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  • sportsjockla

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    Apr 24, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    What does it mean if a guy tells you he is to busy too see you?
    A) He is busy
    B) He is not interested
    C) He is seeing someone else
    D) All of the above
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    Apr 24, 2009 3:25 PM GMT
    B If he is interested, he will make time
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 24, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    I would say it could be any of the above.. but I would favor "B" as well.
    Regardless of the reason, he isn't interested enough to take the time to see you. I wouldn't wait around.
  • sportsjockla

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    Apr 24, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    Yeah, I figured as much. I just laugh now when guys say it and find myself saying it too
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    Apr 24, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    B

    If he was simply busy at that moment but wanted to see you, he would say my schedule is booked right now....and then follow it up with a suggestion of when he will be free.

    If he is seeing someone, I doubt he would say I am busy. He would say "I am seeing someone."
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    Apr 24, 2009 5:42 PM GMT
    Yea gay codes. Someone should create a thread on this in and of itself. I don't know enough. I do know...

    "Im busy" = "not interested"

    "I've been busy" = "I forgot you existed until fate with its sick sense of humor threw me back into this awkward situation where our paths crossed. Now I have to blurt out an excuse because I'm so full of myself I assume you wanted me to call you."

    "I'll call you." = "I have no intention of ever speaking to you again."

    "Let's go watch a movie." = "Let's have sex."
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    Apr 24, 2009 6:11 PM GMT
    To me its D. all of the above. Regardless of what is the specific meaning of the "busy" term, It basically means it's over.

    In fact, there were times I had to say "I'm busy" and I didnt want them to think it was a blowing you off kind of statement. I would actually add " I really mean this and I wanna have another get together on so and so date" I even might even add when I will be available like in 2 weeks or after this weekend , etc.

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    Apr 24, 2009 6:13 PM GMT
    I vote for B also.

    Of the 2 times I have asked guys out so far, this was the "polite" way that one of them decided to not see me. At least the the other guy had the courage to just say up front that he wasn't interested, and I have higher respect for that guy then the one who turned me down with brush-offs.
  • metta

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    Apr 24, 2009 6:14 PM GMT
    Could be A. or B. But if it is A, and he is interested, he should schedule something in or ask you to contact him after a certain period of time. If he does not do that, then it is probably B.

    I understand busy. icon_biggrin.gif



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    Apr 24, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'd go for A or B.

    A since I can me interested in someone but I need my me time so I fake being busy....or I guenuinely am busy.

    B since it's easier sometimes to say you're busy rather than to tell the other person that you are just not interested.

    ahhhh, the dating world is so much fun
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    Apr 24, 2009 6:29 PM GMT
    I'd go with B and probably C.

    Anyone who is busy but interested in you should be able to make time. if he was that busy to begin with he would never have even had the time to notice you in the first place to spark up a conversation. That's my logic anyway.
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    Apr 24, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    A) He is busy
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:32 PM GMT
    I'm surprised at the number of people who say that he could just make time.
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:37 PM GMT
    D, unless you KNOW he has cause to be really busy -- job, houseguests, President of the US, whatever.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Apr 24, 2009 7:52 PM GMT
    E) Any of the above, you really can't tell.

    This is the problem with people trying to spare each other's feelings. I'd far rather have a guy say "Sorry, but I'm not interested" than "I'm just too busy right now." The latter statement makes it sound like I should try again a few weeks later. Honesty's a lot easier to deal with. If you don't have the self-confidence to be able to handle either rejecting someone or being rejected gracefully, you don't have the maturity to be dating in the first place.
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:52 PM GMT
    B) He just not into YOU!

    If you really are interested in seeing a gay you would move heaven and hell to make it happen.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 24, 2009 8:11 PM GMT
    A or B.
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    Apr 24, 2009 8:16 PM GMT
    B
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    Apr 24, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    B
  • jgymnast733

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    Apr 24, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    It's B,
    cause thats what i tell the guys i'm really not into.......I guess i should just tell them i'm not interested but i dont want to hurt there feelings, so i use my job as an excuse...
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    Apr 24, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    Probably B . I get a lot of "Sorry I have plans with friends " too. Which always pisses me off since they were the one that hit on me initially and often they continue to show interest but any "date" request results in the same response. Are they doing that just to get off on the feeling of being desirable?
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    Apr 24, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    Definitely B
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    Apr 24, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    Of course it's B. If it were A or C he'd give you a more specific response. B is simply the generic polite brushoff, whose meaning and intent are presumably known to all.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 24, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    B)
    Absolutely.
    Otherwise, he'd find time; make time...
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    Apr 24, 2009 11:52 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    Runninchlt saidYea gay codes. Someone should create a thread on this in and of itself. I don't know enough. I do know...

    "Im busy" = "not interested"

    "I've been busy" = "I forgot you existed until fate with its sick sense of humor threw me back into this awkward situation where our paths crossed. Now I have to blurt out an excuse because I'm so full of myself I assume you wanted me to call you."

    "I'll call you." = "I have no intention of ever speaking to you again."

    "Let's go watch a movie." = "Let's have sex."

    You can add: "You're such a sweet guy." = "You're ugly."
    "You're so funny!" = "You're completely unfuckable."



    Mmmm. People are always saying I´m sweet and funny.

    I will go and cry now

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