Nov 04, 2007 6:14 AM GMT
We exsist in a society that judges people on the merits of surface qualities i.e. Money. Clothes. He/she is "gorgeous". How big his arms, chest, abs, legs and how hot his ass are. I'll admit, I'm no exception to this mind set. This is the typical of the mind set of the vast majority. However, in realizing this pattern of behavior I begin to contemplate why is this so? Why do we have such an insatiable impression and appetite with wanting to look or be perfect? What do believe to be the true definition of perfection? I beg to ask these questions, because I am so very curious as to why are we as a society are so hungary for looking beautiful, pretty and perfect? Could it be that pop culture and "celebrity" feeds us that if you have a 31 inch waist, rippling wash board abs bulging biceps, and perfect pecs were are more than the person who doesn't? Or perhaps it's because we fear the possibility of just being yet another face in the crowd, and in order to stand out of the sea of millions upon millions, we must strive to not be just average? Now, don't get me wrong here fellas, I love a hot hard muscular male physic as much as the next guy. All you have to do is take a quick glance at how many of you on this site I think are "hot". But, I just can't help to contemplate this issue that plagues our society, not just the gay society, but society as a whole, of what the real true definition of what "pretty" or "beautiful" is. Furthermore, I wanted to dig past the surface qualities of what a man looks like on the outside and go beyond the qualities that very few of even dare to consider, yes, that is what's on the inside. I know, I know, this all sounds so cliche. But, lets face it, we all, okay, maybe not ALL of us, but a good portion of us react this way when we cruise guys. Now with my experiences with interfacing with many, many people I've come to the conclusion that, yes, there are many who are part of the "beautiful" ones that are traditionally pretty, or what we as society deems as "pretty", but are not so from the inside. In other words, their narcissism completely spoils what their good looks drew you to them in the first place. There are also those who are traditionally "beautiful" on the outside, but even more so from the inside as well. You noticed their insides as much as you noticed their handsome looks. And lastly, there are those who, by the majority of societal standards, are not traditionally "beautiful" from the outside, but radiate some kind of wonderful energy from within that makes them difficult to get lost in the sea of the handsome good looking ones. I had the wonderful pleasure to becoming friendly and acquainted with someone who is not "traditionally pretty" outside. However, after visiting with him I realized that his energy was something that I have not been in the presence of too often. More bluntly and to the point, I before meeting this person, I hadn't ever allowed myself the opportunity because of the judging first before knowing syndrome. After visiting with this funny, respectful, and down earth person, I began to feel guilty. Guilty for all the missed opportunities to connect on a whole and real level with many of whom I had dismissed and disregarded because of the way they look on the outside. Sadly, this has been my mindset for my whole life. Until now. After my visit with my new acquaintance and friend, I walked away with a new found understanding of how our subconscious thoughts the appearance effects our actions towards others. After my enjoyable visit with this person I couldn't help but to contemplate about how I view what a beautiful person looks like. A beautiful person is more than what he/she looks like outside...We all know in our minds, that what a person looks like outside are not the defining qualities as to the person they are wholly and completely. Well....okay, maybe a lot of us reserve this in the back of our minds, but a vast majority of us are intelligent enough to know this. AND, a vast majority of us are guilty of not taking the time to get to know someone because of our preconceived ideas of what we consider "pretty"....I always knew on a subconscious level, that good looks are NOT the deciding factor of how beautiful a person. But, sadly my actions and thoughts revealed otherwise. I am guilty, as are many others of prejudging someone based off of surface qualities before actually dig past the surface...So, with that said, why do you suppose this is? AND, after reading this, what is your definition of "beautiful" "pretty" in a person?