CNN: "My bullied son's last day on Earth"

  • metta

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    Apr 24, 2009 5:35 PM GMT

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    "He told me, but he just got to the point where he didn't want me to get involved anymore because nothing was done," she said.

    Bermudez said she complained to the school about bullying seven or eight times, but it wasn't enough to save him.

    "It [apparently] just got worse and worse and worse until Thursday," she said. "Just to walk up to that room and see your baby hanging there. My daughter saw this, my baby saw this, my kids are traumatized."


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    Despite recent strides towards preventing bullying in schools and increased awareness programs, a Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network study showed that 65 percent of teens are bullied each year and most believe adults can't help them.

    Less than a month before Jaheem's death, a boy in Massachusetts killed himself after being bullied, harassed and called "gay."


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    http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/04/23/bullying.suicide/index.html
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    Apr 24, 2009 6:44 PM GMT
    No parent should out live a child. To lose your baby. It' just sickens me.
    These kids who bullied this young man to death will have to live with this for the rest of their lives. Their parents will have to do the same.!

    Such a tragic loss.icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    Let's think about this for a second. Remember when we were kids and some of us were taunted by things and words that are beyond comprehension. Kids are cruel. This isn't news, but have you ever considered where these kids get the crap that comes out or their mouths or the behavior they have picked? Sure from all sorts of mediums, but consider that the medium kids immulate or pick up language and behavior from is.....THEIR PARENTS!!!! Everytime a child dies, it takes a thread of fabric out of our society. But everytime a child dies because he or she is gay, we should be so angry that no a soul on Earth escapes our voices. Get involved people!!

    What is the worst that could happen to you? You just might experience some growth.
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:19 PM GMT
    Those bullies have to be dealt immediately, harsher punishments to make a model.

    In the book, Last Child in the Woods, author Richard Louv indicates that bullying only occurs in schools where the playground is desolate, grey concrete: like most public schools in the US, while those who are either park-based or green kept with shrubbery, trees, etc, including rural schools that are set on natural foliage, rarely experience bullying. The kids are preoccupied with adventures that they cast themselves and everyone has a role, independent of the their age.

    Portland Oregon has quite a few schools that relate to that, including Belmont school, where kids in their break work in a garden they plant, donate the goods to the homeless.

    Anyway, although bullying behavior in children may never be stopped, especially with ignorant parents that instill hatred in their offspring (off topic), the parents should be better informed of the school their kids go to. If there are signs of bullying, those parents are critical to the child's health and well being.

    If we can do anything as a nation, is borrow some conclusion so that the self murder of these innocent children be a lesson to follow for the rest.


    Further, bit off topic, but within boundaries, as a gay parent, this is information is vital. The choice of the school is very important, although I'm sure that others can better relate to that.


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    Apr 24, 2009 7:29 PM GMT
    You are absolutely right this child did not feel safe. He felt helpless. His being gay was even an issue. I would assume he was not. For the kid to have the frame of mind to hang himself is what gets me. Shaking head in profound disbelief.icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
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    Apr 24, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    Where are the parents at? lol! obviously there is more than one school, why is this particular parent complaining? be pro-active, go to the school daily, at different times, check on your child. I'm noticing more and more kids are picking up bad behaviors due to lack of supervision and absent parents in the home. Until we as people fix this problem, its gonna get worse.icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 24, 2009 8:16 PM GMT
    She did that. Several parents complained. In They live in Dekalb County and you can only attend schools in your district. She pretty much said and did that. Sounds like you are trying to blame the parent of the victim.

    Do you think she should have confronted these kids and their parents? These days if you do that you may get killed. The school had a responsibility to keep her child safe. They failed in that capacity.

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    Apr 24, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    I remember reading the original local news report when this happened - it was heartbreaking! I feel for the people involved. It's really upsetting!
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    Apr 24, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
    oceanboy11 saidThose bullies have to be dealt immediately, harsher punishments to make a model.


    These people who do this, based on the severity, intensity and graphic detail of how they sexually violated this child are predators. Sexual predators, as most of us know, start out very early and there is basically nothing that can be done to rehabilitate them. It's been tried for years.

    If these kids are older than 16 I say start making them register as sex offenders - they ruin kids' lives, let the courts ruin theirs. Make them spend the next 30 YEARS having to register every place they go - every city they move to - every address they live at - they are being watched, entire communities are notified, the only housing they will ever get for the next 30 years will be some dump above a 100 year old building downtown somewhere where other sex offenders and dregs of society live; they'll never be able to vote, the only jobs they will get will be street sweepers or tree planters, they can forget about higher education of any kind...sounds great to me.

    For those who say my opinion is harsh, remember - this kind of behavior - especially when it starts in mid-adolescence when it's almost impossible to reverse - only gets worse. Everything else has been tried to deal with these people aside from locking them up for life. This will send a very strong message to the next generations of kids who will see that, if you choose to behave this way, if you choose to sexually violate other people, there will be consequences that will last the better part of your life and every move you make will be controlled by the government and law enforcement. This is one of the only ways legally on the books today that can be used to deter this in the future. We can't just let these kinds of kids roam free to continue doing this over and over - that's why we are in this mess today. This whole 'model school thing' and restorative justice shit is just fluff - these offenders don't care. They thrive off of victimization. They will just do it again and again until they physically harm someone.