated. I still tend to be attracted to older guys. I think I was always quite mature for my age and I was lured to the maturity of an older man.
  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2468
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Younger and older are like yin and yang.
  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2468
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    translation. I hope torontoguy is a bottom :-)
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    I like older guys. Always taking applications. Please inquire within.
  • calibro Posts: 8888
    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    Dating is two-way street. It's not just older guys going after younger ones, but the younger guys have to seek out these older men as well. If two consenting adults choose to be in a relationship with each other then variables, such as age, should not be used to determine a pattern amongst others since it's specifically dealing with that relationship.
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    QUOTE Apr 24, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    i follow the half plus eight rule. it keeps me out of trouble.