I hate to always come back to this, but the importance of this can not be minimized: if it's gay men you are talking about (concerning friendship), most never learned how to be a friend to anyone, even worse; many are emotionally at the maturity level of a 13 year old girl. This is absolutely a losing recipe for any kind of budding friendship: it's at my convenience, when I am not with someone better than you, when I've got nothing else to do, or when I want to feel good about myself so I call you up to go someplace so I can get stared at because I think I look better than you. These are grown men who do this - not 13 year old girls. But they might as well be.
While I value the discussions I have on here, this is why I have virtually no gay friends in real life. The ones I've met always, always, always flake out. They can't do friendships. They can't do relationships. Thank God they can't have children: they'd have then on diets at 8 years old and have their teeth whitened in 3rd grade. When you've never developed any 'real' people skills that encompass anything long term - you end up driving away anyone who would be good at teaching you some of those skills. Instead, many of us continue the same life that gay men have lived for the past 40 years - anonymity, move every couple years to a city you've heard is 'much better' than where you're currently at, little to no value for friends, because like relationships, these people mean nothing in the end and are replaceable, and the value system is that of 'get whatever I can out of this guy; I won't be living here in 2 years anyways, so I'll never see him again. Who cares!!''.
Because of this, I seriously do not see gay marriage ever working among the gay men who are adults at this point in time. Maybe the gay men in another 40-50 years who grow up under different circumstances and gender expectations. But right now? A very small percentage will ever reap any of the benefits. Nobody's ever learned how to be honest with other gay people - for most of us, lying and deceit is all we know, along with anonymity. You can't just erase those things in a day or a decade. It's part of a value system or beliefs of how other people deserve to be treated, and how you view yourself in terms of accountability. We are rarely held responsible for how we treat other gay men. If we can't even do friendships with each other, it's unlikely that many of us will find relationships that will last longer than 2-5 years. It's brutal honesty, but a LOT has to change before many of us take this 'marriage is a civil right' thing seriously. Just based on how we treat each other. And our priorities in choosing a partner, if that ever happens.