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What do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?

If it a fad it is predicated by the young guys...at least in my case. I have been experiencing a greater than 20 year spread but i'm not a sugar daddy. Strictly man to man..

My partner is significantly older than me. He has several older friends and I asked him why they don't hook up with each other? He claims older guys usually don't go for each other "Because they don't have to". He believes there will always be an older-for-younger/younger-for-older guy market and that's just the way it will be.

Dating older guys never meant that the older guy had his shit together emotionally or psychologically. I used to believe that this would have been the case, however, I found out through experience that I was way off base. I used to be drawn to older men but not really the case anymore.

I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.

My man is older than me, and I did have a situation which my FORMER trainer and once former friend though he was my sugar daddy. He just showed how much of a jerk he is by judging Us. And when my man and I started dating, I paid for most of our meals so in the beginning I was the sugar baby.

i just feel like such a cougar at 26 now that my ex is running around wih 19 year olds.

A craze??

When I was dating my ex (who had me by about twenty years), just about all my friends, older and younger, took the time to be judgmental twats...

I think there's a spike because there are more incentives for co-mingling among generations, but that is hardly a "craze"

I would think that the older guy would be worried that the younger one would want greener pastures after a while.

muchmorethanmuscle said

I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.

Well, not only did you just contradict yourself, but you also make a gross generalization about older guys dating younger guys. Perhaps you were only attracted to "twatty, skanky" old men?

I have two friends in their 60s who have been in LTRs > 10 years with guys in their 30s and both are fine, upstanding, respected men. They are not sugar daddies and both actually happen to be with younger guys who preferred older, more mature men.

DrStorm said

muchmorethanmuscle said

I don't have judgment toward it but older guys that strictly go for younger guys are usually twatty skanks. They only care about something young and pretty and are not concerned with depth or character.

Well, not only did you just contradict yourself, but you also make a gross generalization about older guys dating younger guys. Perhaps you were only attracted to "twatty, skanky" old men?

I have two friends in their 60s who have been in LTRs > 10 years with guys in their 30s and both are fine, upstanding, respected men. They are not sugar daddies and both actually happen to be with younger guys who preferred older, more mature men.

Yeah. I totally agree. The incentives tend not to be about money (for younger guys) or an immature longing for one's youth or something "pretty" (in the case of older guys).

styrgan said Yeah. I totally agree. The incentives tend not to be about money (for younger guys) or an immature longing for one's youth or something "pretty" (in the case of older guys).

So, what exactly are the incentives?

Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?

Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.

I generally am attracted to younger guys and always have been. But there's a definite limit for me. I couldn't see myself dating someone more than about 12 years younger, and even that's a real stretch. I'm comfortable going out with someone 8 to 10 years younger, and up to my own age.

I have to admit I'm a little baffled when I hear of couples with 20+ years difference in age, especially when it's someone in their 40s dating someone in their teens or early 20s.

(Notwithstanding the above, there are many RJ guys in their early 20s I would gladly date).

Dante_redux said

Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?

Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.

Go back and read it again. He said someone who was 20 years older, as in a 26 year old and a 46 year old, not a 26 year old and a 20 year old.

Global_Citizen said

Dante_redux said

Neptune23 saidWhat do you think about a guy 26 who dated an attractive guy who was 20 years older? I was called gold digger in my previous relationship and now he is dating a 19 year old, is it a craze?

Reading the subject, I though you were refering to a peach fuzz teen hooking up with a grey haired gent. LOL

A twenty-six year old man dating a twenty year old man is NOT crazy.
That is supposed to be an OLDER man??
Try a twenty year old dating a fourty year old gent. That would be a better example.

There is no problem if a younger guy dates a more experienced man. Age is irrelivent when it comes to love.
Now if there are agendas behind the relationship, then there is a problem. They may not always be clear-cut either.

Go back and read it again. He said someone who was 20 years older, as in a 26 year old and a 46 year old, not a 26 year old and a 20 year old.

Ooops.. haha Didn't catch that obviously....
I think I need to go back to bed.
Thanks Global!

(embarrassed)

it sounds to me like your ex has the emotional maturity of a toddler. tends to be the case with men in their 40's who serially date men 20 years their junior

My first BF was 15 years older than me

It depends on the people involved
I feel that as long as both people work
and there is not weekly allowance involved
what's wrong with it?

he is not doing anything illegal and he is not forcing anybody to have sex with him. Anything else is not of our business.

charlitos saidhe is not doing anything illegal and he is not forcing anybody to have sex with him. Anything else is not of our business.

so you, uh, like older men Charlie?

We can only hope. I'm amazed that such hot young guys are not only willing to talk to me, but are hitting on me! In real life.

My first boyfriend was 20 years older than me, I was 18. Yet, he was more of an emotional train wreck now that I look back into how our relationship progressed because of his alcohol addiction.

Age shouldn't matter as long as it's in the legal limit and out of the mutual love and respect between two individuals.

My first true love was 44, and I was 18 lol. We dated briefly, then continued a f*ck buddy relationship. Unfortunately, the feeling was not reciprocated. I still tend to be attracted to older guys. I think I was always quite mature for my age and I was lured to the maturity of an older man.

Younger and older are like yin and yang.

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