sydney_cider saidI personally do not understand cross dressing. Is it just the textures of the materials that people appreciate or just the fact that they look like the opposite sex?
I befriended some cross-dressers, one of whom was the First Sergeant (E-8 ) of a US Army Reserve company, which has served 2 tours in Iraq at last count. I got to know him at our local gay club, because he and 4 other cross-dresser friends of his would gather there for a monthly "tea" together.
They all claimed to be straight, but used our gay club because they were accepted & safe there, versus the ordinary red-neck bars in that area. And these guys did NOT make very convincing women, and didn't have a clue how to dress like one.
They'd all sit at a table together, each of them looking like a version of Dana Carvey's Church Lady from SNL, right down to their hats & handbags. We're not talking glamour girls here, but your great aunt Tillie.
Well, I would always visit with them (though most gays there wouldn't bother, just steered clear of them), especially because of my military connection with the First Sergeant, which is the most senior sergeant in a unit, and the Company Commander's right-hand man (or lady, in this case). Think Corporal Klinger from M*A*S*H, only with much more rank.
He was married with kids, and his Captain Company Commander knew about his cross-dressing "hobby" and ignored it, though it could have been grounds for discharge. In fact, the First Sergeant brought women's clothes to Iraq in his duffle bag, that he'd wear in private, or sometimes just the panties & bra under his uniform.
None of our church ladies could ever give me a clear reason for their interest in cross-dressing. But an important element was to do it in public, not just private, hence their monthly soirees to our gay club. And as I said, they all professed to being totally straight.
It was an interesting contrast to all the gay drag queens I knew, who kept their heels confined to the stage, and became men again off-stage. So that our drag queen cross-dresser at work, that I mentioned in a post above, is the sole exception I've ever encountered.
BTW, I've done some comic drag myself, and I've never had any desire to wear female clothing away from the stage. It's damn uncomfortable & impractical, whereas I love men's clothing, and being a man, too.